How to Swim

Learning how to swim or becoming a better swimmer can be scary when you don't know what you're doing. Don't worry though — there are things you can do to make learning how to swim less daunting. Once you get the hang of it, swimming will be a breeze for you.

Steps

Getting Comfortable in the Water

1. Let go of your fear. The main reason why it should be required that you learn how to swim is to prevent drowning. While drownings still can occur, the risk drops significantly when one is able to swim and can be further prevented by simple safety measures. Follow these guidelines whenever you're swimming, and the odds of drowning are close to zero:^[1]
   
   • Don't swim alone. An area with a lifeguard is usually the best place to swim. Always go swimming with one other person who can quickly alert a lifeguard if their buddy swimmer is having a problem. If you are swimming in a group, at least two people should be strong enough swimmers to look after each other and other members of the group if necessary.
   • If you are taking swimming lessons or are participating in an activity where swimming will be the primary focus, it is recommended that you wear a comfortable one-piece swimsuit that you can independently manage outside of the water (females) or tight-fitting swim trunks that cover from your waist down to around the knees (males). These guidelines are applicable to swimmers of all ages.
   • Don't start out swimming in moving water. If you're learning to swim in an ocean or river, you'll need to be more aware of the motion of the water. If you must learn to swim this way, try to make sure you're with someone who knows what he or she is doing, and be sure to read the step about getting out of a riptide or a rushing river (below).
   • Use proper safety gear until you have enough water experience and are reasonably comfortable in the water.
   • Stay within a depth you can handle. When you're first learning how to swim, don't venture into water that's too deep for you to stand in. That way, if something goes amiss, you can simply stand up and breathe.
   • Avoid swimming during inclement weather conditions. Swimming in a light rain shower should be fine, but if you see or hear a storm approaching, get out of the water immediately. This rule is to be followed regardless of how well you can swim.
   • Don't swim in water that's too cold. Moving your limbs to paddle can become suddenly difficult if you're in frigid water.
   • Avoid drinking alcohol before or during swimming. Alcohol impairs judgment, balance, and coordination, and so increases the risk of drowning.
2. Get used to floating. When you're in the water, hold on to the side of the pool or a dock, and let your legs float out behind you - they should lift easily if you let them. But, for some people, they like to sink to the bottom, while your upper body floats. Don't worry; just try the method again. Practice doing this on your stomach and on your back, until you're used to letting half of your body float.^[2]
   
   
   • Try floating on your back or your stomach as soon as you're ready. Stay in a shallow depth so that you can simply stand up if it's not working out. It might feel weird to have water around your ears while your nose and mouth are in the air, but you'll get used to it. For extra stability, put out your arms at a right angle so that your body is in a "T" shape. When floating for the first time, you can try taking a deep breath and then floating. If your lungs are full of air, your body will float for sure. Do this until you're more experienced.
3. Don't panic. Always remember that you have a fallback if you're in an unmanageable depth or you simply can't move your limbs - floating on your back. Don't flail around or start breathing quickly if you can't swim; simply lie back as flat as you can, and let the water carry you while you regain your composure.^[3]
   • A good tip for floating on your back is to hold your breath and have lungs full of air. Another good tip is to stick your stomach out.
     
     
4. Practice exhaling underwater. While you're still in a shallow depth, take a deep breath and put your face underwater. Slowly exhale out your nose until you're out of breath, then come back up. Bubbles should come out. You can also exhale out of your mouth, but usually in big bubbles until you finally let out a stream of bubbles.^[4]
   
   
   • If you're uncomfortable exhaling through your nose, you can hold it closed or wear a nose plug and exhale through your mouth.
5. Wear goggles (optional). Wearing goggles can help you feel more comfortable opening your eyes underwater, and might allow you to see more clearly. Find a pair with spongy circles around the eyes and dip them in the water, so that they'll stick to your skin. Tighten the strap around the back of your head so that the goggles fit snugly.^[5]
   

Beginning Strokes and Treading Water

1. Practice kicking your legs. Whether you're floating on your back or still holding on to the side of the pool, you can practice kicking. (To see how far each kick can propel you, practice it using a kickboard. This allows you to focus on your kicking technique without worrying about keeping your head above water.)^[6]
   
   
   • Try a flutter kick. Point your toes out like a ballerina, keep your legs mostly straight, and alternate legs as you make small kicks. You should feel the most flexion in your ankles.
   • Try a whip kick. Keep your legs held tightly together from your hips to your knees, and from your knees to your ankles. Bend your knees so that your shins come up to about a 90-degree angle, then quickly bring your shins apart and move them in a circular motion, keeping your thighs together the whole time. (That is, trace half a circle with each leg, moving your right leg to the right and your left leg to the left.) Bring your shins back together at the bottom of the circle, and lift them up again to restart the kick.
   • Try an eggbeater kick. This kick is commonly used to tread water, and stay in a vertical position with your head and shoulders above water. Start with your knees bent and your legs slightly wider than hip-width apart. Then "pedal" each leg as you would on a bike, only they'll go in opposite directions: while one leg pedals "forward," the other leg should pedal "backward." This one takes some practice to get used to, but it's handy for "resting" when your feet can't touch bottom.
2. Learn how to do a crawl. Crawls are great strokes to learn as a beginner, and they'll move you pretty quickly. Here's how to do them:^[7]
   
   
   • Try a backstroke first. Float flat on your back, and do a flutter kick with your legs. With your arms, do the "crawl" motion, lifting one arm straight into the air and keeping it straight as it re-enters the water next to your head. Once it's underwater, bend it to bring it back to a straight position next to your side, and repeat. Alternate arms as you swim, and try to keep your fingers together and your hands as flat as possible.
   • Try a front stroke (also known as a freestyle or American crawl).^[8] Floating on your stomach, do a flutter kick with your legs and use your arms to "crawl" forward. Bring one arm out of the water so that it's "reaching" forward, then bring it back down and use your cupped hand to "push" the water behind you. Alternate arms. To breathe, turn your head to one side under the arm that's currently crawling, lifting enough for you to take a breath. Take a breath under the same arm each time, so that you're breathing once every two strokes.
3. Tread water. Treading water can help you catch your breath and keep your head up without actually swimming. Do the eggbeater kick listed above, and use your hands to keep your balance by "sculling" - keep your forearms flat on the surface of the water, and imagine they're butter knives spreading on a piece of toast. Move one arm in a clockwise circle, and the other arm in a counterclockwise circle.^[9]
   
   
4. Use your arms to come up from the bottom. If you're below water and would like to come up, use your arms to propel yourself. Put them straight up above your head, and quickly bring them down to your sides. This should push you up a few feet. Repeat until you break the surface.
   

Learning Advanced Techniques

1. Try some more advanced strokes. Once you're more comfortable in the water, you can start learning new strokes that will move you more quickly or with less energy. Try these:
   
   
   • Learn the dolphin stroke.
   • The butterfly stroke .
   • Swim the breaststroke.
   • Do the sidestroke.
   • Try swimming laps.
2. Try diving.^[10] Dives can be a fun way to get into the water and start a stroke. Start with a basic dive, and move on to more complicated swan dive, back dive, and rolling dive.^[11]
   
   
   • Always make sure the water is deep enough before you dive. At a bare minimum, the water should be deep; if you're a tall person, make it at least .

Being Prepared for Unlikely Situations

1. Know how to get out of a rip current. If you're swimming in the ocean, you might get caught in a rip current. Knowing what to do can save your life, so try to memorize these steps before you get into the water.^[12]
   
   • Do not panic. This is, by far, the most important step of all. By flailing and panicking, you could actually keep yourself under the water.
   • Swim sideways. Do not try to swim directly to shore or directly out further into the ocean. Instead, try to swim in a line that's exactly parallel to the shoreline.
   • Swim in a stroke that allows you to breathe. Swim with the strongest stroke you can do that also allows you plenty of room to breathe. This might be a sidestroke, front crawl, or breaststroke.
   • Keep swimming until you're out of the rip current. You might have to swim quite far before you're safely out of the rip current, but keep going. You don't want to undo the good work you've done so far by heading for shore at the wrong time.
   • If possible call out for help. If you can, motion to the lifeguard or yell "Help!" as soon as possible. However, don't do this if it means sacrificing a breath or if you have to stop swimming - it's better to keep yourself moving.
2. Know how to get out of a river current. If you're caught in a river that's flowing too quickly or pushing you under, follow these steps to get out:^[13]
   
   • Don't flail or panic. As with a rip current, panicking and flailing your limbs can push you deeper into the water. Try to take even breaths and remain calm.
   • Aim to swim diagonally toward the shoreline. Swimming toward the shoreline at a 90-degree angle will force you to fight with the current too much, and might cause you to become exhausted quickly. Instead, plan to get to the shoreline at a diagonal angle that goes with the current.
   • Don't try to swim upstream. You'll spend too much energy for not enough results. Only try to swim upstream if there's immediate danger downstream, such as sharp rocks or a waterfall.
   • If you are being rapidly carried downstream by the current, point your feet in the direction you are being carried. This may prevent you from striking your head on a rock or other obstruction.

How Can You Learn to Swim?

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Tips

• Swim in pools that are shallow (one meter deep) if you are a beginner.
• Start off swimming lessons where there are no currents or waves.
• Make sure to buy some ear drops. They help in case your ears get clogged.
• Remember you can always put your feet down if you begin to panic.
• Use a kick board, life jacket, or arm floats to help stay afloat if you feel nervous about moving around the water.
• If you have lighter colored hair, invest in a swimmer’s shampoo and/or a sturdy swim cap so your hair doesn't discolor or break off.
• If you are nervous getting into the water, try putting your feet in first and slowly make your way in.
• Practice with family members until you feel confident in the water on your own.
• Close your mouth or invest in a snorkel so you don’t get chemically-treated pool water or bacteria from the people who’ve been in there previously.
• If possible, learn to swim under the supervision of a trained lifeguard. He or she has been taught to recognize signs that you need help, even if you're underwater and unable to call out.
• If you are floating on your back, stay calm or you won't float.
• Practice with an experienced swimmer for more help.
• Use safety equipment especially if you are a novice and/or younger as accidents can and will happen.
• If you're a beginner, swim close to the edge so you can hold on if you need to.
• Using supportive floats can be a great way to start experimenting with swimming and floating in calm waters.
• If you have long hair, consider wearing a swim cap to keep it out of your way. In addition, some public pools require swimmers with long hair to wear them, so it can't hurt to have one on hand.
• Be confident before you start progressing to the deep end.
• Always shower after swimming, because the chlorine is very damaging and drying. After showering, make sure to moisturize properly as well.
• Just be aware that if your hair is blonde or lighter the chlorine might turn it green.

Warnings

• Never swim in a storm that has lightning with it. Lightning targets water, and can shock everyone in it if it hits the water. If you can hear thunder even from miles away, you can be struck by lightning.
• Be extremely cautious about swimming in moving water, such as the ocean or a lake. Rip currents can suddenly pull you out from the shore.
• Learning to swim is a slow process. Don't bite off more than you can chew.
• If you are still a beginner, never try to swim in the "deep end" of a pool, unless you are with an adult that can swim at an excellent level.
• You don't have to know the Olympic styles unless you want to compete.

Things You'll Need

• Another highly experienced swimmer
• Goggles (optional)
• Nose plug (optional)
• Kick board (optional)
• Proper fitting swim trunks/suit

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References

Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.redcross.org/get-help/how-to-prepare-for-emergencies/types-of-emergencies/water-safety/swim-safety.html
2. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sS0PZSrI-GI
3. ↑ https://www.swimming.org/openwater/panic-open-water-swimming/
4. ↑ https://www.enjoy-swimming.com/breathing-while-swimming.html
5. ↑ https://www.swimming.org/learntoswim/wearing-goggles-in-swimming-lessons/
6. ↑ https://www.swimming.org/learntoswim/learning-the-four-swimming-strokes/
7. ↑ https://www.myactivesg.com/sports/swimming/training-method/swimming-for-beginners/how-to-swim-front-crawl
8. ↑ [v161241_b02]. 13 February 2020.
9. ↑ https://www.enjoy-swimming.com/how-to-tread-water.html
10. ↑ [v161241_b02]. 13 February 2020.
11. ↑ https://www.health.ny.gov/environmental/outdoors/camps/aquatics/minimum_water_depths_for_head_first_diving.htm
12. ↑ https://www.usla.org/page/ripcurrents
13. ↑ https://rnli.org/magazine/magazine-featured-list/2017/july/how-to-get-out-of-a-rip-current

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How to Make People Feel Good

The ability to make other people happy is a great skill. You'll seem more charismatic and more people will gravitate towards you. Keep the people around you happy by showing them that you care about them. Make friendly conversation by listening more than you talk and ask questions about people. Praise their accomplishments and remember details about their lives to make them feel important. In general, maintain a positive attitude and good sense of humor. These feelings are contagious to the people around you.

Things You Should Know

• When talking to someone, listen attentively to them without any distractions. Ask questions about them and be enthusiastic about what they say.^[1]
• Remember little things about people and ask about them, like how their weekend was.
• Give people compliments and admire their accomplishments. If someone does something for you, write them a thank you card.

Steps

Friendly Conversation

1. Listen more than you speak. Try not to dominate conversations. If you do all the talking in a conversation, people will feel like you’re talking at them. Instead, let other people talk and only provide input when they’re finished. This makes you look like a polite, attentive person who cares what other people have to say.^[2][3]
   
   • Don’t interrupt a person while they’re speaking. People don’t like being cut off. Always let them finish what they’re saying.
   • Of course, still answer questions if the person asks them. But don’t just look for the next time you can start talking about yourself again. Allow other people to talk.
2. Ask questions about the person. Keep conversations going by asking the other person about themselves.^[4] Give people the opportunity to open up and talk about themselves. They will appreciate talking to someone who listens to them. Even a simple, “How are you doing today?” makes people feel like you care about them.^[5]
   
   • Don’t just ask superficial questions. Demonstrate that you were listening by asking questions based on what they person was saying.
   • For example, if someone is telling you about their vacation and mention they got a flat tire, say, “Wow, how did you fix the tire?” This shows that you’re not only interested, but were paying attention to the story.
3. Look away from your phone or computer when speaking with people. Don’t look distracted while conversing with people. Checking your phone or computer constantly makes you look rude and uninterested. Put your phone down and look away from the computer. Make eye contact with the person so they know you’re paying attention.^[6][7]
   
   • If you do have to check your phone, excuse yourself and say, “Sorry, I have to check this for one second.”
   • If you are actually busy and don’t have time to talk, be polite about it. Say, “I’d love to talk some more but I have a work call to make. I’ll see you later.”
4. Be enthusiastic about what they say. Get excited when someone tells you something. If they share a piece of good news or an accomplishment, congratulate them. A simple, “That’s great!” will make them feel like they really did accomplish something and that you care about it.^[8]
   
   • People sometimes get shy when you compliment them. If they say something like, “Oh, it’s no big deal,” you can follow up with, “Well just know I’m happy for you.” This maintains the personal connection with the other person without making them uncomfortable.
5. Return compliments if the other person gives them. It’s possible someone will congratulate or compliment you in a conversation. Thank them sincerely for the compliment, and then return a compliment. This makes you look both gracious and generous at the same time.^[9]
   
   • A coworker might say that you offered a great idea in the meeting today. You could respond, “Thanks, I’m glad you liked it. With your skills I’m sure you can pull it off.”
6. Avoid criticizing their opinions. Inevitably, you’ll disagree with people on some of their beliefs or opinions. Keep the conversation friendly and don’t criticize them. Allow them to voice their opinions. That way, they’ll continue feeling safe and happy talking to you.^[10]
   
   • You can still voice your disagreement without being hostile. Just simply saying, “That’s not the way I see it, but I get your point,” shows that you disagree but also gives the other person credit.
   • If you want to avoid confrontation altogether, you can just ignore their opinion and try to steer the conversation elsewhere.

Attention and Appreciation

1. Remember details about people’s lives. This is a great practice for connecting with people and showing them you really care about what they’re saying. If you always forget things they’ve told you, it will seem like you aren’t listening to them. Make an effort to remember the details they’ve told you to increase your connection with the person.^[11]
   
   • Ask about these details too. Someone might tell you on Friday that they’re going to a concert over the weekend. If you see them on Monday, ask how the concert was. This shows you were listening and that you care about them.
   • If you have trouble remembering things, try doing some exercises to improve your memory.
2. Show your interest with nonverbal cues. Certain mannerisms and body language show a person you’re paying attention. Nodding, making eye contact, and changing your facial expression according to what they say all shows the person that you’re invested in what they say. Don’t remain firm or unresponsive. This shows that you don’t care about the conversation.^[12]
   
   • If someone tells you a story about something unexpected happening, widen your eyes and make a shocked face. They’ll feel like you’re completely invested in the story.
   • You can also do this when you aren’t directly having a conversation with someone. If a coworker is giving a presentation in a conference room, look at them while they speak. Nod along when they make a good point, and take notes. These all make the person speaking feel important and they will appreciate it.
3. Offer praise in moderation. Compliments and praise are great ways to make someone feel important. Give compliments to other people, but don’t overdo it. If you constantly compliment everyone, your praise won’t look genuine. Be sincere when you compliment people, and then move on.^[13]
   
   • Don’t continue complimenting the person after they’ve already acknowledged your compliment. If they say thank you, don’t say, “No but really, you did a great job.” This could come off as fake.
4. Bring attention to their accomplishments. Compliments don’t only have to be private matters. If someone you know accomplished something, let other people know about it. The person will be happy to see that other people take their accomplishments seriously.^[14]
   
   • This doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. You might be giving a presentation and say, “I’d like to thank John for doing a great job on these figures here.” This quick statement gives John credit without dwelling on the matter.
   • However, if someone asks you to keep something quiet, respect their wishes. They may want to be the one to tell a certain person or might just be shy about it.
5. Write thank-you notes if a person does something for you. Making people feel appreciated is another great way to show them that they’re important. If someone helps you out, take some time to write them a genuine thank-you note or email. Explain how they helped you and let them know you appreciate it.^[15]
   
   • Personal thank-you’s work as well. Try to find the person and thank them. Saying, “I just wanted to drop by and say thanks for that favor you did,” shows that you went out of your way for them.
   • If you can’t find the person, a thankful phone call is great too.

Positive Energy

1. Avoid gossiping and talking about other people negatively. Spreading gossip about people creates a more hostile and less friendly environment. If you get a reputation for doing this, less people will want to interact with you. Stay away from gossiping and make yourself someone that people feel comfortable talking to. They’ll be much happier around you.^[16]
   
   • This is a good situation where thinking about the Golden Rule helps. Would you like someone spreading rumors about you? Probably not. So don’t spread rumors about others.
2. Treat people the way you’d like to be treated. This is often called the “Golden Rule” for a reason. If you want to make people happy, just think about what makes you happy. Then treat people accordingly. Live by this code and you’ll be a much friendlier person.^[17]
   
   • Think about if you were talking to someone and you made fun of them for liking a certain band. Would you be happy if someone did that to you? Probably not. Reconsider your actions and apologize.
3. Smile as much as possible. Smiling helps you feel positive and also spreads positivity to the people around you. Make a conscious effort to smile often. You’ll look like a much friendlier person and people are more likely to come talk to you.^[18]
   
   • Whenever you greet people, smile as you say hello. This is an easy way to spread more positive feelings.
   • Don’t try to make your smile as wide as you can. This will look fake. Just slightly turning the corners of your lips up makes you look bright naturally.
4. Have a good sense of humor. Having a sense of humor helps reduce your stress and keep a positive attitude. More importantly, people will gravitate towards you if you’re a fun person. Laugh often and try to brighten other people’s moods. This will spread positive energy all around you and people will appreciate it.^[19]
   
   • Remember that having a sense of humor isn’t just about telling jokes. It’s more about keeping a lighthearted mood about things. If something negative happens, try to find a bright side in it. Be the person that stays optimistic when other people are feeling down.
   • Always know the limits for your humor, however. Don’t tell inappropriate jokes. If people don’t seem amused by your antics, tone it down.

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Tips

• Remember that every situation is different. If something tragic happens, it might not be the best time to show your sense of humor. Judge each situation and act accordingly.

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• Make People Love You
• Make Someone Feel Special

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References

Quick Summary

1. ↑ [v163064_b01]. 19 March 2024.
2. ↑ [v163064_b01]. 19 March 2024.
3. ↑ https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-habits-of-remarkably-charismatic-people.html
4. ↑ [v163064_b01]. 19 March 2024.
5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201807/making-others-feel-good-about-themselves
6. ↑ [v163064_b01]. 19 March 2024.
7. ↑ https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-habits-of-remarkably-charismatic-people.html
8. ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/01/affective-presence-how-you-make-other-people-feel/579643/
9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201807/making-others-feel-good-about-themselves
10. ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/01/affective-presence-how-you-make-other-people-feel/579643/
11. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201807/making-others-feel-good-about-themselves
12. ↑ https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-habits-of-remarkably-charismatic-people.html
13. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201807/making-others-feel-good-about-themselves
14. ↑ https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-habits-of-remarkably-charismatic-people.html
15. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201807/making-others-feel-good-about-themselves
16. ↑ https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-habits-of-remarkably-charismatic-people.html
17. ↑ https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/297772
18. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201206/there-s-magic-in-your-smile
19. ↑ https://www.businessinsider.com/a-sense-of-humor-could-mean-youre-healthier-happier-and-smarter-2017-10

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How to Stop Procrastinating

Break the habit of procrastination with these productive tips

Do you have a hard time staying on task? Do you constantly leave things on your to-do list till the last minute? If so, you’re likely procrastinating. Procrastination can stem from stress, frustration, or perfectionism. No matter why you may be procrastinating, there are many ways to break the habit and get back on task. Check out this list of the best tips and tricks to overcome procrastination and stay motivated.

The Best Way to Stop Procrastinating

Life coach Wendy Lynne says to start by identifying the root cause of your procrastination. Usually, it stems from fear or anxiety. Once you address whatever is holding you back emotionally, it will be easier to move ahead with your task. Set goals and break up your task into smaller pieces so it's less overwhelming.

Steps

Write a to-do list to set goals.

1. Make a record of all the tasks you need to accomplish.^[1] Include short-term tasks you need to finish daily and weekly and long-term goals that may take months or years to accomplish. Seeing everything written down can help you plan out what needs to be done to meet your goals.^[2]
   
   • Write this list on paper or in your phone—do whatever’s best for you!

Tackle your most important task for 15 minutes.

1. Set a timer and work on a task for a designated amount of time. Instead of thinking about the total number of hours you’re about to work for, just start. Tell yourself you’ve only got to do it for 15 minutes. This will deal with the intimidation factor, and you’ll likely spend much longer than 15 minutes on your task before you stop working again.^[3]
   
   • If 15 minutes still sounds too intimidating, start with 3 or 5 minutes to warm yourself up.
   • Once the timer goes off, take a 2-minute break. Then, start up on another set of 15 minutes of work.

Break tasks down into small chunks.

1. Tackle things one step at a time so you don't get overwhelmed. It can be overwhelming to think about finishing a whole essay or completing a week’s worth of tasks. Instead of thinking about everything you must do, like one big obstacle, break it down into tiny pieces.^[4] You'll be able to get started on the smallest crumb and go forward from there.^[5]
   
   • For example, instead of thinking, “I need to finish this essay before 10 PM tonight,” tell yourself, “I’m going to make a short outline, fill that in, and then look for quotes.”
   • Consider trying a specific technique like Pomodoro, in which you work from 25-minute chunks and take 5-minute breaks in between.
   • Avoid making a long, disorganized to-do list. This is just setting yourself up for failure. Instead, create subcategories like "Home," "Work," "Family," and "Fun" and try to cross off a few entries from each list every day.
   • Similarly, avoid multitasking or working on more than 1 task at once, as this could make you feel overwhelmed or stressed.

Start your day with the hardest tasks.

1. Make a plan in the morning and pick the hardest task first. You’ll be most energized in the morning once you’ve eaten breakfast and woken up fully. Tackle the hardest thing on your docket right then. You’ll feel better once it’s done, and then you can move on to a few easier tasks for the rest of the day.^[6]
   
   • Keep in mind that this strategy isn’t for everyone, so stick to tackling your most difficult tasks whenever you feel the most motivated.
   • For instance, if you're a morning person, do your toughest work right after you wake up. On the other hand, if you tend to be groggy in the morning, you risk making careless errors or frustration by going headfirst into a difficult task.

Prioritize goals with set deadlines.

1. Try using a strategy like the Eisenhower Box for prioritizing your tasks. Categorize all you have to do into 4 categories: tasks that must be done immediately, tasks that can be done later (or rescheduled), tasks that can be delegated to someone else, and tasks that aren't important and can be eliminated. The strength of this strategy is that it works well with the tasks you must complete in a given day but also on longer timescales, like weeks or months.^[7]
   
   • Use a planner to help schedule your time and stay motivated.

Pick a workspace that works for you.

1. Help motivate yourself with a distraction-free environment. Where you do your work or task can play a big part in how motivated you feel. For instance, if you’re studying for a test, pick a study space with limited foot traffic and plenty of space to lay out your textbooks.^[8]
   
   • For some, being in a new environment helps motivate them to work. Try bringing your work or task to a local library, coffee shop, or bookstore to feel inspired.

Use apps to prevent online distractions.

1. Stay focused by eliminating your ability to waste time online.^[9] If you're working on your cellphone or computer, it can be tempting to open up other apps or browsers instead of working on the task. Thankfully, there are plenty of apps out there to help block this urge!
   
   • For smartphones, try these apps:^[10]
     • AppDetox uses blockage rules that only let you use selected apps for a set amount of time.
     • Forest grows trees for however long you stay focused.
   • For laptops and computers, try these browser extensions:^[11]
     • Freedom blocks distractions on all your devices at once.
     • Self-Control blocks a list of websites for set amounts of time.
     • Cold Turkey Blocker schedules system-wide blocking.

Put your phone in a different room.

1. Keep your phone out of reach if it’s distracting you. If you can’t handle being in the same space as something that’s going to tempt you, address that problem by keeping it in another room or turning it off. This also goes for other devices, including iPads, Kindles, or computers.^[12]
   
   • If you need to keep your phone on for family or work-related reasons, turn off all your notifications except for texts and/or calls.

Listen to music without lyrics.

1. Instrumental music can help boost your productivity. Many people struggle to work and stay focused in a completely silent room, but listening to popular songs could have you singing along rather than completing your task. So, opt for white noise, nature sounds, or instrumental music to help you stay on task.^[13]
   

Promise yourself a reward.

1. Motivate yourself to finish a task with something you love. Tell yourself that when you complete your to-do list, you’ll get to celebrate with one of your favorite things. This anticipation can be used to push yourself through the pain.^[14]
   
   • Try rewarding yourself with a meal at your favorite restaurant, seeing a movie with a friend, or buying yourself something you’ve always wanted.
   • Be careful not to over-reward yourself. Stick with small end-of-the-day rewards, and save big celebrations for when you accomplish something tremendous.

Give yourself a pep talk for motivation.

1. “Self-talking” is a great way to calm yourself down and get focused. Using positive self-talk can even help you meet your goals. Talk to yourself, using your name. Tell yourself that you can (and will) do this.^[15]
   
   • Self-talk by saying something like, “Dariel, I know this week has been hard, and you’re tired. You’ve written a million essays before, and you’ll rock this.”^[16]
   • You can also ask yourself questions: “Amari, why are you nervous about this? You know you can handle it.”
   • Self-talk out loud if you can. It’ll also work in your head if you’re in a public place.

Stop punishing yourself for procrastinating.

1. The more stressed you are, the harder it’ll be to get your work done. Do your best to avoid getting angry with yourself. Guilt and regret are draining emotions and can easily leave you feeling tired and frustrated rather than motivated. Instead, focus on the task at hand and set your emotions aside.^[17]
   

Aim for completion over perfection.

1. Imagining the perfect outcome could be holding you back. Believe it or not, procrastination can stem from perfectionism. Break your procrastination habit by aiming to finish a task or project rather than perfecting it. Remember, you can always go back later and iron out the kinks. But for now, focus on getting the task done.^[18]
   

Ask someone to hold you accountable.

1. Staying on task and completing your goals doesn’t have to be a solo endeavor. It can be hard to stay away from distractions when you’re doing it alone. Ask a friend or family member if they’d be willing to check in on your work habits and accomplishments. This way, they can help set you back on track if they notice you’re distracted or falling behind.^[19]
   
   • Try planning fun outings with each other to reward yourself for meeting your goals.
   • Hold accountability meetings each week or month to catch each other up on whether or not you’re meeting your goals and deadlines.

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• If you’re suffering from anxiety or depression associated with your procrastination, talk to your doctor or therapist. It’s okay to ask for help. You don’t have to go through this alone.^[20]

Related wikiHows

• Motivate Yourself
• Persuade Yourself to Do Anything
• Set Goals
• Overcome Laziness
• Hypnotize Yourself Using the Best Me Technique

References

Quick Summary

1. ↑ [v162042_b01]. 2 December 2021.
2. ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/why-wait-the-science-behind-procrastination#.WVK-49Pytok
3. ↑ https://summer.harvard.edu/blog/8-time-management-tips-for-students/
4. ↑ [v162042_b01]. 2 December 2021.
5. ↑ https://news.uga.edu/break-large-tasks-down-into-smaller-more-manageable-pieces/
6. ↑ https://eoss.asu.edu/content/easy-ways-stay-organized-and-productive
7. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/top-tips-for-setting-goals-and-priorities
8. ↑ https://effectiveu.umn.edu/study/improve-space
9. ↑ [v162042_b01]. 2 December 2021.
10. ↑ https://www.pcworld.com/article/443724/read-this-now-7-clever-mobile-apps-to-conquer-procrastination.html
11. ↑ https://zapier.com/blog/stay-focused-avoid-distractions/
12. ↑ https://www.boisestate.edu/coen-mbe/2021/04/20/5-ways-to-stop-procrastinating/
13. ↑ https://www.nu.edu/blog/can-music-help-you-study-and-focus/
14. ↑ https://hbr.org/2018/11/how-to-keep-working-when-youre-just-not-feeling-it
15. ↑ [v162042_b01]. 2 December 2021.
16. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201505/the-voice-reason
17. ↑ https://www.npr.org/2021/01/11/955692434/procrastination-is-more-than-putting-things-off-heres-how-to-kick-the-habit
18. ↑ https://writingcenter.unc.edu/tips-and-tools/procrastination/
19. ↑ https://www.colorado.edu/health/blog/goal-setting
20. ↑ https://caps.ku.edu/procrastination

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How to Introverted Extrovert

Plus simple steps to thrive as an introverted extrovert

Do you get all hyped up to go to a party only to find yourself suddenly fading after an hour or two? Do your friends constantly comment on how extroverted you are, but you know deep down that you’re a homebody at heart? If so, you may be an introverted extrovert! Read below to find out more about this personality type that blends the introvert vs. extrovert dichotomy into the best of both worlds. Plus, we interviewed life coaches Tara Bradford and Lauren Krasny for their insight on how to thrive as an introverted extrovert.

Introverted Extrovert Meaning

Introverted extroverts are people who enjoy socializing but need alone time to rest and recharge. The introverted extrovert, also called the “outgoing introvert,” is a type of ambivert—meaning that they blend traits of extroverted and introverted personality types.

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What is an introverted extrovert?

1. An introverted extrovert socializes but needs solo time to recharge. Also referred to as “outgoing introverts,” introverted extroverts love being around other people but find frequent socialization draining. They need quiet, alone time to regain energy and recharge their social batteries.^[1]
   
   • An introverted extrovert is an extrovert at heart with some introverted tendencies.
   • Introverts and extroverts are on opposite sides of the personality scale; however, most people fall somewhere in the middle.^[2]
   • True extroverts gain energy from social activities. They’re generally optimistic, quick to respond to communication, feel comfortable expressing their opinions and emotions, and prefer to work in groups rather than individually.^[3]
   • True introverts, on the other hand, gain energy from their alone time. They’re often shy, creative, and thoughtful and prefer small social gatherings or deep conversations rather than parties or small talk.

10 Signs You’re an Introverted Extrovert

1. You have an equal need for alone time and social outings. Although you may feel really outgoing and like the life of the party in social situations, you also crave being alone and having time to recharge.^[4]
   
   • While having a full calendar of social commitments may seem fun, it can exhaust you if you do too much.
   • Spending time at home and having a personal space that feels like yours is a high priority for you.
2. You gain energy only from certain people. While a true extrovert recharges from socialization with almost anyone, you may only get that energy burst from your nearest and dearest. You may maintain a large social circle of friends, but you likely have a small group of close loved ones that you truly feel energized by.^[5]
   
3. Your energy level depends on the topic of the conversation. You’re likely to be very high-energy and enthusiastic when discussing topics you’re passionate about, but your energy wanes when it comes to subjects you’re less interested in. Similarly, you may tap into your energy more or less depending on who’s involved in the conversation (i.e., whether they’re a person who gives you energy or not).^[6]
   
4. You need time to warm up to a new social environment. You won’t be bringing the energy the second you walk through the doors. You need a moment to adjust to your new surroundings before you can really turn the energy up. Similarly, you prefer to mentally prepare and recharge before engaging in social activities.^[7]
   
5. You enjoy being at the party but not being the center of attention. You like receiving praise and attention from others, but you don’t want to be the star of the show. This trait may also apply to professional situations, where you often take the lead but don’t like to receive any fanfare for it.^[8]
   
6. You host and then ghost. Basically, you enjoy seeing people but may go off the grid for a bit afterward. For example, you might host a massive dinner party for a big group of your friends and then disengage from social plans for the following week while you recharge and recover.^[9]
   
7. You enjoy having deep conversations in person but not over text. You may avoid picking up the phone when friends call out of the blue or take your sweet time responding to texts you don’t have immediate energy for. When you do respond to texts and emails, your reply may be lacking the same enthusiasm you would give in person.
   
8. You love helping others but struggle to accept help yourself. You show a great deal of care and generosity to your loved ones but have difficulty receiving the same level of attention. The people close to you may perceive you as someone who rejects help or struggles to open up.
   
9. You’re more vulnerable than you may appear. Like an introvert, you have a rich inner world and are constantly processing the environment around you. You keep your cards close to the chest and conceal some personal details so most people don't observe the depth of your vulnerability and sensitivity. While some people may see that side of you, others may have very different perceptions.^[10]
   
10. You’re often mistaken for an extrovert. Your social, extroverted side may seem more obvious to others than your quiet, reflective side. Some people may describe you as super flirtatious or outgoing, even if you don’t intend to come across that way. And, internally, you probably feel much more like an introvert than an extrovert.^[11]
    

Benefits and Challenges for Introverted Extroverts

1. You benefit from both the outgoing and reserved sides of your personality. As an introverted extrovert, you may rely on your extroverted self to exude confidence and enthusiasm. At the same time, your introverted qualities make you deeply thoughtful and considerate.^[12]
   
   • As a result, you can easily adapt and be prepared for whatever your present situation calls for.
   • For example, you’re able to be spontaneous and adventurous and bring energy to a social situation when the moment calls for it.
   • In more serious moments, however, you have no problem tapping into your introverted side, slowing down, and reflecting on your feelings or the feelings of others.
2. You easily understand the emotional and energetic needs of others. Since you experience aspects of extroversion and introversion, you relate to people on both sides of the dichotomy. You can socialize with your extroverted friends and understand their desire to go out and meet new people. However, you also empathize with your introverted friends who value alone time and need space to recharge.
   
3. Other people may struggle to understand your personality traits and needs. You may be running around excitedly at a social event when, all of a sudden, you hit a wall and withdraw. This sudden change in energy and demeanor may make you seem moody to others. Certain people may also misunderstand you because they can’t get a clear read on your personality.^[13]
   
   • You may even struggle to understand your feelings if you aren’t aware that you’re an introverted extrovert.
   • You may feel confused when you suddenly feel shut down in a social setting or wonder why you feel drained around certain people.

How to Thrive as an Introverted Extrovert

1. Know your limits in social situations. Take note of when you start feeling drained and in which environments you’re typically in when feeling this way. When you start to feel this introversion creep in, take a step back and excuse yourself from the gathering or party. Avoid forcing yourself to be social and energetic when you’re not feeling it.
   
   • Life and mindset coach Tara Bradford recommends considering questions like, “Why is this draining? Is it because you're spending a long time? Is it because you're getting defensive? Is it because you're mad at yourself for not speaking up in the meeting because someone else took over the conversation?”^[14]
   • In the future, understanding when and why you lose steam in social settings may mean you can exit while you’re still riding an extroverted high rather than leaving feeling moody and drained.
   • Maybe you always cap out at 5 hours, or you get quickly drained in a club versus a house party setting.
2. Identify which people drain you more than others. As Bradford describes it, “Not everybody’s going to drain you, and not all numbers of people” will either.^[15] “Maybe one-on-one conversations are okay, and you feel energized after that,” continues Bradford, “but speaking in front of five or more people feels draining.”^[16]
   
   • Bradford goes on to assure that “you can have those relationships with a fewer number of people, but you have to see what works for you and really pay attention to your energy levels before and after talking to different types of people.”^[17]
   • Deciding that a certain friend or group of friends especially drains you doesn’t have to mean anything bad about your relationship.
   • In fact, realizing that you're better off seeing those people in shorter bursts of time may actually improve the strength of your relationship in the long run.
3. Communicate your needs and boundaries to loved ones. Set boundaries about how much time you can spend with others. Don’t be afraid to say no to taxing social engagements. Tell your closest pals when you need alone time to recharge and remind them that it has nothing to do with them personally.^[18]
   
   • You just need some time to yourself in order to be your best self for them later!
4. Focus on quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. While you may make friends easily and genuinely enjoy having a wide circle of friends, you likely gain more from meaningful relationships. Prioritize spending your time on deeper, more intimate friendships rather than trying to be a friend to all.^[19]
   
5. Find pride in the more introverted side of your personality. Since famed psychologist Carl Jung introduced the idea of extroverted and introverted personalities in the early 1900s, many people have been socialized to believe that being an extrovert makes you inherently more likable and dynamic.^[20]
   
   • However, having introverted qualities has nothing to do with your social capacity—it simply means that you require time to rest and recharge away from others.
6. Be flexible and patient with yourself. You and your personality traits may change over time, as they will for practically anybody. Resist the urge to compare yourself to past versions of you, e.g., “I was so much more social when I was younger.” Change is a normal part of growth, and the strengthening of your introverted traits may be more authentic for your current self!^[21]
   
7. Explore careers that utilize your extroverted and introverted traits. Since you experience both sides of the extroversion vs. introversion scale, you’re likely able to empathize and connect with more people. You may thrive and easily advance in careers like sales and teaching that require a natural skill for talking with and listening to others.^[22]
   
   • In any field, make sure you play to your special strengths as someone with both introverted and extroverted qualities.
   • For example, suppose you are a really strong leader in the workplace but struggle to give presentations in front of large groups. Consider what may help you in this situation, recommends career coach Lauren Krasny.^[23]
   • “If [you’re] not a dynamic speaker,” offers Krasny, “would it help to plan out a presentation, create a really detailed agenda or other types of preparation that would enable [you] to demonstrate leadership, even if [you’re] uncomfortable with some of the conventional methods associated with being a strong leader.”^[24]
   • Interested in hearing about what jobs introverts excel in? Check out our What are the best jobs for introverts? forum.

Introverted Extrovert vs. Extroverted Introvert

1. Extroverted introverts are mostly introverted, unlike introverted extroverts. Extroverted introverts are introverts at their core, so they mainly prefer solo time but occasionally crave social interaction (which makes them somewhat extroverted). Conversely, introverted extroverts are fundamentally social but occasionally need to recharge by themselves (making them somewhat introverted).^[25]
   
   • Essentially, both personality types resonate more with introversion or extroversion on a daily basis. However, they sometimes exhibit traits and needs that typically belong to the other group.
   • If someone prefers to be alone most of the time despite coming across as socially confident and charismatic, they are probably an extroverted introvert rather than an introverted extrovert.
   • Other signs of extroverted introverts include a distaste for small talk and experiencing feelings of loneliness after they’ve spent a significant amount of time recharging on their own.

Introverted Extroverts vs. Ambiverts & Omniverts

1. Introverted extroverts are a type of ambivert. Ambiverts are people with both introverted extroverted traits, which can include both introverted extroverts and extroverted introverts. Someone may identify as one or the other depending on whether they’re more extroverted or introverted at their core. Ambiverts often have a higher sense of self-awareness and possess other traits such as:^[26]
   
   • Being neither overly reserved nor overly outgoing.
   • Adaptability when situations or plans change.
   • A capacity to work alone just as well as they work in groups.
   • Equal appreciation of social engagements and alone time.
   • Being thoughtful in weighing out options but able to decide quickly when the moment calls for it.
2. Omniverts switch between being either total introverts or total extroverts. People with omnivert personalities oscillate between extreme levels of introversion and extroversion based on their mood and environment. This differs from introverted extroverts, who balance their extroverted core with introverted traits rather than swinging from one side of the spectrum to the other.^[27]
   
   • Unlike introverted extroverts and other ambiverts, omniverts often struggle to manage the two sides of their personality.

MBTI Personality Type for Introverted Extroverts

1. Introverted extroverts are most similar to the ENFJ Myers-Brigg type. The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) determines personality type based on four indicators, the most major of which is extroversion (E) vs. introversion (I). The ENFJ (Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging) is similar to the introverted extrovert because they are both energized by socialization.^[28]
   
   • ENFJs also value ideas and concepts over hard logic and factual information. They tend to make decisions based on gut feeling rather than well-laid plans.
   • Similar to the introverted extrovert, ENFJs balance their energy, empathy, and introspection to make an extroverted personality that still lets the introvert shine through.

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• Even true extroverts can be shy, have social anxiety, or even have weak interpersonal skills. Keep in mind that while we often use introversion and shyness interchangeably, any personality type can possess any trait.
• Extroverts can’t just wake up one day and become more introverted, and the same is true for the reverse. Personality traits like introversion and extroversion, or falling somewhere along the spectrum, are believed to be an innate part of who we are—and may even be linked to our DNA.^[29]
• It’s not very rare to be an introverted extrovert. In fact, nearly 70% of people don’t identify strongly with extroversion or introversion. Most people consider themselves ambiverts, or a blend of the two sides of the spectrum.^[30]
• If you’re unsure about your personality type, start by taking this Introvert or Extrovert Quiz.

References

1. ↑ https://www.personalitopia.com/introverted-extrovert-extroverted-introvert/
2. ↑ https://icd.umn.edu/news/introvert-extrovert-or-other
3. ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/introvert-vs-extrovert
4. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
5. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
6. ↑ https://www.goalcast.com/introverted-extrovert/
7. ↑ https://www.lifesorted.com/7-signs-youre-an-introverted-extrovert/
8. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
9. ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ambivert/
10. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
11. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
12. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
13. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
14. ↑ [v161551_b01].Wednesday, September 16, 2020
15. ↑ [v161551_b01].Wednesday, September 16, 2020
16. ↑ [v161551_b01].Wednesday, September 16, 2020
17. ↑ [v161551_b01].Wednesday, September 16, 2020
18. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
19. ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ambivert/
20. ↑ https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20130717-what-makes-someone-an-extrovert
21. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
22. ↑ https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Grant_PsychScience2013.pdf
23. ↑ [v161315_b01]. 27 March 2020.
24. ↑ [v161315_b01]. 27 March 2020.
25. ↑ https://www.personalitopia.com/introverted-extrovert-extroverted-introvert/
26. ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/ambivert/
27. ↑ https://www.truity.com/blog/whats-difference-between-ambivert-and-omnivert
28. ↑ https://www.16personalities.com/enfj-personality
29. ↑ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27918536/
30. ↑ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797612463706

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