How to Define Your Personality

Determining how to define your personality can be challenging. But knowing what your personality is can help you understand yourself and others better. By defining your personality, you can think about the positive traits you posses that make you a good person, and reflect on traits that you may still need to work on. Everyone has positive and negative traits, and defining your personality can help you determine where you personally shine, and where you may still want to grow. You can easily define your personality if you determine how you describe yourself and explore some of the more popular and researched systems of defining personality.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Determining How You Describe Yourself

1. Make a list of your traits. Traits are the parts of you that don’t usually change much over time.^[1] They are characteristics about you that may be positive, while others might be a bit more negative. Your personality is the sum of all these traits and characteristics and is what makes you a unique person. Listing your traits can help you define your personality.
   
   • For example, you might write that you are sensitive, caring, stubborn, determined, ambitious, hard-working, and dependable.
   • Use words that describe how you think, behave, and feel in general.^[2]
   • For instance, you could include: calm, a night owl, sociable, a good planner, or helpful on your list. Look at lists of personality traits online that others have used to define themselves. See which ones are applicable to you, then add words of your own.
   • Include words that family and friends frequently use to describe you. For example, if they are always telling you that you’re comical, put it on the list. You may even ask family and friends to help you find descriptive words for yourself.
2. Examine your attitude and actions. Some studies suggest that your personality influences how you approach situations and your outlook on life.^[3] Other research suggests that personality traits influence behavior.^[4] So, look at your attitude and actions to understand how to define your personality.
   
   • Consider your attitude towards change. Write about a major change in your life. For example, you may write that you felt nervous and worried when you moved.
   • Think about how you handle challenges and obstacles. Then consider how likely you are to take risks, and how you respond to failure or set-backs. Write down the personality traits that come to mind.
   • For example, think about how you react when someone is rude to you. You might write, “I calmly tell them to stop and try to figure out what’s wrong.”
   • Think about the things you do. Would you describe them as individual activities or social?
   • For example, gardening, reading, and painting are individual activities. Social activities are things like team sports and participating in clubs and organizations.
3. Pick three characteristics that summarize you. Think about three words that could be used to describe most of the things on your list. These three words will help you define your personality.^[5] Look over your list and find the words that could be used as synonyms, or to describe some of the other words.
   
   • For instance, ‘ambitious’ could be a word to summarize being determined, hardworking, and goal-oriented.
   • As another example, energetic, fun-loving, independent, and thrill-seeking could be described by the word ‘adventurous’.
   • Identify those three (no more than five) words that would tell someone about you in general if that was all they had to go on.
   • You might determine that you are outgoing, active, and easy-going, for example.

[Edit]Using the Big Five to Define Your Personality

1. Try the Big Five to describe your personality.This popular and well-researched method, also called CANOE or OCEAN, categorizes your personality in terms of a combination of five areas or dimensions: conscientiousness, agreeableness, neuroticism , openness, and extroversion. Using this system can help you define your personality using terms that have been researched and that many people understand.
   
   • For each trait, consider whether you would describe yourself as ‘high’ or ‘low’ on that dimension or more or less like that trait.
   • Compare your list of traits, attitudes, and behaviors to the descriptions of the Big Five personality types to help define your personality.
2. Determine how conscientious you are. If you’re highly focused on your goals, organized, detailed-oriented, considerate of your impact on others, and reliable you can consider yourself conscientious.^[6] Conscientious people are less impulsive and more deliberate in their actions and plans. On the other hand, you may be low in conscientiousness if you are more impulsive and spontaneous.
   
   • For example, if you’re more conscientious and are invited on a spur-of-the-moment vacation, you would think about how much it will cost or how it benefits you.
   • A less conscientious person would just go on the vacation without worrying so much about these things.
3. Examine how agreeable you are. You are likely to define yourself as agreeable if you are kind, helpful, trusting, or if you think about ways to bring people together and make things run smoothly.^[7] You might describe yourself as less agreeable, or disagreeable, if you are more skeptical and suspicious of people, and look out more for your own interests, or if you find that you often come into conflict with others.
   
   • If you tell yourself things like, “I can cut some of the tension in this situation and help us compromise” you are probably high in agreeableness.
   • Thinking things like, “They probably have a secret motive. I’ll just do what’s best for me” is characteristic of people that are more disagreeable.
4. Look for signs that you might be neurotic. Be honest and ask yourself if you are very emotional or sensitive, moody, or unpredictable and emotionally intense.^[8] If you cry frequently, apologize unnecessarily for things you do or say, or find friendly physical contact stressful, these may be signs that you are high in neuroticism. People that are lower in this dimension are calmer, less excitable, and more emotionally stable.
   
   • For instance, if everyday things like traffic jams or missing the bus completely ruin your mood and your day, you may be neurotic.
   • If you aren’t bothered by small nuisances and daily challenges, you are probably low on neuroticism.
5. Ask yourself if you are open to experiences. If you have an open personality, you are okay with change, like new experiences, and learning new things. You are flexible, view life as a chance to explore, and define your personality by your curiosity.^[9] You might be more closed if you are more conservative and prefer routine and tradition to new experiences.
   
   • If you say to yourself, “This is a chance to have a new experience that could turn into an epic adventure with amazing people” you are likely open.
   • If you would rather stick with the safe, conservative plan rather than try the risky one, you are probably more closed.
6. Decide if you are extroverted. You could define yourself as extroverted if you are outgoing, enjoy spending time with others, and like doing things in public. On the other hand, if you are more quiet, enjoy time alone, and less energetic you would define yourself as an introvert.
   
   • For example, you are extroverted if you think to yourself, “How can this be fun? What new people can I meet?” when your friend tells you about a party. You may be introverted if you would prefer to stay home and read or work on a craft project than go to the party.
   • Keep in mind that shyness and introversion are not the same. You may be good with others but prefer to be alone, or you may want to be social but struggle finding common ground. Look at your desire to be with others as an indicator.

[Edit]Determining if You are a Type A or Type B Personality

1. Learn about Type A/B personalities. Defining people as either a Type A or a Type B personality is very popular, especially in the business world. This system of classifying personalities into one of two overall types also has research linking it to health and achievement.^[10] You can define your personality by finding out whether you are more a Type A person or more of a type B person.
   
   • Take an online personality type quiz like the Personality type A/B Test on the University of North Carolina Charlotte website.^[11] You may also look back on previous work evaluations or job feedback to give you an idea.
   • Compare your list of traits to the characteristics of Type A and B personalities. Look to see if you have more traits that are Type A or more that are Type B, keeping in mind that most people have traits that fit into each category.
2. Identify your Type A personality traits. Type A personalities are generally successful, hard-working and very conscious of time. If this fits you and you are also competitive and goal-oriented, you may define yourself as a Type A personality.^[12]
   
   • Type A people are also often more hostile, stressed, anxious, and impatient compared to Type B people.
   • For example, if you tend to get very stressed and extremely upset when something makes you even a little late, you may be Type A.
   • Or, for instance, you might be Type A if you would skip a night out with your friends without a thought in order to finish a report.
   • Check your list of traits to see if you mentioned words like: hard-working, driven, busy, focused, or impatient to see if you are Type A.
3. Decide if you are more of a Type B personality. You may define yourself as Type B if you are more laid back, creative, and tolerant of others.^[13] Type B people are late more often than Type A, but also have less anxiety.
   
   • Look at your list of traits to see if you included: relaxed, easy-going, peaceful, not always reliable, or a good imagination.
   • Think about whether you usually procrastinate when you have assignments or work to do.
   • For example, would you rather play a game of basketball than work on a report that’s due?

[Edit]Exploring Other Ways to Define Your Personality

1. Explore the Myers-Briggs system. This personality system is based on research by the psychologist Carl Jung and is widely used.^[14] The Myers-Briggs categorizes personality along four dimensions. Each dimension has two opposite preferences associated with it. Combining your preference from each of the four dimensions will define your personality according to one of 16 possible types.
   
   • The four dimensions are: introversion/extraversion (I/E); sensing/intuition (S/N); thinking/feeling (T/F); and judging/perceiving (J/P).
   • Compare your personal list of traits to your preferences on each of the four dimensions on the Myers-Briggs.
   • For example, does your list indicate you are more of an ‘I’ or an ‘E’? Do you have more words related to thinking or feeling?
   • You might, for instance, be a ISFP (introverted, sensing, feeling, perceiving) personality based on the traits on your list.
2. Find your Enneagram type. With this system of personality classification you define yourself according to nine different personality types.^[15] Although there is usually some overlap between the nine personality types within a person, most people are more similar to one type than the other eight.
   
   • Evaluate your list of traits to see if they can be described by one of the nine types of personality according to the Enneagram system.
   • Look for clues that you are mostly a: reformer, helper, achiever, individualist, investigator, loyalist, enthusiast, challenger, or peacemaker.
   • For example, if you see traits on your list like: mediator, problem-solver, and diplomatic you may be a peacemaker.
   • Visit http://www.enneagraminstitute.com to learn more about using this personality classification system.
3. Use the Keirsey Temperament Sorter. You can use this system to define your personality along four temperaments or types: the guardian, artisan, idealist, or rational. Similar to the Myers-Briggs and the Big Five, there is a great deal of research related to the Keirsey system.
   
   • Use your list of traits to help you determine which of the four personality types, or temperaments, is most like you.
   • For example, do you have traits on your personal list like imaginative, peaceful, and optimistic that suggest that you are an idealist?
   • Many people use their Myers-Briggs type along with their Keirsey temperament to define their personality.
   • You can also take a short form of the Keirsey Sort at http://www.keirsey.com.

[Edit]Tips

• No matter what type of personality you feel you have, you should always work on valuing yourself and your uniqueness.
• Don’t miss out on a great opportunity because something doesn’t fit how you define your personality.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Have a Great Personality
• Develop a Good Personality
• Understand Your Personality

[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201605/what-the-5-major-personality-traits-mean-you
2. ↑ http://www.livescience.com/41313-personality-traits.html
3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-motives/201008/how-your-personality-shines-through
4. ↑ http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2791901/
5. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sophie-frodsham/what-3-words-define-the-t_b_8483818.html
6. ↑ http://www.livescience.com/41313-personality-traits.html
7. ↑ http://www.foxbusiness.com/features/2011/03/07/personality-matters.html
8. ↑ https://www.verywell.com/the-big-five-personality-dimensions-2795422
9. ↑ http://www.foxbusiness.com/features/2011/03/07/personality-matters.html
10. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201206/are-you-type-or-b-personality
11. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/type-a-vs-type-b-quiz
12. ↑ http://www.simplypsychology.org/personality-a.html
13. ↑ http://www.simplypsychology.org/personality-a.html
14. ↑ http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/
15. ↑ https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works/

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How to Avoid Drama

Drama is emotionally draining. The good news is you don't need to let other people's drama infiltrate your life. Whether you have a dramatic parent, friend, coworker, or neighbor, it's possible to set boundaries and steer clear of the drama for good. Check out the tips below to learn how to avoid drama and all of the negativity that comes with it.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Minimizing Your Own Drama in the Heat of the Moment

1. Think before you act. In the heat of the moment, avoid making a scene over nothing (or losing credibility by overreacting to something that does indeed need to be dealt with). When someone upsets you, take a breath or two before you respond to them. Think of yourself in the third person, as though you are watching yourself from the outside. Examine the reasons why this incident has upset you so you can deal with it in a thoughtful manner instead of acting impulsively.^[1] Ask yourself:
   
   • “Would I be as upset over this if other parts of my life (school, work, family, etc.) weren’t so stressful at the moment?”
   • “Am I really this upset over this one incident, or am I already angry with this person over something else entirely?”
   • “Would this person do the same thing to me if they knew how much it would upset me, or would they refrain in the future if I simply explained why I don’t appreciate this?”
2. Rein in your emotions. You’re not a robot, so allow yourself a moment to feel upset and angry. Give that feeling a chance to wash over you and then recede a little before you react. Resist the urge to attack the other person (emotionally, physically, or both), which will only make the situation much more stressful. Avoid the following traps:^[2].
   
   • Engaging in a tit-for-tat exchange in an attempt to hurt the other person as much as they hurt you.
   • Insisting that you get the last word in.
   • Plotting intricate revenge (or even just plain old revenge) in order to get back at them.
3. Act constructively. Ride your initial emotions out a little. Identify the reason why you felt upset to begin with. Then think of what steps you can take to actually improve the situation, rather than simply extend it.^[3] Choose actions that will solve the matter here and now and reduce the chance of it happening again in the future. Consider whether or not:
   
   • Sharing your thoughts and feelings in a calm, straightforward manner will make the other person reconsider their own actions.^[4]
   • Assuring them that they are safe to communicate honestly with you, too, will reduce the risk of future incidents.
   • Walking away from the situation entirely is the only real way to deescalate it.^[5]
4. Identify the source early on. When you find yourself time and time again in situations that always seem to escalate into drama, take a step back. Consider each situation on its own. Then compare it with the others. Identify what is similar or constant from one situation to the next so you know exactly when and where to improve your attitude when new situations arise. Ask yourself:
   
   • “Do these situations always occur between me and specific people?”
   • “Do they tend to happen at the same time (such as stressful periods like finals at school, unemployment, or the holidays)?”
   • “Am I the only common factor in all these instances?”^[6]

[Edit]Preempting Further Drama in Your Life

1. Make realistic commitments. Whether you are dealing with friends, family, significant others, or coworkers, resist the compulsion to please everyone all the time. Only promise time and devotion to people if and when you know you can deliver. Since drama may build up when people think you are “failing” them, clearly define your availability on a case-by-case basis right from the start. Let each person know exactly how much they can expect of you and when, and no more.
   
2. Balance the people in your life. The more people you include in your life, the more conflict you will have when it comes to scheduling your time. As you make new commitments to new people, incorporate them into your schedule so that no one else feels slighted by any perceived lack of attention. This may mean that you are less available overall for any given person, so be sure that you still make time for them regularly, if not as frequently as you have in the past.
   
   • Also know when to make exceptions to your usual schedule for special events like birthdays, weddings, graduations, etc.
3. Refrain from making assumptions. A lot of drama results from miscommunication or no communication at all. Of course, it is impossible to know everything all the time, so when someone upsets you, feel free to ponder the reasons why they acted as they did. Just be sure to clearly divide what you know for sure versus what you merely speculate. Only act on what you definitely know to be fact. If you’re going to assume anything, always assume that your assumptions may turn out to be flat-out wrong in the end.^[7]
   
4. Be wary of gossip. Don’t put too much stock in what other people tell you about events that you haven’t witnessed for yourself. People aren’t necessarily going to lie to you, but recognize that the “truth” may mutate from one person’s telling to the next’s. Accept other people’s versions as their own interpretations of what really happened, but resist passing your own judgment based on other people’s accounts.^[8]
   
5. Know when to keep mum. Although drama is so often the result of poor communication, oversharing the truth can be just as bad. Be honest and forthcoming when you speak with people, but know when to hold the truth back. If you anticipate that someone would be hurt by what you have to say, ask yourself if hearing it would be beneficial to them in the long run. If not, keep it to yourself.
   

[Edit]Dealing with Other People’s Drama

1. Give people the benefit of the doubt at first. When someone in your life comes to you to unload, lend them an ear. Resist the temptation to immediately write off their need to share everything that is bothering them as simple “drama” (which, obviously, we tend to regard as a “bad” thing).^[9] Even if the other person has a history of being melodramatic, appreciate the fact that this does not prevent them from experiencing genuinely crappy moments in life or needing real help from time to time..
   
2. Track how one person’s dramas effect you. When the same person comes to you again and again with one drama after another, ask yourself if this is acceptable to you. Share your own troubles with them to see if this is a two-way street or if they really only expect you to be an audience for their own woes. Take a step back and assess whether their negative attitude is infecting your own outlook. Count the number of times when their various dramas have led you into situations that you would have rather avoided.^[10]
   
3. Know when enough is enough. If you feel like someone else’s drama is impacting your own life negatively, consider your history with that person. Consider whether your involvement in their past dramas did anything to improve matters for them. If it has, weigh how committed you really feel toward this person, and whether or not you feel obligated to continue being a source of support for them. But if your participation in their drama doesn’t do them any good anyway, be assured that you can quit taking part in it without making things worse for them.^[11]
   
4. Draw a line in the sand. Refuse to participate in their dramas.^[12] If you wish to maintain your relationship, politely but honestly explain how all these dramas are really just polluting that relationship. Assure them that you wish to keep them in your life, but to do so, they need to keep their drama to themselves. Or, if you feel they can’t handle such upfront honesty, just refuse to engage in their dramas at all until they finally get the message and deal with them on their own.
   
   • If the other person doesn’t matter that much to you to begin with, the solution is much easier. Simply nix them from your life altogether to avoid being sucked into yet another drama (or at the most see them very sparingly).^[13]

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Be a Normal Teenager
• Stop Being Dramatic
• Stop Being a Drama Queen

[Edit]References

1. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nicole-leigh-west/how-to-avoid-unnecessary-_b_5550217.html
2. ↑ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-ways-to-live-a-drama-free-life/
3. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-crucial-steps-to-minimize-drama-in-your-life/
4. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-crucial-steps-to-minimize-drama-in-your-life/
5. ↑ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-ways-to-live-a-drama-free-life/
6. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-crucial-steps-to-minimize-drama-in-your-life/
7. ↑ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-ways-to-live-a-drama-free-life/
8. ↑ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-ways-to-live-a-drama-free-life/
9. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-crucial-steps-to-minimize-drama-in-your-life/
10. ↑ http://www.successconsciousness.com/blog/personal-development/you-dont-have-to-participate-in-the-drama-people-create/
11. ↑ http://www.successconsciousness.com/blog/personal-development/you-dont-have-to-participate-in-the-drama-people-create/
12. ↑ http://www.successconsciousness.com/blog/personal-development/you-dont-have-to-participate-in-the-drama-people-create/
13. ↑ http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/5-ways-to-live-a-drama-free-life/

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How to Be Who You Want to Be

Do you ever feel like you are not the person other people think you are? Learning to be comfortable in your skin can be difficult, and you may envision yourself as a different person entirely. While it may seem impossible to reinvent yourself, you can become the person you always wanted to be.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Discovering Who You Want To Be

1. Write down what makes you unique. Before you can understand who you want to be, it is key to know what makes you stand out. Learning what makes you different is a process called differentiation, and it is an essential part of self-discovery. Everybody has special gifts and talents that make them unique from people around them. By listing positive qualities that are a core part of who you are, you separate yourself from the potentially toxic influence and pressure of those around you.^[1]
   
2. Identify what makes you happy. Try to think of all of the things that make you smile. Perhaps you feel fulfilled when you are playing music, or maybe you enjoy being out in nature. Make a list of everything you enjoy in life. Next ask yourself why these make you happy. Do they relax you during hectic times? Do they provide excitement in an otherwise dull life? By uncovering why they make you happy, you may also learn what makes you unhappy.^[2]
   
   • Once you discover what makes you happy, try spending more time on those activities and practices.
3. Discover what is holding you back. Fears, anxieties, insecurities, and self-criticism can prevent you from changing yourself for the better. Such self-destructive thoughts stop you before you can even begin your reinvention. Every time you feel a burst of fear or self-doubt, stop yourself and ask “why do I feel this way?” Once you know why you are nervous, you can take steps to overcome those insecurities and obstacles.^[3]
   
   • Talking through your fears with your friends or a therapist can also help you identify the causes of your self-doubt.
   • Try writing in a journal when you feel anxious. Whenever you are feeling bad about yourself, write it down. Not only will it make you feel better but you can reflect on your entries later to figure out the source of your insecurities.
4. Find out which needs are not being met. Everyone has needs and desires. If you have certain psychological or spiritual demands that are not being fulfilled, you may feel something lacking in your life. Create a hierarchy of your needs, and record what is and is not being satisfied.^[4]
   
   • Are your basic needs (food, water, shelter) being met?
   • Do feel safe in your current relationships or in your physical location?
   • Do you feel loved by those around you?
   • Do you feel as though what you do matters?
   • Are you fulfilled by your job/social life/school?
   • Do you have a creative outlet?

[Edit]Setting Goals

1. Write down your goals. Before you can become who you want to be, you have to realize who this new person is. Record all of your aspirations and goals. Make these dreams as specific as possible. Afterwards, go back through the list. Each goal should be realistic, and positive while focusing on yourself. ^[5]
   
   • Realistic means that the dream is reasonable and can be achieved. If you’ve never played golf before, it might not be realistic that you will become a famous golfer, but it may be realistic that you can learn how to play.
   • Positive means that the goals are good things that will happen to you. Erase any negativity from your dream list. Affirmation will put you further than doubt and uncertainty will.
   • The goal should be about yourself, not other people. Instead of saying, “I want my boss to like me more,” try framing it as “I want to become more assertive and responsible in the workplace."
2. Create a vision board. Visualizing your dreams on a daily basis can help motivate you. A vision board is a collage of all your aspirations and dreams. Find pictures that represent what you want out of life. These could be images of material objects such as a nice house, pictures related to your ideal career, or photos of a happy social life. You create the board by gluing these pictures onto a poster or cardboard. Hang the board somewhere where you will see it every day, such as on your bedroom wall or in your kitchen. Seeing the board will remind you of your dreams and give you affirmation that you can achieve them. ^[6]
   
3. Set a schedule. It will be more manageable for you to become a new person if you set a schedule for yourself. Where do you want to be in a week? How about two weeks? A month? A year? Write down your schedule in a book or calendar. Set specific benchmarks with tasks that you are able to achieve. As you complete tasks off your schedule, check them off. You will see yourself coming closer to your goals every day. ^[7]
   
   • Your tasks on your schedule should be specific and easy to achieve. Instead of writing, “Become less shy by Tuesday,” write “talk to three strangers today” or “rehearse small talk for five minutes in front of the mirror.”
4. Give yourself room for failure. You may face setbacks on your road to reinvention. If you fail, don’t stop and give up. Realize that failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. Furthermore, if you throw yourself into this new persona, you may experience burnout. This can cause you to revert back to bad habits. If you can, plan for failure, and when it occurs, look back on your list of goals to remind yourself why you’re doing this.^[8]
   

[Edit]Reinventing Yourself

1. Break bad habits. Breaking bad habits is a process that involves looking closely at your behavior and trying to determine what triggers your bad habit.^[9] However, you can break bad habits by identifying the things that trigger your habit, learning how to break the cycle, and rewarding yourself when it works. You can also develop a plan to help you deal with your triggers.^[10]>
   
   • Choose a good time to try to break a habit. It might be easier to try to break a bad habit while you are on vacation.^[11]Although it might not be possible to wait to break a habit until you go on vacation, you might at least want to choose a time when you are not too stressed to work on breaking a bad habit.
   • Try to be patient. Keep in mind that it can take anywhere from 18 to 66 days to break a habit. Don’t become discouraged if you find it difficult to break the habit at first.
   • Remember to reward yourself. If you’ve had a great day where you did really well in your new habits and routines, praise yourself and give yourself a reward. Maybe eat a bowl of ice cream or go see a movie. Little rewards can affirm your progress, and they teach your brain to associate these new routines with pleasure.^[12]
2. Find a mentor. Perhaps you are struggling in a new career or you want to make a difference in your community. Ask an experienced person in that area to mentor you. Meet once a week or month to discuss your goals. Your mentor will share the struggles that they faced getting to the point where they are now. They can give you advice on your own hurdles and help you realize your potential.^[13]
   
3. Form a support group. As you reinvent yourself, talk to your close friends about your progress. Tell them the kind of person you want to be, and as you face success and failure, talk through your thoughts and feelings. Good friends will provide positive affirmation, and a strong support group can increase your chances of success.
   
   • If your friends tell you that you don’t need to change, try not to listen to them. They may have good intentions, but if you are unhappy with your current state of being, such advice can be discouraging. Thank them for their concern, but emphasize that this is something you want to continue. True friends will remain with you through the journey.

[Edit]Asserting Yourself

1. Take care of your needs first. Other people may want you to be someone who you are not. They may ask things of you that make you uncomfortable, anxious, or burdened. Realizing that not everyone will like you is liberating, as it allows you to take care of your own needs. Put your own happiness first. This does not mean you have to be selfish; rather, it is a simple awareness that by taking care of yourself, you are better positioned to take care of other people.^[14]
   
2. Stop blaming other people for your problems. Being who you want to be means taking responsibility for your actions. By realizing that you can change, you also realize that you have control over your own actions. While other people may try to stop you or obstruct your dreams, you have the power to ignore them and to make your own choices.
   
3. Start loving yourself as though you are that new person. Every day, remind yourself of what makes you a great person. You can do this by praising yourself in the mirror or by writing down positive notes to yourself. Higher positivity leads to higher confidence and self-respect, and it will help you become more comfortable in your individual personality.^[15]
   
4. Cut out toxic relationships. Don't be surprised if old friends and acquaintances don't support you. Some people will try to convince you that it's just not possible to change. They may even try to make you feel guilty for trying. Don’t argue with people who criticize your choices.
   
   • Simply say something like, "I was unhappy before, and I am working towards being a better person."
   • You can also say, "Thank you for your concern. No matter who I become, I will always love you."
   • If you have a friend or loved one who still bothers you about the changes you are making, then you may want to take some time away from the person.

[Edit]Tips

• Remember the journey is more important than the reward. Try to enjoy the process.
• Praise yourself often. By affirming your good qualities and your little successes, you will find it easier to stay on the road to success.
• Always be hopeful, no matter what. There is nothing wrong with having hope. Hope motivates you and can keep you on the right path. If you are disappointed by your failures, don’t abandon hope. Use it to pick yourself up and keep going.

[Edit]Warnings

• Don't believe your own self-defeating thoughts. You can be who you want to be.
• Don't be judgmental of other’s decisions if you do not want them to be judgmental of yours. You will only get back what you put out.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Be Who God Wants You to Be

[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.psychalive.org/finding-yourself
2. ↑ [v161439_b01]. 16 June 2020.
3. ↑ [v161439_b01]. 16 June 2020.
4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/theory-and-psychopathology/201308/the-theory-self-actualization
5. ↑ [v161439_b01]. 16 June 2020.
6. ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/goal-setting-exercises/
7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201405/reinvent-yourself
8. ↑ https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/how-deal-fear-and-anxiety
9. ↑ https://dornsife.usc.edu/assets/sites/545/docs/Wendy_Wood_Research_Articles/wood.runger.2016.pdf
10. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/5-ways-to-solve-all-your-problems
11. ↑ https://www.npr.org/2012/03/05/147192599/habits-how-they-form-and-how-to-break-them
12. ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-golden-rule-of-habit-change
13. ↑ https://hbr.org/2021/03/whats-the-right-way-to-find-a-mentor
14. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201501/6-ways-take-better-care-yourself
15. ↑ [v161439_b01]. 16 June 2020.

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How to Make Quick Money Online

If you need some extra cash or you’d like some pocket change, the internet is a great place to turn to. While making money online probably won’t make you rich, you can definitely earn a few bucks here and there on various websites and apps. We’ve compiled some of the best ways you can make quick money from your computer, tablet, or phone.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Take online surveys.

1. Some research companies will pay for your feedback. They'll give you surveys that ask about your experience as a consumer and the common products that you use. You can make up to $50 for only a few hours of your time on average.^[1]
   
   • Try Pinecone Research, My Survey, iPoll, or Toluna to start.
   • Sign up for multiple survey sites to maximize your survey opportunities. Some sites will only send out 1-2 surveys a month.
   • Watch out for scam surveys. If a site ever asks you to put in your credit card information or purchase a prepaid Visa, don’t proceed.

[Edit]Get paid to surf the web.

1. Some sites pay you for using their search engine. You accumulate points by clicking on ads, playing games, taking surveys, and simply browsing.^[2]
   
   • Some of these sites pay you in gift cards instead of money, so if that’s not what you’re looking for, this might not be the best option for you.
   • Try Swagbucks, GiftHulk, and Qmee.

[Edit]Sell your possessions on an online marketplace.

1. Sites like these avoid the hassle of holding a garage sale. Check around your home for things like old bicycles, artwork, furniture, or housewares, then put them up for sale to members of your community.^[3][4]
   
   • Craigslist, Facebook Marketplace, LetGo, and OfferUp are great sites for this.^[5]
   • You can either have someone pick the good up from your house, drop it off at their house, or meet up and exchange it in a public place.

[Edit]Make and sell homemade items.

1. If you have a special skill, you can sell your goods for money. Sign up for a site like Etsy for a secure way to get paid for your art or crafts. You can sell things like wall hangings, crochet items, knitwear, plushies, and cards.^[6]
   
   • Once you have the items you’d like to sell, take photos and upload your listing to the website. Then, people can buy the items from you straight from your profile.
   • Etsy takes a small percentage of any profit you make on their site.
   • Anyone from around the world can buy your product on Etsy, so make sure you have packing and shipping materials on hand.

[Edit]Sell your used clothes.

1. If your clothes or shoes are in good shape, you can make some cash. Sites like Poshmark, ThredUp, LePrix, and The RealReal will help you sell your gently used items for money. Once someone buys your item, you print a shipping label and send it to them in the mail.^[7]
   
   • On most of these sites, you can set the prices for each item.
   • Most sites like these take a percentage of your profits.

[Edit]Make money off of old or unwanted technology.

1. CDs, DVDs, old phones, and old laptops aren’t much use anymore. You can sell your technology online, then ship it to a physical location to make money.^[8]
   
   • Decluttr and Swappa are good places to start.
   • You might only get a few bucks for CDs and DVDs, but computers and gaming systems can get you a whole lot more.

[Edit]Sell digital photos.

1. If you take a lot of pictures, you can sell them to companies to use in ads. Upload your pictures to a website or an app and make up to $5 each, or take specific pictures that the company wants and make up to $100.^[9]
   
   • Try Foap, Shutterstock, or iStockPhoto.
   • Try uploading a lot of photos for a better chance they’ll get chosen.

[Edit]Make money off your old books.

1. Books you don’t need anymore are just collecting dust. You can sell them on an online marketplace to make some of the cash back that you paid for them. The amount you get paid varies greatly on the type, age, and condition of each book.^[10]
   
   • This is a great way to get rid of old textbooks that you don’t need anymore.
   • Try BookScouter and Amazon.

[Edit]Review music for money.

1. You might not make a lot, but it can be a fun way to earn pocket money. Sign up for an account on Slicethepie.com, then write short music reviews to make cash.^[11]
   
   • To set up your account, visit https://www.slicethepie.com/.
   • Most people make an average of $35 per month on this site.
   • You can get a cash bonus if you refer a friend to the site.

[Edit]Sign up to be a freelancer.

1. Your skills can make you money on the web. Freelancers provide their services, like editing, proofreading, writing, and tutoring, for one-time contract jobs. You’re technically self-employed, so you can take on as many or as little jobs as you’d like.^[12][13]
   
   • Use Freelancer for different jobs of different niches.
   • Try Elance for technical, data entry, and accounting jobs.
   • Sign up for Fiverr if you have a unique talent that you can sell for $5.
   • Go for Upwork if you’re looking for writing or editing jobs.

[Edit]Tips

• Try multiple ways of making money online to increase your chances of making the big bucks.

[Edit]Warnings

• Watch out for scams! If a website asks for your credit card info or makes you buy a prepaid gift card, it’s probably not legit.

[Edit]Related wikiHows

• Make Money With Online Auctions
• Make Money by Selling Other People Products

[Edit]Expert Interview

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[Edit]References

[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.savethestudent.org/make-money/10-quick-cash-injections.html
2. ↑ https://www.savethestudent.org/make-money/10-quick-cash-injections.html
3. ↑ [v162236_b01]. 4 January 2023.
4. ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/how-sell-your-unwanted-stuff-ncna954546
5. ↑ [v162236_b01]. 4 January 2023.
6. ↑ https://www.etsy.com/sell
7. ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/how-sell-your-unwanted-stuff-ncna954546
8. ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/how-sell-your-unwanted-stuff-ncna954546
9. ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/how-to-sell-things-online#slide-16
10. ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/how-to-sell-things-online#slide-20
11. ↑ https://www.savethestudent.org/make-money/10-quick-cash-injections.html
12. ↑ [v162236_b01]. 4 January 2023.
13. ↑ https://medium.com/the-post-grad-survival-guide/how-to-make-money-online-fast-e1c5d03d77aa

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