Cute and flirty messages that’ll have him wanting and missing you
So, you’re trying to impress the guy you like. Maybe you’re already dating or hoping he becomes your boyfriend soon. Either way, you need him to think about you, especially since you’re thinking about him 24/7. Thankfully, a quick, flirtatious text can make him miss and want you all at the same time (not to mention have him daydreaming about you). We’ve put together the cutest messages to send through Messenger, Tinder, Instagram, or any other social platform that’ll have him swooning, so read on!
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Allude to a later surprise or date when texting him to keep him guessing about what’s to come.
Just don’t work too hard—you’ll need some energy for later 😏🔥
Off to bed! See you in my dreams!
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Don’t stress if he doesn’t text you back right away. He may be busy or is trying to build anticipation. Give it a few hours, or even a day, before texting him again.
Finding your skin's undertones and neutrals to craft the perfect wardrobe
If you struggle to make your favorite colors look good on you, you might be missing out on a key bit of styling know-how. We’re talking about color analysis! Color analysis matches clothing colors to your skin tone to make sure your wardrobe and your body work together to show off your best hues. We’ll show you how to find your dominant undertones, determine your go-to neutrals, and then mix and match your outfits to your personal color profile so you can strut your technicolor stuff.
This article is based on an interview with our board certified professional organizer, Kathi Burns, founder of Organized and Energized!.
How To Know What Colors Look Good On You
Color analysis expert Anoushka Dannin says to start by figuring out your undertone. Ask yourself if pure white makes you look best (cool undertone) or off-white is more flattering (warm undertone). Consider features like your eye color, lip color, complexion, and natural hair color to find the best colors for you.
Steps
Analyzing Your Skin Tone
Determine your skin's undertone with the vein or white shirt test. Some colors may look better on you depending on the undertone of your skin.[1] Your undertone is the dominant hue of your skin—warm, cool, or neutral. Warm undertones tend to look best in warm colors, cool in cool colors, and neutral in any color. Use one of the following tests to determine your skin’s undertone:
Vein test: Look at the veins on your wrist or palm. If your veins appear green, you have warm undertones. Blue or purple means you have cool undertones. And if you have a mix or you can’t tell, you have neutral undertones.
White shirt test: Pull out a white shirt (or any white fabric) and hold it up to your face in a mirror lit by natural light. If your face appears rosy, you have cool undertones. If it appears more yellow, you’re warm. Can’t decide? Neutral.[2]
For context, warm colors are reds, oranges, and yellows. Cool colors would be your blues, greens, and purples.
Use your skin brightness to find more complementary shades. In addition to your undertones, your primary skin shade can help you identify your best colors.[3] Generally, colors that create a contrast in brightness with your skin are more flattering. For example, bright colors tend to wash out light skin, while dark colors might not pop on dark skin.[4]
If your skin is dark, saturated oranges and yellows almost always look great, even if your undertone is cool.
Greens and blues tend to pop on people with fair skin.[5]
Bold jewel tones like emerald, ruby, and amethyst flatter paler skin regardless of undertone.
Use your hair color to help you discover more flattering colors. Your hair color, like your skin undertones, can also inform your wardrobe colors. People with light blonde hair typically have cool skin undertones, and so look great in cool-toned clothing. Yellow blondes, on the other hand, mesh better with warmer hues.[6]
Black, dark brown, or true red hair often indicates cool undertones.
Brassy reds or lighter browns often indicate warm undertones.
Sort your closet into a “color season” that matches your undertone. Many stylists narrow the color profiles down into “seasons” to help their clients stick to a preselected palette.[7] Typically, “fall” and “spring” colors go well with warm undertones, while “winter” and “summer” colors go well with cool undertones. Now that you know your undertones, pick out clothing that coincides with a matching season of your choice. Some colors in each season are:
Spring: Warm, pastel colors like soft yellows, pinks, or oranges.
Summer: Sharper cool colors like sea blue, deep purples, and strong reds.
Fall: Warm earth tones like burnt oranges, browns, and darker greens.
Winter: Dark or bright colors with cool undertones, like royal blue, emerald green, or hot pink.
Picking Your Neutrals
Grab 6 objects, each a different neutral color. Neutral colors are those with low or no color saturation, like whites, blacks, grays, and browns.[8] In this example, the 6 neutrals are light and dark gray, light and dark brown, navy, and black. Grays and browns come in warm and cool variations, so pick ones that match your color profile.
Make sure the object is almost entirely monochromatic to more easily analyze its color.
Hold the object up to your face in a mirror and examine the undertones. Find an area with plenty of natural light to do this, and decide which color makes you look your best.[9] Even neutral colors have undertones that can match your skin. Examine the objects’ undertones. For example, is it a warm gray, or a cooler, bluer gray? Does the object’s undertones match your skin's undertones?
This is largely subjective and open to your taste, so don’t stress too much about it!
Your best neutral is often close to your natural hair color.
Choose 1 or 2 neutrals to build your wardrobe around. Pick a couple objects that match your undertones the most closely, and get other neutral clothes that closely match those colors. These colors will make up the workhorses of your wardrobe, and will constitute the majority of your pants, dresses, jackets and shoes.[10]
Of course, you’ll incorporate plenty of other colors, but your neutrals make for a reliable, flexible base to build on.
Avoid mixing neutrals in an outfit to keep your look cohesive.
Coordinating Your Wardrobe
Assemble some go-to pieces that complement your undertone. Pick either a color season or a few of your favorite shades of a single color that matches your undertones, and make this your go-to palette.[11] It’s best to stick to 2-3 colors to stay cohesive; a good outfit is usually made up of 1 neutral and 1 main color with an optional small amount of accent color. More colors tend to make an outfit look busy.
Of course, don’t toss your favorite clothes just because they don’t match your color—if it looks good on you, it looks good on you!
Wear tops and scarves that bring out the color in your eyes. If you want to make your eyes "pop," make sure the clothes on your torso complement them. Pick either a color that matches your eyes closely or one that’s on the opposite side of the color wheel. For our brown-eyed fashionistas, go for blues, lavenders, or reds.[12]
Pick a few accessories in a complementary accent color. Wearing complementary colors—or colors that sit on polar ends of the color wheel—is a quick way to make any outfit stand out.[13] Have a look at a color wheel, and choose 2 colors that sit on opposite sides to build a complementary color scheme. Then, choose 1 color to make up the dominant color of your outfit, and accessorize with the other color.
For example, an orange tie or pocket square can make you stand out in an otherwise conservative navy suit. Likewise, an aqua belt on a salmon dress can be an unusual but stylish choice.
Use this technique sparingly, as too many competing colors can begin to clash.
Stick to one type of metal for accents and jewelry. Even though they make up a small part of your outfit, shiny metals tend to attract the eye and stand out against your outfit. Using 2 different colors of metal can clash or look busy, so stick to 1 if you’re unsure. Silver and platinum are cool-toned metals, while gold and bronze are warm-toned.[14]
Wear colors that express your personality. People tend to associate certain colors with certain vibes or attitudes.[15] For example, earth tones and light, unsaturated warm colors can make you look friendly and approachable. Bright reds are attention grabbers. Dark, monochromatic colors can make you look stern or powerful. Wear muted or pale colors if you want to be noticed less. Bright, bold colors, especially purple, may make you seem more creative.
Your favorite or go-to colors might not match your undertones, and that’s okay! Comfort and confidence is often more important than precise color-matching.
In addition, you may find that your favorite color has hues that do match your undertone. For example, reds come in both cool and warm tones, and both make a bold outfit.
Try on an outfit before wearing it out of the house. Getting your wardrobe just right is a trial-and-error process. Crafting the perfect closet takes time and a willingness to experiment.[16] Practice putting outfits together at home and analyzing your work in the mirror. Or, send a pic of the outfit to a friend for some handy input.
Always remember that if you like how you feel in an outfit, then it’s a good outfit! Taste is subjective, but good vibes are priceless.
How Does Color Matching Work For Clothes?
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Take note of what colors you're wearing when people compliment you. This can give you a good clue to which colors look best on you.
Figuring out the right color profile for you can be difficult. If you're not sure if a color is quite right for you, the best way to figure it out is to try it on.
If your outfit is monochromatic, try not to get the exact same color of hijab. Instead, choose a complementary color to make it pop.
Avoid clothing that is too close to your skin color to avoid looking washed-out.
Anger: we all feel it sometimes, whether it's a flash of irritation or a period of boiling rage. On its own, it can be a perfectly valid, healthy, and understandable feeling—but it’s less than ideal if red-hot anger is becoming your default reaction to most events and situations. In other words, anger is normal but it’s your reaction to your anger that is key. How are you supposed to tell if your anger is just an occasional flare-up versus a serious issue, though?
While only a licensed mental health professional can gauge if you have anger issues or not, it’s super easy (and important!) to keep tabs on how you’re thinking and feeling. Hit “Start Quiz” to do a quick check-in with yourself, and to learn how you can start feeling your best.
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1. The person in front of you in line is taking a super long time. How are you feeling?
I’m totally cool! I’m sure they’ll be done soon.
It’s a little annoying, but it’s not the end of the world.
I can’t lie—I’m pretty frustrated.
I’m so done. Hurry it up, will you?!
2. Your co-worker had an emergency and didn’t finish their half of the project. What do you tell them?
“Don’t worry about it! I hope everything is okay.”
“You should’ve kept me in the loop. Whatever, we’ll figure it out.”
“Seriously?! Ugh. You’re talking to the boss, not me.”
“Are you serious? I can’t believe you’d screw me over like this.”
3. The boy behind you on the bus won’t stop kicking your seat. How do you feel?
I don’t really care. The ride will be over soon, anyway.
I’m pretty annoyed, but I’ll forget about it soon enough.
I’m getting irritated. Maybe he’ll get the message if I recline my seat.
I’m ready to turn around and give his parents a piece of my mind.
4. How many times do you feel genuinely angry throughout the week?
None—it’s extremely rare for me to feel angry.
Maybe once or twice, but not super frequently.
About once a day.
I feel angry multiple times throughout the day.
5. Your roommate forgot to pick you up from work. How does that make you feel?
Slightly annoyed, but it’s no big deal.
I’m definitely frustrated, but I’ll get over it.
I’ll probably give them the silent treatment for the next day.
I’m furious. I’m ready to let them have it.
6. Which statement do you relate to the most?
I feel angry occasionally, but it doesn’t impact my life.
I get angry sometimes, but I try to have it under control.
I feel angry frequently enough that it interferes with my life.
I get angry all the time—it’s how I react to most things.
7. A car cuts you off on your way into work. How do you react?
I don’t react—it’s not worth my time or energy.
I say a choice word under my breath, but I try not to dwell on it.
I honk my horn at them. What the heck was that?!
I roll down my window and scream at them, even if they can’t hear me.
8. You’re in line for a donut, but the guy in front of you buys every last one. What do you do?
Head out the door. There’s always another donut shop!
Return to my car and seethe for a couple minutes.
Give him the dirtiest look I can possibly muster.
Go off on the man for being so selfish.
9. Does it take a lot for you to feel angry?
Absolutely. I can’t remember the last time I was truly mad about something.
Kind of. I get mad sometimes, but not that much.
Not really. I get angry more often than I’d like to admit.
Not at all. I can’t deny that I have a really short fuse.
10. You found out that your friend is spreading rumors about you. How do you confront them?
I don’t confront them at all. They’re not worth my time.
I make an underhanded remark the next time we cross paths.
I leave their texts unanswered for the next few days. That’ll show them!
I get in their face the next time I see them.
11. Whoops! Your flight got delayed by 4 hours. How are you feeling?
Ambivalent. Flying always seems to take a long time.
Annoyed, but I’ll live. Four-hour Netflix marathon, anyone?
Very frustrated. What am I supposed to do now?
Furious. I really, really want to kick something.
12. Do your friends seem comfortable discussing any issues they have with you personally?
Absolutely! They know they can tell me anything.
For the most part, yeah. There aren’t too many issues.
It depends. Sometimes it feels like they gloss over certain details.
Nope. It feels like they’re walking on eggshells around me.
What is anger? Anger is a normal and valid emotional response that everyone experiences from time to time. In fact, anger can be a healthy response to hurtful, upsetting, or even life-threatening situations. A lot of people feel angry occasionally, but not to an extent that disrupts their day-to-day routines, careers, or relationships.
Types of Anger
External anger: Anger displayed in a physical and/or verbal way, like yelling, tossing items around, making threats, slamming doors, and/or hurting others.
Internal anger: Anger directed towards the self, displayed in actions like self-harm, self-starvation, and negative thoughts.
Non-violent anger: Anger displayed in a subtle or passive-aggressive way, like giving someone the cold shoulder, making snarky/sarcastic comments, or purposefully inconveniencing others.
What are anger issues? Anger issues occur when anger seriously impacts your everyday life. A person with anger issues feels angry frequently, to a point where their friends, loved ones, and co-workers notice. Their rage seems to supersede any other reactions they might have, to a point where it’s affecting their health overall (e.g., headaches, high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, etc.).
Do I have anger issues? You might have anger issues if your anger frequently impacts your daily life. Think about how you normally behave and react on a day-to-day basis. Does anger heavily influence the way you treat other people, as well as yourself? Are you capable of reacting and responding to different situations with a variety of emotions, or does anger always seem to be front and center? If you can’t seem to break free of anger’s control over your life, you could have anger issues.
Anger Management Tips
Breathe deeply when you get upset. Focus on inhaling slowly through your nose and then exhaling slowly as well. Continue breathing in and out slowly—this helps force you to calm down instead of lashing out in the moment.
Count up to a number before doing/saying something impulsive. It’s really easy to do or say something that you regret in the heat of the moment. Before you leap into action, count to 10, 20, or any other larger number in your head. This gives you a chance to ground yourself and think things through.
Picture something peaceful or relaxing. Where do you feel the most calm and at ease? Whenever you feel angry, picture yourself in that place to give yourself the opportunity to calm down.
Head to the sink and splash yourself with cold water. It won’t feel comfortable, but a quick blast of cold water might help you reset your brain and think things through in a more calm and rational light.
Approach situations with a sense of humor. While humor isn’t the best response for everything, it can be really helpful to plow through life’s frustrations and inconveniences. The next time you’re feeling especially exasperated or irritated, see if cracking a joke or lightening the mood can help make a difference.
Identify and avoid situations that trigger your anger. What types of events tend to set you off the most? Avoiding these situations or approaching them in a new way can be a valuable way to help you manage your anger effectively.
Eliminate negative thought patterns. Certain ways of thinking, such as viewing situations in absolutes, jumping to conclusions, and pointing fingers may feed into your more angry instincts. Identifying and changing these thought patterns may help you approach different scenarios with a more balanced mindset.
Practice self-care. The more you care for your mental and physical health, the easier it’ll be to cope with angry moments and situations. Getting 7-9 hours of sleep each night, de-stressing with mindfulness meditation, trying progressive muscle relaxation, opening up to a friend, and getting regular exercise are all valuable ways to keep your mind and body in a healthy place.
Sign up for anger management classes. Conquering anger on your own can be a stressful and overwhelming experience—but it’s not one you have to deal with alone! Find an anger management class near you, where you’ll receive special training on how to deal with tough anger flare-ups.
See a licensed mental health professional. Dealing with anger frequently can be an exhausting experience—but it’s not something you have to handle on your own. A therapist can help you dig deeper into why you’re feeling angry, and help you develop strategies to better cope with your feelings.
Want to learn more?
Ready to level up your anger management skills? Here are a few resources to help you get started:
