15 Signs Your Ex Misses You (and What to Do About It)

Look for signs your ex is missing you after the breakup

At any point after a breakup, especially if you haven't talked to your ex in a while, you might start wondering if they miss you. The answer to that question is probably "yes," but it doesn't always mean they want to get back together. We talked to dating coach Lisa Shield and relationship expert Joshua Pompey to find out more about how to tell if your ex misses you and what to do about it.

Does Your Ex Miss You?

Your ex may miss you if they start reaching out for no reason or engaging with your social media account. Most people start to miss their exes within a few months of no contact. However, make sure you’ve both taken the time to work on yourselves before considering a reunion.

Steps

15 Signs Your Ex Misses You

1. They contact you when it's not necessary. The best way to move on after a breakup is to break off all contact with your ex. If your ex not only hasn't done that but also contacts you frequently for basically no reason, it's a pretty clear sign that they miss you—or at least miss talking to you on a regular basis.^[1]
   
   • If they're contacting you frequently and you aren't interested in rekindling the flame, set boundaries regarding what kind of communication you're okay with.
   • Shield recommends letting them know that "that part of your relationship is over,” and that you’re “no longer... their confidante or [emotional] support system."^[2]
2. They always like and comment on your social media posts. Studies show that continuing to engage with your ex on social media after a breakup can increase your longing for them.^[3] If they're quick to respond to anything you post, it's likely they're missing you.
   
   • If you're not calling or texting them, they could see social media as the only way they have to hear from you or keep tabs on you.
   • They might also be going back through your social media accounts because they're looking back at memories from the times when the two of you were together.
3. They don't take down pictures of you on social media. After a breakup, a mutual purge of social media posts is pretty typical. You might not take down every single picture of the two of you together (especially group photos with other people), but if you're still featured prominently in your ex's primary profile photo? That's a sign they miss being with you.^[4]
   
   • While it might also mean that they're just not very active on social media, they likely would've logged on to do this if it was something that bothered them.
4. They keep "accidentally" running into you. When you're part of a couple, the two of you develop routines together. After a breakup, it's often super easy to predict where your ex is going to be based on those old patterns that you know. That means it's pretty easy to avoid each other but also pretty easy to run into each other—there's nothing accidental about it. If you keep bumping into each other, your ex might just be missing you and scheming up ways to see you.^[5]
   
   • Sometimes, it's just a matter of them wanting to see you again and nothing more. But if they want to rekindle your relationship, they might hope sparks fly if the two of you bump into each other.
5. They keep in touch with your family and friends. Keeping in touch with people who are close to you is a pretty easy way to keep up with what's going on in your life—especially if you're not returning your ex's calls or texts. Here you're not talking about mutual friends, but people your ex only knows through you.
   
   • This is more likely to indicate that your ex misses you if he's asking those people about you as well. For example, if your sister tells you that your ex randomly texted her the other day and asked about you, that's a pretty clear indication that your ex was missing you in that moment.
6. They respond immediately when you call or text them. It's not difficult to interpret being left on "read," and the opposite can be equally clear. If your ex responds immediately to your texts or picks up your call after the first ring, it typically means they're excited to hear from you—and that could be because they miss you. Hearing from you triggers their brain to release the same feel-good chemicals they got when the two of you were still in love.^[6]
   
   • If they haven't heard from you in a while, they might just be responding quickly because of that.
   • Being excited to hear from you or talk to you doesn't mean they're ready to get back together with you, but it does give you the opportunity to open the conversation if that's something you'd be interested in.
   • For example, you might say, "It seems like you're excited to catch up but I've gotta run right now. Did you want to meet for coffee later this week? It's been a while!"
7. They make up excuses to reach out to you or see you. Even if you're in a strict no-contact period, you're still human and understand that there might be times when you're literally the only one that your ex can call about something. But if this seems to be a recurring issue, it might be that they just wish they still had you in their life.
   
   • Within the first week or two after the breakup, it's more likely that your ex will have things they genuinely need to connect with you about—especially if you lived together or have children together.
   • After a month or so, your ex will typically run out of legitimate reasons they need to talk to you or see you—barring any continuing obligation the two of you share. This is when you can tell whether or not they’re digging for reasons to see you, which usually means that they miss you.
8. They're talking about you to other people. If you and your ex were together for a while, it's likely that you have a pretty large circle of mutual friends. It's one thing if they're asking your friends what you're doing right now, but if they're instead reminiscing about favorite moments in your relationship, that could be a sign that they're missing you.
   
   • Reminiscing also brings up all of those same old feelings they had when that moment happened, which can make them miss you even more while they're thinking back.^[7]
9. They've started working on something you used to bug them about. During the bargaining stage of grief after the end of your relationship, your ex might decide that they'll do anything to get you back. As a result, they start looking at things that you used to complain about and figure out a way to change those things in a way that you'll notice. They believe that you'll come back to them if you notice that change that they've made.^[8]
   
   • This is more likely to happen if you were the one who ended the relationship. But regardless of how your relationship ended, it's a sign that they're thinking about you and likely miss having you in their life so they want to make themselves more worthy of you.
   • In this stage, they might not be ready to recommit to a healthy relationship with you because they likely haven't done the real work that they need to do with themselves to figure out what role they played in the demise of your relationship.
10. They call or text late at night or when they're drunk. It's late, your ex is home alone and they've had a few drinks. Because alcohol lowers their inhibitions, they're going to find it a lot more difficult to resist the temptation of texting you. In fact, they might even be able to convince themselves that reaching out to you in this state is actually a good idea (because alcohol impairs your judgment as well).^[9]
    
    • It's usually best to ignore these calls and texts in the moment. You're not going to get anywhere with your ex if you try to talk to them while they're drunk.
    • If the calls or texts bothered you, bring them up the next day. For example, you might say, "Going a little hard last night? Feel alright today? I'll ignore it this once, but please don't call or text me that late again."
11. They propose being "friends with benefits." This is basically what people mean when they talk about someone wanting to have their cake and eat it too. Your ex likely misses your emotional support and physical affection, but not necessarily being in a relationship with you—and that's perfectly fine if you feel the same way.^[10]
    
    • If you want to get back together with your ex, being "friends with benefits" is probably not a good idea. You're far too likely to get your emotional signals scrambled and wind up getting heartbroken all over again.
    • On the other hand, if this sounds like something that would benefit your life and not confuse you emotionally, go for it!
12. They string you along without making any promises. If you've told them you're interested in getting back together, they might miss you if they're trying to keep you on the line. This is more likely if they're active on the dating scene—they could be trying to keep you on the back burner while they see what else is out there.
    
    • Keep in mind this doesn't necessarily mean they want to get back into a romantic relationship with you. It could just mean that they're trying to hedge their bets, in a way.
    • If you're in this situation, there's also a possibility that they'll start to realize that things with you weren't as bad as they thought they were.
13. They bring up the breakup frequently. If your ex is repeatedly asking to talk about the breakup with you, it's likely because they're not quite over you yet. This is especially likely if you broke up with them because they might think that they can rationalize you into changing your mind and getting back together with them.
    
    • If they're the one who broke up with you and they keep wanting to talk about the breakup, it could indicate that they're having second thoughts about ending the relationship.
    • Second thoughts could mean that they miss you and want to get back together, but it could also simply mean that they're lonely in general.
14. They've quickly jumped into a new relationship. A rebound relationship typically tells you that they're trying to get a quick ego boost rather than face the emotions they have surrounding the breakup.^[11] It could mean that they miss you or simply that they miss the familiarity of being in a relationship.
    
    • If you see that your ex is in a new relationship, take it seriously and give them space, even if you believe it's a rebound. If it is a rebound relationship, it's likely to fizzle out pretty quickly once your ex realizes that it's not making you jealous or upset.
15. They try to make you jealous. Whether they're flaunting a rebound relationship in your face or just posting dozens of pictures of their wild nights out on the town every night, they probably miss you if they seem like they're trying to make you jealous. It can be a way to try to make you miss them too.^[12]
    
    • If seeing all of this on social media bothers you, blocking your ex is a good way to respond. They won't know that you've blocked them and you won't have to worry about getting upset by their posts.

How to Make Your Ex Miss You

1. Give your ex some space. After a breakup, calling your ex or chatting with them on a regular basis isn't healthy for either of you. Whether you go full no-contact or not, both of you need time and space to heal from the breakup.^[13] And if you're trying to make them miss you, remember that they can't miss you if you're still around.
   
   • This might mean unfollowing them or blocking them on social media or even taking their contact information out of your phone—whatever it takes to create that space.
2. Work on yourself and build up your confidence. Regardless of the circumstances of your breakup, chances are your self-esteem took a hit. Take steps to boost your confidence and it will show. People are naturally attracted to confidence. Keep up with your personal hygiene and work on your posture.^[14]
   
   • Pompey notes that "first and foremost, you can't fake confidence. So you're never going to be able to act confident unless you feel confident... it's a great step in the right direction to get your appearance at its optimal level."^[15]
   • For a quick appearance refresher, you might try a new hairstyle or go shopping and update your wardrobe with a few fun or trendy pieces.
   • Your ex will need to notice these changes, but once they do, it's likely they'll start to miss you.
3. Practice good self-care. When you treat yourself with love, it really makes a difference in how you feel as well as how you appear to others. Good self-care includes eating healthy foods, exercising regularly, and getting quality sleep.^[16]
   
   • When you take care of yourself, you signal to others (including your ex) that you value yourself, which makes you more attractive and could make your ex start to miss you.
   • While it's fine to cut loose with your friends from time to time, avoid using alcohol or recreational drugs to escape from reality or pretend that everything's okay when it's not.
4. Reach out to old friends and family members. The people who've been in your life the longest are typically the ones who provide the best emotional support. They'll also help you get out and have a good time.^[17]
   
   • If your ex sees that their leaving hasn't caused your life to change dramatically, they might start to miss you.
5. Invest time in new hobbies and experiences. When you have new experiences they can shake up your routine and get you out of the habits you established when you were part of a couple. Trying new things also serves as a great distraction so you won't think about your ex or your past relationship as much.^[18]
   
   • If your ex sees that you're doing different things rather than following the same routine, they could start to miss you a little more.
   • This works because you're creating some distance between the life you lived with your ex and the new life that you're creating for yourself. It might also make you a little less available to your ex.
6. Meet new friends and have new adventures. If you and your ex have a lot of mutual friends, hanging out with new people can help you disconnect from them a little more. It also makes you a little more unavailable because you're no longer hanging out with the same people or going to the same spots.^[19]
   
   • If you have a hard time chatting it up with new people, don't worry! You'll get better with practice. Pompey emphasizes that "just having conversations with random people is a huge step... the more you do it, the more comfortable you'll get" meeting new people.^[20]
   • If you and your ex lived together, you might try moving to a different part of town. That way, you'll have a new neighborhood to explore and new favorite spots to discover.
7. Act as though you've moved on (even if you haven't). Thinking back on a previous ex can be helpful here. You might recall how you felt when your last relationship ended compared to how you feel about that person now. Remind yourself that how you feel about your ex right now is only temporary. In the grand scheme of things, you actually won't feel this way for very long.^[21]
   
   • If your ex sees that you no longer need them or senses that you no longer feel as though something is missing from your life, they might just start to miss you a little bit.
   • As long as your ex feels as though you would get back together with them if they asked, they have the ability to sort of string you along and keep you on the back burner if they want to—and this isn't healthy for either of you.
8. Go out on dates with other people (if you’re ready). If you're wondering if it's time to dust yourself off and see what's out there, it probably is! Going out on dates doesn't necessarily mean that you're looking for your next serious relationship yet, but it can really boost your self-esteem to get out there and play the field a little.^[22]
   
   • This doesn't mean you should go out with someone only to make your ex jealous or make them miss you—that wouldn't be fair to the other person.
   • Be honest with anyone you go out on a date with, especially if you don't feel like you're over your ex yet.
   • For example, you might say, "I'm just stepping my little toe back in the dating pool right now. While I'm still a little raw from a bad breakup a few months ago, I think it's important to get back out there."

How to Respond If Your Ex Misses You

1. Take time to reflect on your relationship before responding to the situation. This requires you to really think about the situation (you might journal about it) and whether you miss your ex as well. Perhaps the most important question to ask yourself is whether both of you have changed in significant ways since the breakup. This will help you figure out if the two of you should give it another shot or not.
   
   • If your ex is open to it, set up a face-to-face conversation with minimal distractions. This will give the two of you an opportunity to share your feelings and decide what to do.
   • For example, you might say, "Hey, it seems like you've been missing me lately and I've been missing you too. Wanna meet up for coffee sometime this week and chat about it?"
   • If your ex misses you but you've already moved on, Shield emphasizes that it's important to create clear boundaries with them, "because your new partner doesn't want this person leaning on you."^[23]

How long before my ex misses me?

1. It could take them up to 8 weeks to miss you. Assuming that you go full no-contact with your ex after the breakup, a couple of months is about the average. Essentially, it takes that long to process the emotions that caused the end of the relationship in the first place. Men can take even longer because they usually spend the first week or two in denial.^[24]
   
   • There are a lot of other factors to consider as well, such as how long the two of you were together and the intensity of your connection.
   • Who instigated the breakup and the reasons for the breakup can also impact how long it takes for either of you to miss the other.

Frequently Asked Questions About Breakups

1. If my ex misses me does that mean they want to get back together? No, not necessarily. When you're with someone, your brain forms patterns around your attachment to that person. When something triggers your brain to run those patterns, you feel warm and fuzzy about that person without wanting to get back together with them.^[25]
   
   • Both of you might miss each other at various points for the rest of your lives but that isn't a signal that you should give it another shot. It's important to figure out what went wrong in the relationship and what you can do to keep those things from happening again.
2. What are some signs that my ex doesn't miss me? The signs that your ex doesn't miss you are pretty much the opposite of the signs that your ex does miss you. If your ex doesn't miss you, they're not likely to text you or reach out to you, won't go out of their way to bump into you, and won't be asking people about you.^[26]
   
   • Keep in mind that all of this varies depending on the person and your relationship. For example, your ex might not miss you but still keeps in touch with your family because they formed their own close bond with them.
   • Just as it's normal to miss your ex, it's also normal to not miss your ex—and it's normal to fluctuate back and forth between those two feelings.
3. What can I do if my ex doesn't miss me and I miss them? It can be very frustrating when you're still suffering and it seems like your ex has already moved on. Perhaps the best thing to do in this situation is to block them out and turn your focus inward. Be kind to yourself and don't worry about what your ex is doing.^[27]
   
   • Remember that they could just be pretending. They might be having a hard time but putting on a brave face.
   • If your ex has already moved on, be compassionate to yourself and reflect on what you can do to move on as well. There's no timeline for this—it's likely that your ex will still linger in that "partner" space of your brain until you start another relationship, and that's okay.
4. How can I get my ex back? If you truly believe that the two of you should be in a relationship, the best way to attempt to renew that relationship is to figure out what wasn't working before and make changes. Shield notes that you need "to learn how to interact better, how to listen, how to communicate, how to have boundaries."^[28]
   
   • Shield further emphasizes getting therapy or other help to better understand these issues and learn healthier coping and communication strategies.^[29]
5. Why do I miss my ex so badly? When you and your ex were in love, they triggered your brain to release feel-good chemicals that made you feel really awesome whenever you were with your ex. Now that the relationship is over, you find yourself looking for some of those feel-good chemicals to give you a boost and your brain still considers your ex to be a good source.^[30]
   
   • This is the kind of missing that makes you think back fondly on the good times. You can almost convince yourself that nothing bad ever happened.
   • Missing your ex is nothing to be ashamed of—it's totally normal to feel that way, even if you ended the relationship. Your brain's desire for these feel-good chemicals is so strong that some psychologists compare missing your ex this way to an addict's withdrawal.

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How to Observe Hanukkah (From Candle Lighting to Latke Frying)

Transform your home for the festival of lights and recall God's miracles

Hanukkah, also known as the "festival of lights," is a Jewish winter holiday that commemorates a miracle that happened many centuries ago. The name "festival of lights" refers to the tradition of lighting candles in a menorah with nine branches every night of this joyous 8-day celebration. Whether you're Jewish or non-Jewish, anyone can appreciate and celebrate the message of Hanukkah! Keep reading for ideas on how to keep Hanukkah and make it special in your home and your community.

The Best Ways to Celebrate Hanukkah

• Light the menorah.
• Say the menorah blessings after lighting.
• Sing the Hanerot Halalu hymn.
• Decorate your home for Hanukkah.
• Tell the story of the Hanukkah miracle.
• Play dreidel.

Steps

Light the menorah.

1. Light the shamash first, then use it to light the other candles on all 8 nights. On the first night of Hanukkah, put two candles in your menorah, or hanukkiah: one to act as the helper candle, or shamash, and one to represent the first night. Every night after that, add an additional candle. By the eighth and last night of the holiday, your hanukkiah should be full of candles.^[1]
   
   • Arrange the candles from right to left, but light them from left to right.
   • Light the candles at or after sunset, and let them burn for at least 30 minutes. If possible, allow them to burn out on their own.
   • Use new candles every night. Don't reuse candles that you've already lit.
   • Place the menorah in a window at the front of your home, if possible. It's even better if you can position it on the right side of the door, opposite the mezuzah on the left side (if you have one).

Recite the menorah blessings.

1. Say the menorah blessings after lighting it. You only need to recite the blessings if you’re the one lighting the menorah. On the first night, there are three blessings you’ll say to thank God for the Hanukkah miracles. On each of the remaining nights of Hanukkah, you only need to recite the first 2 blessings.^[2]
   
   • First blessing: Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech haolam, asher kid’shanu b’mitzvotav v’tsivanu l’hadlik ner shel Hanukkah. (Blessed are You, Lord our G-d, King of the universe, who has sanctified us with His commandments, and commanded us to kindle the Hanukkah light.)
   • Second blessing: Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech haolam, she-asah nisim la’avoteinu bayamim hahem bazman hazeh. (Blessed are You, Lord our G-d, King of the universe, who performed miracles for our forefathers in those days, at this time.)
   • Third blessing: Baruch atah adonai elohenu melech ha’olam, shehecheyanu, v’kiyimanu, v’higiyanu lazman hazeh. (Blessed are You, Lord our G‑d, King of the universe, who has granted us life, sustained us, and enabled us to reach this occasion.)

Sing the Hanerot Halalu hymn.

1. The Hanerot Halalu hymn praises God for the miracles of Hanukkah. It's a tradition to say it each night of Hanukkah. If you’re the one lighting the menorah, then you’ll recite the hymn in Hebrew. Say or sing the following:^[3]
   
   • Hebrew: Hanerot halalu anachnu madlikin, Al hanissim ve'al haniflaot, Al hatshu-ot ve'al hamilchamot, She-asita la'avoteynu, Bayamim hahem, bazman hazeh, Al yedey kohanecha hak'doshim. Vechol shmonat yemey Chanukah, Hanerot halalu kodesh hem, Ve-ein lanu reshut lehishtamesh bahem, Ela lirotam bilvad, Kedai lehodot lihalel, Al nissecha veal nifleotecha, ve-al yeshuotecha.
   • English translation: We kindle these lights to commemorate the saving acts, miracles, and wonders which You have performed for our forefathers, in those days at this time, through Your holy priests. Throughout the eight days of Chanukah, these lights are sacred, and we are not permitted to make use of them, but only to look at them, in order to offer thanks and praise to Your great Name for Your miracles, for Your wonders, and for Your salvations.

Decorate your home for Hanukkah.

1. Put up lights and set out Hanukkah-themed decor. Get into the spirit of the festival of lights by hanging string lights inside or outside your home. Plug in an electric hanukkiah for ambience (just don't use it in place of lighting real Hanukkah candles). To make your home look more colorful and festive, hang blue or silver streamers, make paper snowflakes and paste them to your windows, and set out Hanukkah-themed decorations. These might include food platters, throw pillows, and dish towels with dreidels or hanukkiahs on them.
   

Tell the story of Hanukkah.

1. Share the story of the miracle of the temple oil burning for 8 days. As you sit near your menorah and watch it glow, it may be the perfect time to explain the importance of this holiday to your children or anyone who isn’t familiar. Below is a brief overview of the miracle that started this festive tradition.^[4]
   
   • In the 1st and 2nd centuries BCE, a group of Jews called the Maccabees revolted against their Greek rulers in Judea and regained control of their holy temple.
   • When the Jews cleaned the temple and were about to start the time-honored ritual of lighting the menorah, they found they only had enough oil to burn for one day.
   • Miraculously, the oil burned for 8 days, which was just enough time for the Jews to make more. They took this miracle as a blessing from God and a sign that He wanted them to be victorious.

Recite the Al Hanisim liturgy.

1. Say it during daily prayers and grace after meals to give thanks. Whenever you pray your silent daily prayers or say grace after a meal, say, "Al hanissim, v’al hapurkan, v’al hag’vurot v’al hat’tshuot v’al hamilchamot sh’asita lavoteinu bayamim hahem baz’man hazeh." This translates to, "We thank thee also for the miracles, for the redemption, for the mighty deeds and saving acts, wrought by thee, as well as for the wars which thou didst wage for our fathers in days of old, at this season."^[5]
   
   • This special prayer thanks God for His miracles.

Play dreidel.

1. Spin a dreidel to win candy or coins. Gather as many players as you want and give everyone an equal number of game pieces, such as chocolate gelt, pennies, candies, or nuts. At the start of the game, have everyone put one of their items in the middle to form the pot. Take turns spinning the dreidel and wait until it falls over. Read the symbol on the face-up side and take the following actions:^[6]
   
   • If you spin nun (נ), then you don’t take anything from the pot.
   • If the dreidel lands on gimel (ג), then you get everything in the pot.
   • If you get hey (ה), then you take half of the pieces from the pot.
   • When you land on shin (ש), then you need to add a piece to the pot.
   • If you run out of pieces, then you’re out of the game.
   • The person who ends the game with all the pieces in the pot is the winner!

Exchange gifts with friends and family.

1. Give small gifts to mark the occasion, but only if you want to. Gift giving isn't an ancient Hanukkah tradition, but a more modern one that mimics the Christmas pastime. If you want to give your friends and family small gifts, choose any night of Hanukkah you want and pass them out after lighting the menorah.
   
   • Tip: Make giving gifts more exciting by spreading it out across all 8 nights. For example, one person in your household can give everyone the gifts they bought them the first night, another the second night, and so on.

Give gelt to children.

1. Handing out gelt to children at Hanukkah teaches them about charity. Gelt is a Yiddish word meaning "money," and it can refer either to real coins or chocolate ones wrapped in gold foil. Chocolate coins are a fun, tasty gift, but when you give the children in your household real money, encourage them to donate some of it. This will teach them the importance of charity.^[7]
   
   • Hand out a larger amount of gelt on the fourth or fifth night of Hanukkah, since it’s tradition.

Make potato latkes.

1. Potato pancakes fried in oil are a traditional Hanukkah treat. To make latkes, grate 5 potatoes and 1 onion. Put the gratings in a paper towel or a cheesecloth, and squeeze out any excess water. Combine the potato and onion mixture with 3 eggs, ⅓ cup (43 g) of flour, 1 tsp (6 g) of salt, and ¼ tsp (0.6 g) of pepper. Heat of oil in a skillet and pour some of the mixture into the pan. Cook each side of your latke for 5 minutes or until it’s golden brown.^[8]
   
   • This recipe makes 4–6 servings.
   • Top your latkes with store-bought or homemade applesauce for a delicious (and traditional) sweet and savory combo.

Make sweet sufganiyot.

1. Jam-filled doughnuts coated in powdered sugar are the perfect dessert. Make a yeast mixture by combining 2 tbsp (29.6 mL) of warm milk, 2 tbsp (25 g) of sugar, and a packet of dry active yeast. Next, combine 3 c (360 g) of flour with 1 tsp (6 g) of salt, then add the yeast mixture, 2 eggs, and 2 tbsp (28 g) of butter. Mix until the ingredients meld into a crumbly dough. Knead the dough until smooth, then let it rise for 2 hours before rolling it out to ½ in (1.3 cm) thickness. Separate the dough into 3-4 in (7.6–10.2 cm) balls and let them rise until they double in size. Then fry each doughnut for 1-2 minutes per side.^[9]
   
   • Use a piping bag or squeeze bottle to put the jelly inside each doughnut once they’re cool.
   • Coat the doughnuts with powdered sugar or cinnamon for additional sweet flavors.

Donate to charity.

1. Share the light of Hanukkah by giving to those in need. If you already give charity, or tzedakah, give a little extra each day during the holiday. This is one of the best ways to show God how much you appreciate His blessings and to share those blessings with others.^[10]
   
   • It’s okay not to give more if you’re not financially able to!
   • Instead of (or in addition to) giving money, do mitzvot (good deeds), like volunteering at a food bank or donating clothes and shoes you don't need anymore.

Read special Torah scriptures.

1. During Hanukkah, it's customary to read from Numbers 6:22-8:4. These chapters describe the dedication of the tabernacle, or the mishkan, which the Israelites used instead of a temple to worship God during their desert exile. Read them on your own or at your local synagogue in addition to the regular weekly Torah portion. You can also read the haftarah read specifically at Hanukkah. Haftarah are scriptures from the books of the prophets in the Bible, which are always read after the weekly Torah portion. The Hanukkah haftarah are Zechariah 4:1-7 and I Kings 7:40-50.^[11]
   

Attend a public menorah lighting.

1. Look online or ask your local synagogues about public menorah lightings. Usually, whoever is organizing the lighting ceremony will light a giant menorah so it’s easy for everyone to see. Afterward, attendees typically recite blessings, sing hymns, and enjoy food with one another to spread the holiday cheer.^[12]
   
   • You can find a list of Hanukkah events here.

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Tips

• Don't forget that Hanukkah is a time for fun and enjoyment, so spend time with your friends and family to celebrate.
• Hanukkah can be spelled a number of ways, including Chanukah, Chanukkah, Hanukah, and Hannukah. All are correct, as the word is a transliteration of a word in Hebrew.
• Always watch lighted candles carefully. Do not place the hanukkiah on a ledge, near the edge of a surface, or near anything that might catch on fire. Be sure that small children, long hair, and loose clothing stay away from the flames.

Related wikiHows

• Light a Chanukah Menorah
• Blow a Shofar
• Convert to Judaism

References

Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/103868/jewish/How-to-Light-the-Menorah.htm
2. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/103868/jewish/How-to-Light-the-Menorah.htm
3. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/600994/jewish/Haneirot-Halalu.htm
4. ↑ https://www.jewishhistory.org/the-miracle-of-chanukah/
5. ↑ https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/al-hanisim-concerning-the-miracles/
6. ↑ https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/how-to-play-dreidel/
7. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/597165/jewish/Chanukah-Gelt.htm
8. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/recipes/recipe_cdo/aid/103032/jewish/What-Are-Latkes-Plus-A-Simple-Potato-Latke-Recipe.htm
9. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/recipes/recipe_cdo/aid/3879370/jewish/Traditional-Sufganiyot-Jelly-Doughnuts.htm
10. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/603798/jewish/How-to-Celebrate-Chanukah.htm
11. ↑ https://reformjudaism.org/jewish-holidays/hanukkah/hanukkah-customs-and-rituals
12. ↑ https://www.chabad.org/holidays/chanukah/article_cdo/aid/4575427/jewish/8-Old-and-New-Chanukah-Traditions.htm

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165+ "You Are Special" Quotes For Friends, Family, Partners & More

The best “you are special” quotes to uplift and inspire others

Letting someone know they’re special can instantly brighten their day and make them feel valued. In this article, we’re providing the ultimate list of “you are special” quotes and messages to promote love and support, whether you’re texting a friend, crush, partner, or loved one. We’ll also cover the importance of telling someone they’re special, plus provide tips on how to increase your self-confidence!

Unique & Empowering “You Are Special” Quotes

• For Her: “You’re not just special…you’re irreplaceable. My love for you is forever.”
• For Him: “Being with you makes the mundane feel magical. That’s how special you are.”
• For Family: “Families are built on love, and you are the glue that holds us all together.”
• For Friends: “Good friends are rare, but you? You’re one of a kind!”
• For Yourself: “You are enough. Be proud of the person you are becoming.”

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Best “You Are Special to Me” Quotes

1. Remind someone of their skills and talents with a thoughtful quote. Whether someone’s going through a tough time or just needs a boost of confidence, sending a “you are special” message is one of the best ways to lift their spirits. Here are some touching quotes to reassure someone they’re unique, talented, and totally capable of achieving what they want in life:
   
   • “The world is full of many wonders, you are one of them.” —Matshona Dhliwayo
   • “You are special. You’re the most special person in the world to me.” —R. K. Lilley
   • “You are one of a kind. You shine and sparkle different from others.” ―Hiral Nagda
   • “You are special, and the world needs your unique voice and perspective.” —Brené Brown
   • “To the world you may be one person; but to one person you may be the world.” —Dr. Seuss
   • “You are special, not because of what you have, but because of who you are.” —Max Lucado
   • “You are special because you are capable of making a difference in the world.” —Lailah Gifty Akita
   • “You are special, and your presence in the world matters more than you know.” —Glennon Doyle
   • “Believe in yourself, for you are special and capable of achieving great things.” —Roy T. Bennett
   • “You are special because you possess an unbreakable spirit that can overcome any obstacle.” —Nikki Banas
   • “Though you are as a drop in the ocean, without you, the universe would be empty.” ―Matshona Dhliwayo
   • “You are special because you possess a spark of creativity that has the power to change the world.” —Ken Robinson
   • “You are a special flower blossoming among many; without you, the garden is incomplete.” ―Matshona T. Dhliwayo
   • “You are special because you have the power to write your own story and determine your own destiny.” —Amy Poehler
   • “You are special because you have the ability to make someone feel seen, heard, and understood.” —Thich Nhat Hanh
   • “You are special because you possess a combination of qualities and talents that no one else in the world has.” —John C. Maxwell
   • “Every single person is sacred. Sacred means special, precious, a treasure of true beauty. That means you.” —Amy Leigh Mercree
   • “You have something special. You have greatness in you. You have the ability to do more than you can ever begin to imagine.” —Les Brown
   • “If you could look into my heart, how quickly you would see the special place you hold there and how much you mean to me.” —Ron Tranmer
   • “If I could give you one thing in life, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then would you realize how special you are to me.” —Unknown
   • “Words fall short whenever I want to tell you how special you are to me, but all I can say is that my world is full of smiles whenever I think of you.” —Natalie Anderson
   • “There is something special about you. You’ve got the it factor; a talent or skill that is unique to you, and you have a responsibility to your life to bring it out.” —Germany Kent
   • “Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind. You have been created in order to make a difference. You have within you the power to change the world.” —Andy Andrews
   • “You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything.” —Pablo Casals

“You Are Special” Quotes for Her

1. Use a romantic quote to tell your partner she’s one in a million. Expressing the quirks and little things you love about your partner is incredibly sweet and romantic. If you’re not sure what to say, you can always share the words of a world-renowned writer, poet, or playwright. Here are some “you are special” quotes to make the woman in your life feel cherished:
   
   • “You’re nothing short of my everything.” —Joseph Campbell
   • “You are, and always have been, my dream.” —Nicholas Sparks
   • “You’re not just special…you’re irreplaceable. My love for you is forever.”
   • “You have a heart so rare and beautiful, and that makes you truly special to me.”
   • “And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.” —Across the Universe
   • “You must have magical powers because every time I look at you, the world disappears.”
   • “Some people make the world beautiful just by being in it. You, my darling, are one of them.”
   • “Stars are special because they light up the night sky. You are special because you light up my life.”
   • “You are special to me in ways words can never describe. You are my heart, my soul, my everything.”
   • “The brightest star holds no comparison to the light you bring into my world. You’re absolutely breathtaking.”
   • “You are the spark in my life, the reason behind my happiest smiles, and the most special person I know.”
   • “The way you light up a room is a masterpiece in motion. You have a gift for enchanting everyone you meet.”
   • “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” —Maya Angelou
   • “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you…I could walk through my garden forever.” —Claudia Adrienne Grandi
   • “You’re the kind of special that makes my heart race, my thoughts wander, and my hands…well let’s just say they’d rather be on you.”
   • “I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.” —Angelita Lim
   • “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known and even that is an understatement.” —F. Scott Fitzgerald
   • “Of all that I see and hear, and can only believe that Heaven has sent down an angel to me, whose radiance is intended to brighten my life.” —Prince Albert
   • “A day without you is like a day without sunshine. A life without you is like a life without music. You are the sunshine on my face and the music in my heart.” —Alfiya Shaliheen
   • “Although we are miles apart, the thought and touch of you lives within my heart. It is for that reason my dear you will always feel near, even though we are thousands of miles apart.” —Andrew Guzaldo

“You Are Special” Quotes for Him

1. Send a loving quote to remind your partner that he’s special. Everyone wants to feel valued, even if they don’t seem super romantic. If there’s a special guy in your life, send a thoughtful quote that conveys all the wonderful things he brings to the table. You could say he’s taught you how to love, makes daily life feel magical, or anything else your heart desires. Here are some romantic “you are special” quotes for your husband, fiance, or boyfriend:
   
   • “In a world full of ordinary, you are my extraordinary.”
   • “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” —Hermann Hesse
   • “I love you down to your every quirk and flaw.” —Mélanie Berliet
   • “Being with you makes the mundane feel magical. That’s how special you are.”
   • “From sunrise conversations to sunset dreams, you’re the center of my universe.”
   • “For the guy who brings sunshine on my cloudiest days, you are undeniably special.”
   • “In this big world, I found my little paradise with you. You light up my life like no other.”
   • “The water shines only by the sun. And it is you who are my sun.” —Charles de Leusse
   • “Whatever it is that makes you the person you are – that’s what I love. All of it.” —Amy Vincent
   • “You’re so special that I’d cancel plans, lose sleep, and maybe even give up coffee…all for you.”
   • “You’re my best friend, my greatest adventure, and the love of my life. No one compares to you.”
   • “Every day with you is a reminder that I have found someone truly rare, truly special, and truly mine.”
   • “Out of everyone in this world, my heart chose you. That makes you the most special person in my life.”
   • “When life gives you someone very special, you don’t have to dream anymore.” —M.F. Moonzajer
   • “I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.” —Leo Christopher
   • “In this game of life, having you on my team makes me feel like I’ve already won. You’re my secret weapon.”
   • “I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I’ve ever had.” —Nicholas Sparks
   • “The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.” —Marilyn Monroe
   • “She loved him because he had brought her back to life. She had been like a caterpillar in a cocoon, and he had drawn her out and shown her that she was a butterfly.” —Ken Follett
   • “It is three at night. I have something to say. You are so valuable. You shine out. You are a magic star. You are a body of blood made beautiful. How I admire, sit back and adore you. How thirsty I am for that. How you feed me.” —Anne Sexton

“You Are Special” Quotes for Friends

1. Highlight your friend’s best qualities to make them feel special. Whether you recently saw your friend or it’s been a while, you can make them feel supported by sending a “you are special” message. It’s a great way to remind them that they’re valued and appreciated, strengthening your bond no matter where they are.
   
   • “Good friends are rare, but you? You’re one of a kind!”
   • “Your ability to uplift others is a testament to the beauty of your soul.”
   • “You bring such radiant energy into the world, making it a brighter place.”
   • “You’re not just my friend…you’re family. And that makes you truly special to me.”
   • “Friendships come and go, but a special friend like you stays in the heart forever.”
   • “You’re the kind of friend everyone wishes for…caring, genuine, and irreplaceable.”
   • “Just a reminder: You matter. You’re special. You’re loved. You’re appreciated. Always.”
   • “You’re not just a friend…you’re a daily reminder that good people still exist in the world.”
   • “Life wouldn’t be the same without you. You make every moment brighter just by being you!”
   • “True friends are like diamonds–bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style” —Nicole Richie
   • “A million people could walk into my life, but none could ever replace you. You’re truly one of a kind!”
   • “You bring so much joy and happiness into my life, and I hope you know how much you mean to me.”
   • “The world is a better place because you’re in it. Please don’t forget how much you’re valued and loved!”
   • You’re so special because you listen without judgment, laugh without hesitation, and love without limits.”
   • “You have a way of making people feel loved, seen, and heard. That’s what makes you such a special friend.”
   • “You are special because you bring joy, laughter, and positivity into my life. I’m so lucky to call you my friend!”
   • “A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself–and especially to feel, or not feel.” —Jim Morrison
   • “Having you as a friend is like having a personal cheerleader, life coach, and comedian all in one–how lucky am I?”
   • “You’re the type of friend who turns ordinary moments into unforgettable memories. That makes you so special to me.”
   • “Fake friends are like shadows; always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don’t always see them but they are always there.” —Habeeb Akande

“You Are Special” Quotes for Family

1. Let your family member know they’re absolutely irreplaceable. It’s easy to take your family for granted sometimes, but having loyal and supportive loved ones can make a world of a difference. Tell your parent, sibling, or extended family member that they’re a pivotal part of your life, and that their presence means everything to you. Here are some loving quotes to convey care and gratitude:
   
   • “Some people are worth melting for.” —Frozen
   • “The family is one of nature’s masterpieces.” —George Santayana
   • “Family is the most important thing in the world.” —Princess Diana
   • “Families are built on love, and you are the glue that holds us all together.”
   • “Without a family, man, alone in the world, trembles with the cold.” —Andre Maurois
   • “Being related to you is one of the greatest gifts of my life. You are special beyond words.”
   • “Family is where love begins, and you are the heart of ours. You are so special to all of us.”
   • “There is no friendship, no love, like that of the parent for the child.” —Henry Ward Beecher
   • “My heroes were my parents, I can’t see having anyone else as my heroes.” —Michael Jordan
   • “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.” —Desmond Tutu
   • “You are more than family…you are my biggest blessing. Life wouldn’t be the same without you.”
   • “When you look at your life, the greatest happinesses are family happinesses.” —Joyce Brothers
   • “You are the heart of our family, the glue that holds us together, and the love that makes it all worthwhile.”
   • “Having a place to go is a home. Having someone to live is a family. Having both is a blessing.” —Donna Hedges
   • “You are the reason our family feels like home. Your love, warmth, and compassion make you truly one of a kind.”
   • “My family is my life, and everything else comes second as far as what’s important to me.” —Michael Imperioli
   • “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” —Richard Bach
   • “Life may change, but family is forever. No matter what happens, you’ll always be someone incredibly special to me.”
   • “Family means love, laughter, and always having someone to count on. You are the special person that makes us stronger every day.”
   • “Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter.” —Brad Henry

“You Are Special” Quotes to Inspire Self-Love

1. Practice positive affirmations to increase your confidence and self-esteem. If you tend to have negative thoughts or think poorly of yourself, using affirmations is a great way to turn things around and change your perspective. Just repeat any of the following quotes aloud, several times a day, to help you believe in yourself and inspire self-love:
   
   • “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” —Coco Chanel
   • “Don’t sell yourself short; you are your best asset.” ―Matshona Dhliwayo
   • “You are enough. Be proud of the person you are becoming.” —Tara Westover
   • “One of the most important things you can accomplish is just being yourself.” —Dwayne Johnson
   • “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha
   • “By being yourself you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before.” —Edwin Elliot
   • “Choose, every day, to forgive yourself. You are human, flawed, and most of all worthy of love.” —Alison Malee
   • “Don’t dim your light to make others comfortable. Be proud of who you are and shine brightly.” —Michelle Obama
   • “Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.” —Beyoncé
   • “Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.” —Tyra Banks
   • “The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” —C. JoyBell C.
   • “Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.” ―M. Scott Peck
   • “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” —Brené Brown
   • “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
   • “We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.” —Mary Dunbar
   • “Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. Set your life on fire.” —Rumi
   • “Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.” —Naya Rivera
   • “Self love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you must come first.” ―Beau Taplin
   • “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive.” —Harold Whitman
   • “My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.” ―Anaïs Nin

“You Are Special” Quotes to Celebrate Uniqueness

1. Encourage someone to share their unique gifts with the world. In a world that pressures conformity, being different is beautiful and part of creativity and innovation. By reminding someone (or yourself) that being unique is a strength, you’re telling them to embrace who they are and share their precious talents with others. Here are some quotes to highlight individuality:
   
   • “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” —Dr. Seuss
   • “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” —Oscar Wilde
   • “You are not one in a million, you are one in 7.7 billion.” —Matshona Dhliwayo
   • “It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.” —Herman Melville
   • “I’ve always loved the idea of not being what people expect me to be.” —Dita Von Teese
   • “What makes you special is you, and you are different from the next person.” —Janet Jackson
   • “Be different so that people can see you clearly amongst the crowds.” —Mehmet Murat İldan
   • “Different is good, and being different is what makes us stand out in the world.” —Natalya Neidhart
   • “I thought not fitting in was something I had to fix. Now I see it as my superpower.” —Maxime Lagacé
   • “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” —Judy Garland
   • “So you’re a little weird? Work it! A little different? OWN it! Better to be a nerd than one of the herd!” —Mandy Hale
   • “Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.” —Bertrand Russell
   • “You have a one of a kind gift to offer this world, and you are unique in the entire history of creation.” —Wayne Dyer
   • “The most incredible beauty and the most satisfying way of life come from affirming your own uniqueness.” —Jane Fonda
   • “What sets you apart can sometimes feel like a burden and it’s not. And a lot of the time, it’s what makes you great.” —Emma Stone
   • “Each one of us has different strengths…This does not make you weak. This makes you special and unique.” —Christine E. Szymanski
   • “It’s all about distinguishing yourself; never blend in. Express the unique qualities that make up who you are; that’s what makes you an icon.” —Nipsey Hussle
   • “When you embrace your difference, your DNA, your look or heritage or religion or your unusual name, that’s when you start to shine.” —Bethenny Frankel
   • “Never be afraid of being yourself. Be different; be unique; be a mystery. Always remember that unique people are the ones who changed history.” ―Mouloud Benzadi
   • “We don’t do things the same way everyone else does. We relish being different. We see that difference as an element that makes us more compelling.” —Reggie Fils-Aimé
   • “I find that the very things that I get criticized for, which is usually being different and just doing my own thing and just being original, is the very thing that’s making me successful.” —Shania Twain
   • “Never forget that you are one of a kind. Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you wouldn’t be here in the first place.” —R. Buckminster Fuller

“You Are Special” Quotes to Express Appreciation

1. Specify why you’re thankful toward someone to craft a genuine message. Saying “thank you” is one of the easiest ways to make someone feel special, whether you send it in a text or physical card. Highlight the moments they’ve supported you, or mention their best qualities to really give them their flowers. According to etiquette coach Tami Claytor, “you want to be very specific” when thanking someone and express why you appreciate what they've done or who they are.^[1]
   
   • “I am who I am because of you.” —Nicholas Sparks
   • “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” —Hermann Hesse
   • “Having you in my life is one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever received.”
   • “Thank you for accepting me as I am, with my virtues and defects.” —Jenni Rivera
   • “Thank you for your words of support and love. I am blessed to have you in my life.”
   • “Every moment with you is a reminder of how beautiful life can be. Thank you for being you.”
   • “When I think of you, I think of kindness, wisdom, and love. Thanks for being you.” —Sam Crow
   • “The kindness, love, and support you give are special gifts. You are deeply valued and appreciated.”
   • “When I was thinking of you, I realized all the positive influences you have in my life, thank you.” —B. Rivers
   • “The beauty of your soul shines brighter than all the stars in the sky. Thank you for being an incredible human being.”
   • “You don’t have to do anything extraordinary to be special. You already are just by being yourself. Thanks for everything.”
   • “Some people leave footprints on our hearts forever, and you are one of them. I appreciate you more than words could ever describe.”
   • “Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” —Marcel Proust
   • “In life, there is always that special person who shapes who you are, who helps to determine the person you become.” —Molly Ringwald
   • “You might not always see it, but you are truly special. Your laughter and light brightens the lives of so many, including mine. Thank you.”
   • “You have influenced my life in such a positive way words cannot express my appreciation. You are truly an inspiration.” —Catherine Pulsipher
   • “Some people arrive and make such a beautiful impact on your life, you can barely remember what life was like without them.” —Anna Taylor
   • “I appreciate you more because of the road I’ve traveled. My story brought me to you and I wouldn’t revise a word of my past if it led me anywhere but to your door.” –Aaron Polson
   • “You changed my life without even trying, and I don't think I could ever tell you how much you mean to me. I can't imagine what things would be like if I hadn't met you.” —Steve Maraboli
   • “I don’t think you will ever fully understand how you’ve touched my life and made me who I am. I don’t think you could ever know just how truly special you are that even on the darkest nights you are my brightest star.” —Erica Jong

Benefits of Telling Someone They’re Special

1. Telling someone they’re special can strengthen your relationship. When you tell someone they’re special, it can boost their mood, make them feel valued, and deepen your bond. This leads to greater emotional intimacy and trust, which can help the two of you feel more connected. Here are some other benefits of telling someone they’re special:^[2]
   • Boosts their self-esteem: Knowing they’re special can make them feel more confident and secure in themself, improving their well-being.
   • Makes them feel appreciated: Thanking someone is one of the best ways to express gratitude, fostering a strong sense of connection, trust, and mutual respect.
   • Strengthens your relationship: A simple compliment can make someone feel seen and heard, reassuring them they’re an important person in your life.
   • Inspires them to achieve more: Feeling special and worthy can push them to believe in themself and achieve their wildest dreams.

How to Embrace Yourself & Be Confident

1. Believe in yourself and embrace imperfection to build confidence. Accepting your authentic self and being confident is all about understanding who you are. What are your strengths and passions? What are your core values and beliefs? What are things you can work on? It’s important to treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would give to a friend, and learn from your mistakes instead of letting them define you. Here are some other tips to increase your self-esteem and confidence:^[3]
   
   • Practice self-care: Take good care of yourself by eating a healthy and balanced diet, exercising regularly, drinking enough water, and getting proper sleep.
   • Set personal goals: Break a large goal into smaller, realistic steps to help you create the life you want. Take action, instead of waiting for things to change, and watch your self-confidence skyrocket!
   • Engage in positive self-talk: Replace negative thoughts with positive or neutral statements. You could say, “I believe in myself,” “I know I’m capable,” or “I’m proud of how far I’ve come.”
   • Step out of your comfort zone: Try new things to help you realize everything you’re capable of. You could start by talking to strangers, reading a book you’ve held off, or running a marathon.
   • Avoid comparing yourself to others: Limit your social media use to help you focus on your real life. Remember, everyone has their own path, and social media is a reel of highlights!
   • Surround yourself with supportive people: Having a good support system can help you focus on your best qualities when you’re feeling down. Make plans with friends and family members who make you feel good about yourself.

References

1. ↑ [v161576_b01]. 30 September 2020.
2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/reflect-and-reset/202309/the-vital-importance-of-showing-up-for-others-and-ourselves
3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/202305/6-proven-ways-to-build-confidence

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