How to Make a Flower Wall

A flower wall makes a gorgeous statement backdrop for a wedding or baby shower, but renting or buying one can be pretty expensive. If you're interested in a DIY approach, making your own flower wall is a cost-effective solution. In this article, we'll walk you through this easy process from start to finish. We'll cover wall backing options, share plenty of design pointers, and discuss the different ways you can mount the flower wall securely. If you're ready to create the perfect floral backdrop for your special day, scroll down!

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• Measure the space for the flower wall and buy foam board, that matches the dimensions. For a full-size backdrop, try or larger.
• Trim the faux flower stems and hot glue the blooms to the wall backing in your preferred arrangement or design.
• Mount the flower wall to an actual wall with Velcro strips. For a free-standing, portable option, mount the flower wall to a backdrop stand.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Creating the Wall Backing

1. Measure the space where the flower wall will go. Use a tape measure to get the length and width of the area. If you’re certain the venue or space has high ceilings and a long wall to work with, you don’t necessarily need to measure the space first. If you aren’t sure, it’s best to measure and double-check.
   
   • is a good size if you're using the flower wall as a backdrop for your wedding altar. It’s also perfect if you intend to use it as a backdrop for pictures.
2. Buy multiple pieces of foam board to match the dimensions you need. It’s important to work with separate pieces of foam board, especially if you're making a full-size flower wall backdrop. That way, you can easily transport the wall to the venue. Separate pieces are also much lighter and easier to hang.
   
   • For example, for an flower wall, buy two pieces of foam board that measure . Alternatively, you could buy four foam boards.
   • If you can’t find foam boards that add up to your specific dimensions, go a little bigger and then trim the boards down to size. You can buy foam board at office supply stores, as well as craft and home improvement stores.^[1]
   • If you don’t want to use foam board, you could also use a sturdy fabric (like canvas) to create the wall backing.
3. Use a marker to mark dots about apart on the board. Start from the top edge of the board. Make the first dot, move down , and mark the next dot. Repeat all the way down to create the first column. Move over to start the next column. Make the first dot 1 1/2 in (3.8 cm) from the top of the board. Continue making dots apart all the way down.^[2]
   
   • Move to the next column and make the first dot from the top, with the rest of the dots in the column apart.
   • Keep alternating until you get to the other side of the board.
   • Staggering the column spacing ensures an even, full-coverage look.
4. Use a screwdriver or ice pick to puncture each dot on the board. Hold the tool over each dot and apply a small amount of pressure to punch a small hole through the foam. Puncturing the foam creates a tiny “seat” for each flower.^[3]
   
   • If you’re using fabric instead of foam board, don’t worry about creating holes. You can hot glue each bloom directly to the fabric.

[Edit]Adding the Flowers

1. Trim the stems and separate the faux flowers into piles by size and color. If you’re using stemless faux flowers, don’t worry about trimming the stems (the stems will already be trimmed to very short nubs that fit perfectly in the foam holes). Otherwise, trim each stem to match the thickness of foam board. Then, sort them into piles to get organized.^[4]
   
   • For example, if your foam board is thick, trim each stem to be about long.
   • Use any flower colors and types that you’d like, but try to limit yourself to 2-4 colors so the wall doesn’t look too busy. If the wall is for a wedding, consider using the same flowers for your wall and bouquets for a cohesive feel.
   • Faux flowers work best for several reasons. It would be very expensive to use real flowers, but the main issue is keeping the flowers fresh for the event. Once the flowers are placed on the wall, they won't have access to water and can't be refrigerated (so they'll wilt quickly).
   • If you’re using fabric instead of foam board, trim each stem down to a nub so that all that's really left is the bloom itself and the green piece underneath holding the petals together.
2. Put a dot of hot glue in the hole and nestle the flower in stem-side down. If you aren’t sure what look you’re going for, arrange the flowers on top of the board to your liking first. Once you're happy with the look, use a hot glue gun to secure the flowers into place. Just nestle the short stem into the hole and wait 30 seconds for the glue can set.^[5]
   
   • You don't need to fill the hole all the way up with hot glue since it might pool on the backside of the foam. Just place a dot of glue in the hole and push the stem through.
3. Alternate the flower colors, sizes, and shapes as you place them. The overall design is entirely up to you, so feel free to use your imagination! In general, you'll want to alternate different flowers/colors so they're evenly spaced out. That way, the finished look is natural and balanced.^[6]
   
   • For example, avoid clumping a bunch of large red flowers in the top right corner and small white blooms in the bottom left. This creates an unbalanced, awkward look.
4. Fill in any sparse areas with flowers or greenery. Once you fill all the holes on the board, take a step back and inspect your handiwork. If any areas look thin, puncture new holes and add more flowers to the wall, as needed, to bulk them up. For a playful or whimsical look, consider adding trailing greenery, like vines, and letting the pieces dangle from the board.^[7]
   

[Edit]Mounting the Flower Wall

1. Use double-sided Velcro strips to hang the flower wall. Faux flowers are lightweight, so Velcro strips can easily handle the weight of each board. Cut strips that are long. Flip the wall over to the backside and place a Velcro strip vertically in each corner. Add a few more strips in the center of the board so the mount is secure.
   
   • Then, place the other side of each Velcro strip directly to the wall, lining them up with the placement on the foam. Press the foam backing against the wall firmly so the Velcro pieces line up and attach to each other.
2. Use a backdrop stand if you need a free-standing and portable option. A backdrop stand works great if you want your flower wall to be outside, or if you don’t have an available wall inside your venue. If your venue has rules or restrictions about hanging things directly on the walls, a backdrop stand is the perfect solution. Follow the directions to assemble the stand and use the clips that came with it to mount the flower wall.^[8]
   
3. Make any final adjustments necessary so the flower wall is secure. Make sure the wall is mounted securely. If the wall feels at all wobbly, add a few more pieces of Velcro or use more clips for a firmer grip. If you're outdoors, add weights or sandbags to the bottom sides of the stand (behind the flower wall), so the stand doesn't budge.^[9]
   
   • If you used a backdrop stand, you may need to reinforce the center of the backdrop (since the foam board is in separate pieces). Use extra clips and/or hot glue the boards side-by-side for security.

[Edit]Things You'll Need

• Foam boards
• Tape measure
• Marker or pencil
• Faux flowers
• Scissors
• Screwdriver or ice pick
• Hot glue gun
• Velcro strips
• backdrop stand

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fpTXUauAgUk&t=22s
2. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fpTXUauAgUk&t=43s
3. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fpTXUauAgUk&t=103s
4. ↑ https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/property/1428447/diy-flower-wall-how-to-make-your-own-flower-wall-evg
5. ↑ https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/property/1428447/diy-flower-wall-how-to-make-your-own-flower-wall-evg
6. ↑ https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/property/1428447/diy-flower-wall-how-to-make-your-own-flower-wall-evg
7. ↑ https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/property/1428447/diy-flower-wall-how-to-make-your-own-flower-wall-evg
8. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AP9QJWL7KBg&t=1s
9. ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AP9QJWL7KBg&t=435s

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How to Break Up with a Realtor

If your real estate agent just isn’t getting the job done, you may be wondering how you can get out of this situation and find someone who suits your needs better. The good news is that this is typically very easy to do. Things will only get messy if you’ve signed an exclusivity agreement and the agent doesn’t want to let you out of it, which is exceptionally rare. Luckily, we’ve got help for you in that case, too. In this article, we’ll show you how to break up with your realtor in an amicable and reasonable way so that everyone gets what they want.

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• Break up with your realtor as early as you can before they do a ton of unpaid work.
• If you have no exclusivity offer, you can break up with the realtor as you please.
• If you signed an exclusivity offer, talk to your agent about letting you out of it early.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Walk away if there’s no contract.

1. If you haven’t signed an exclusivity agreement, you’re in the clear. If you haven’t signed any contracts or agreements and you and the real estate agent have just been working together on a verbal agreement, you’re under no obligation to stick with them. Feel free to break up with them. You won’t face any legal consequences.^[1]
   
   • Just call, text, or email them something like, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to put a pause on buying a home right now,” or, “I hate to do this, but my partner and I decided to work with another real estate agent.”
   • Let the agent know you’re going another route as soon as you possibly can. Agent work is time intensive, and it’s a little unfair to take your time breaking the bad news.

[Edit]Expect to pay if you’re selling.

1. Selling a home involves more work upfront, so you’ll likely pay. It’s a lot easier to break up with an agent when you’re a buyer. If you already started working with a seller’s agent, they may have staged your home, crafted a listing, and scheduled open houses. As such, there is usually a penalty written into your contract. Read through your contract to see what you’ll need to spend to get rid of them.^[2]
   
   • Depending on where you live and what your contract says, you may need to pay the seller’s agent you’re breaking up with a 1-2% commission of the sale price or a flat fee.

[Edit]Look for a cancellation clause in the agreement.

1. If you’ve signed an exclusivity agreement, look for an opt-out clause. If you remember signing something before you started the home buying or selling process, you probably signed a buyer or seller exclusivity agreement. This document is (usually) legally binding and makes it difficult to switch agents. Read the agreement thoroughly to see if there is an opt-out or cancellation clause.^[3]
   
   • There may be a clause that says you can break up if your realtor doesn’t fulfill your needs, or if you haven’t found a home you like in a certain number of months.

[Edit]Ask your agent to cancel the exclusivity agreement.

1. Most agents will tear up an exclusivity contract if you ask nicely. In the real estate game, an agent’s reputation is everything. As such, agents tend to avoid holding contracts over a client’s head, since the blowback from you making a fuss about it can be incredibly damaging. Email or call the agent and politely request that they release you from the contract.^[4] You might say:
   
   • “I’ve really enjoyed viewing properties with you, but after careful consideration, my partner and I have decided to put the home buying on pause.”
   • “Unfortunately, with our work schedules, we’re looking for someone who will be able to set up showings in the evening. We’re going to need to find a new agent.”
   • “I’ve loved working with you, but I’m going in a different direction.”

[Edit]Apologize for taking their time.

1. Your realtor did work for you, so acknowledge their effort. There’s a lot of unseen effort that goes on behind the scenes when a real estate agent starts working with a client, so thank them for all of their work. This is especially important if you’re asking to get out of a contract, since a little humility and appreciation may tip things in your favor.^[5] You could say:
   
   • “I really appreciate everything you’ve done for me. I know we asked a lot of you and it did not go unnoticed.”
   • “We’re deeply indebted to you for all of the work you’ve done. I’m really sorry things didn’t work out.”
   • “I’m sorry we’re putting the search on pause. It just isn’t the right time for us. I do really appreciate everything you’ve done for us, and I apologize for putting you out.”

[Edit]Be honest, but professional.

1. Your agent may want to know what went wrong, so be genuine. Why you’re breaking up with your agent may be really important to them. If there’s something they’ve done wrong, knowing about it may help them improve in the future. If they ask you why you’re going with someone else or trying to get out of the contract, politely explain what went wrong in the kindest way possible. Only do this if they ask, though.^[6] You might explain:
   
   • “We really liked looking at properties with you, but it always felt like we were late to the party when it came to putting bids in. My partner and I want to move quickly.”
   • “It’s honestly just a scheduling thing. I know you’re super busy in the morning but that’s the only time I can go to look at properties.”
   • “You didn’t do anything wrong. You were excellent. We’re just putting a hold on the home selling since our moving plans fell through.”

[Edit]Get it in writing that you’re parting ways.

1. If they agree to let you out of a contract, confirm it via email. Alternatively, you might send them a text to confirm it, or ask for a written addendum to the contract. So long as you get some kind of receipt proving that your agent is okay with letting you out of the exclusivity agreement, you’re in the clear.^[7]
   
   • Make sure they agree to a statement like, “I just want to confirm you won’t enforce our exclusivity agreement.”
   • If you don’t get proof they released you from the contract, you may end up running into legal trouble. The point of an exclusivity agreement is that it’s legally binding to only work with that agent, so it’s key you get proof they’re okay with it.

[Edit]Give them a thank you gift if they let you out of the contract.

1. Your ex-realtor isn’t getting paid, so get them something tangible. Real estate agents work entirely on commission, so they’re not getting anything for the work they’ve done for you. As a small token of appreciation, gift the agent something tangible to demonstrate that you’re thankful for them.^[8] You could buy them:
   
   • A bottle of wine if they’ve mentioned a love of vino.
   • A gift card to a local restaurant that’s universally loved.
   • A bath bomb, massage gun, or fancy soap set so they can engage in some self-care.

[Edit]Talk to your agent's boss if they won't let you out of the contract.

1. If they won’t let you out of the contract, consult their manager. Agents typically work under the umbrella of a real estate franchise office, like Keller Williams, Caldwell, or Compass. If the agent won’t let you out of the exclusivity offer, call their main office and ask to speak to whoever is in charge. Ask them if there is anything they can do to let you out of the contract. They may be able to force your agent’s hand and let you out.^[9]
   
   • If the real estate firm thinks you’re going to make a fuss, leave bad reviews, or pursue legal action, they’re probably going to push your agent to drop you without putting up a fight.

[Edit]Switch to another agent at the same firm.

1. You can often swap agents at the same firm without violating the contract. There is usually a clause in buyer and seller exclusivity agreements that you can switch to a different real estate agent so long as they’re working with the same firm. If you have a similar clause in your contract, reach out to the main office and explain that you’d like to switch agents.^[10]
   
   • This is a little bit of a sneaky move, but if your real estate agent isn’t letting you out of the contract and they aren’t trying to meet you halfway, it’s fine to go over their head.

[Edit]Get advice from a real estate attorney.

1. A lawyer will break down the ramifications of breaking the contract. If you just can’t find a way out of the exclusivity agreement and you’re thinking about breaking the contract anyway, talk to a real estate attorney. They’ll be able to advise you on what your options are, since there are a lot of local and state laws that likely influence what you can do.^[11]
   
   • Most of the time, agents won’t pursue any legal action when people break exclusivity deals. However, it’s certainly possible that your agent ends up suing you. Talking to a lawyer will clarify just how risky this move might be for you.

[Edit]Wait for the contract to expire if all else fails.

1. This may be your only option if the contract is airtight and they’re stubborn. Buyer and seller exclusivity agreements have expiration dates—usually 3, 6, or 12 months from the start date. If there’s a serious risk that you’ll face legal consequences, you don’t want to pay a termination fee, and the agent won’t let you out of the contract, you’ll have to wait them out. Once the contract ends, you’re free to hunt for a new realtor.^[12]
   
   • If you’re in a rush to buy or sell a home, you may be better off just working with the agent you’re under contract with.

[Edit]Look for a new realtor who suits your needs.

1. Reach out to new potential realtors and find someone who works. Reach out to trusted friends and family members to find a reputable realtor. Alternatively, look online and scan reviews to see if potential realtors might work for you. Meet with your top 3-4 picks over coffee or on the phone and just talk to them to see if the vibe is right before making your final decision.^[13]
   
   • Look for someone who is highly responsive and doesn’t leave your calls unanswered. In a hot market, you have to move quickly!
   • You should like and trust your realtor. If someone gives you questionable energy or you’re uncomfortable around them, move on.
   • Ask potential realtors how many deals they did last year. Ideally, you can find someone who did more than 2-3 deals, but not so many that they’re probably swimming in work right now.
   • If you’re unfamiliar with the area, you’re best off working with a local who has been in the game in that city or area for a long time.

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2015/02/20/when-to-fire-your-real-estate-agent
2. ↑ https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2015/02/20/when-to-fire-your-real-estate-agent
3. ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/10/29/how-call-it-quits-with-your-real-estate-agent/
4. ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/10/29/how-call-it-quits-with-your-real-estate-agent/
5. ↑ https://realtytimes.com/consumeradvice/buyersadvice/item/1039342-tips-to-break-up-with-your-real-estate-agent
6. ↑ https://realtytimes.com/consumeradvice/buyersadvice/item/1039342-tips-to-break-up-with-your-real-estate-agent
7. ↑ https://www.foxbusiness.com/personal-finance/breaking-contract-with-realtor
8. ↑ https://www.bobvila.com/articles/best-gifts-for-realtors/
9. ↑ https://financialpost.com/real-estate/so-you-want-to-break-up-with-your-realtor-it-may-be-harder-than-you-think
10. ↑ https://financialpost.com/real-estate/so-you-want-to-break-up-with-your-realtor-it-may-be-harder-than-you-think
11. ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/10/29/how-call-it-quits-with-your-real-estate-agent/
12. ↑ https://www.foxbusiness.com/personal-finance/breaking-contract-with-realtor
13. ↑ https://www.forbes.com/advisor/mortgages/real-estate/how-to-find-a-real-estate-agent/

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How to Become a Content Creator

Being a content creator is all about putting yourself out there, but how do you do that? Do you need special skills? Is the challenge worth it? If you’re curious about any of these questions, you’ve come to the right place! In this article, we’ll tell you everything there is to know about being a full-time content creator, from the skills needed to how to get started. So, what are you waiting for? Keep reading for your complete guide to becoming a content creator.

This article is based on an interview with our marketing and advertising specialist, Melissa Rodriguez, founder of Social Media Relations.

[Edit]Things You Should Know

• Producing social media posts, blogs, graphic designs, and videos are all part of being a content creator.
• Focusing on your target audience and staying true to yourself can help you succeed as a content creator.
• Growing as a content creator requires creativity, versatility, and adaptability.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]What is a content creator?

1. A content creator is someone who produces media for a specific audience.^[1] It’s a content creator’s job to create interesting, engaging, and relevant content that appeals to either a wide range of individuals or a specific niche. Their goal is to entertain or inform a target audience through artistic, written, and/or visual storytelling.^[2]
   
   • Content creators can work by themselves or with others. Collaboration can be a big part of a content creator’s career if sharing their market is a part of their vision or strategy.
   • A content creator’s success depends on how engaged their audience is. The more attention and traffic a piece of content receives, the more successful a content creator will be.
   • There are many different forms and ways of producing content, from social media and freelancing to corporate employment.

[Edit]What do content creators do?

1. Content creators are the people who make the content you see online. These individuals work by themselves or with a team to produce marketable content that intends to reach audiences of a particular demographic. For example, the article you’re reading right now was made by content creators. Common formats of content include:^[3]
   
   • Blogs
   • Websites
   • Social media posts
   • Graphic designs
   • Articles
   • Newsletters
   • Videos

[Edit]How to Become a Content Creator

1. Choose a topic you’re passionate about. When you’re making content all day, you want to make sure you’re producing something you care about. Ask yourself, “What do I like to do? What hobbies do I have? What’s my personality type?” Answering these questions can help you find your community and niche.
   
   • For example, if you love reading, consider branding yourself as a “booktoker” who makes TikToks on the latest book and publishing trends.
   • If you’re a foodie, think about starting a blog reviewing the restaurants in your neighborhood.
   • If you have an interest in true crime, try starting a true crime podcast on unsolved mysteries or cases in your area.
2. Know your target audience. Before you start producing content, ask yourself, “Who am I speaking to?” Your audience directly impacts your success as a content creator, so get to know them well! Research the topic you want to cover and notice any similarities between the top search results. Are the articles, videos, and/or photos intended for a younger audience? What vibes do the top results give visually? The answers to these questions will help you tailor your content to appeal to your audience.^[4]
   
   • For example, say your target audience is Gen Z. Your content might include trending, upbeat audio, vibrant colors, emojis, and/or slang to appeal to a younger audience.
   • If your target audience are baby boomers, your content may be cleaner, more serious, and respectable.
3. Pick a platform you’re comfortable using. What do you actively use most today? When you first start making content, it’s important to choose a site that supports your vision. For instance, you wouldn’t want to pick TikTok if you want to write long form posts, but you would want to start a blog. Similarly, you wouldn’t want to start a YouTube channel to make short form video content, but you would want to post Instagram Reels. Scroll through the platforms you like to see what’s trending and if your target audience matches.^[5]
   
   • Stick to one platform at first to keep your focus and strategy as narrow as possible. As you grow and learn, you’ll be able to expand across other platforms.^[6]
   • If you’re unfamiliar with a specific platform that interests you, download it and start fiddling around, search how to make content for the platform online, and get yourself as familiar with it as possible.
4. Find your unique style. Every day, there are millions of people marketing content. Your job as a content creator is to make yourself stand out amongst the crowd. Think about ways you can strategically use trends and current events to entertain your target audience and/or amplify your voice and message.^[7]
   
   • For example, if there’s a trending audio going around Instagram and TikTok, see how you can use that audio to match your specific demographic. Maybe you emphasize a movie trope, flirtation tactic, or relatable meme that plays into the audio’s tone.
5. Keep a consistent and reliable schedule. To be a successful content creator, you have to be willing to put in the work. Make time each day to brainstorm, create, edit, and post. Stick to a posting schedule to stay consistent in your followers’ feeds. Staying persistent is the key to personal and analytical growth.^[8]
   
   • Programs like Hootsuite, Loomly, SocialBee, and Sprout Social can help you schedule and track your social media posts.
6. Engage with your audience. When people engage in your content, they’re building a relationship with you, and reciprocating that engagement will keep you accountable and watchable/readable.^[9] Reply to comments and DMs, repost shares, and start friendly conversations. The more you communicate with your audience, the more “real” and relatable you’ll seem.
   
   • Keep in mind that target audiences often have preferences and favorite social media platforms.

[Edit]Skills You’ll Need

1. Creativity{endbold} Content creators are constantly creating and coming up with new innovative ideas. If you want to be a content creator, you have to be able to brainstorm and think outside of the box. You should be able to hop onto trends and present information in interesting ways that engage with your audience.^[10]
   
2. Versatility{endbold} Being a content creator means taking on multiple jobs. Content creators wear many hats—editor, writer, producer, actor, etc. Knowing a variety of creator platforms and programs like InDesign, Photoshop, Canva, and Final Cut Pro can help you create content for various platforms in multiple ways.^[11]
   
3. Adaptability{endbold} The world of content creation is constantly changing and evolving. A content creator must be able to adapt and go with the flow in any situation. For example, if a program crashes, they need to be ready to film again at a moment’s notice. If they want to go on location to take pictures of a sunset but get rained out, they need to have a backup plan.
   
4. Analytical Mindset{endbold} Understanding and implementing search engine optimization (SEO) is an important part of being a content creator. You need to be able to analyze data to conduct social media and content strategies that are most effective for your followers, readers, or viewers. Crunching the numbers and identifying key terms helps content creators reach a wider audience.^[12]
   
   • SEO creates and compacts relevant data from search engines that can promote traffic to web and digital content.^[13]
5. Organization{endbold} Deadlines keep a content creator on track. If you want to be a content creator, you need to be able to keep an organized and detailed schedule. You’re essentially working for yourself, so you need to be your own boss. This means keeping track of the content you produce and the hours you work.
   
   • Try using a color-coded calendar to block your schedule by task and time. For example, use blue to block out the hours you want to spend writing content, orange for filming, yellow for engaging with followers, and so forth.
   • Save virtual meeting links in a calendar that syncs up to all your devices, so you’re never late.
6. Passion{endbold} Successful content creators don’t produce content for the money. They do it because they love it. To be a content creator, you must enjoy creating new and exciting content. If you’re passionate about what you’re creating, it’ll show through the quality and quantity of your content.^[14]
   
   • Have fun making content for yourself before starting a content creator career. Spend a few months fiddling around with different platforms to see if it’s something you’d enjoy doing.

[Edit]What is the typical salary of a content creator?

1. The estimated yearly base pay of a content creator in the United States is $44,166. A content creator’s salary depends on the individual and their platform, consistency, company, and brand deals. Some creators can make as much as $75,783 a year with additional pay.^[15]
   
   • YouTube has the highest pay range for content creators at $64,244 per year.
   • Content creators usually have multiple streams of income, especially if they work a corporate content job alongside personal projects.^[16]

[Edit]Tips

• Keep building your portfolio no matter what! The more content you produce, the more experience you’ll have. Having a product to show for your skills will help you gain clients, followers, brand deals, and/or a corporate career.^[17]
• You don’t need a large social media following to be a full-time content creator. Work hard to put your skills out there, and you’ll be noticed in no time.
• If you want to become a self-employed or freelance content creator, remember that everything you do on social media is a part of your brand. With this in mind, try thinking of your social media pages as more of a professional portfolio rather than a personal outlet.^[18]

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://au.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/how-to-become-a-content-creator
2. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/content-creater
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7. ↑ https://youtu.be/APQoWEqezFc?t=141
8. ↑ https://youtu.be/0arou9boK8k?t=27
9. ↑ https://youtu.be/APQoWEqezFc?t=163
10. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/content-creater
11. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/finding-a-job/content-creater
12. ↑ [v161783_b01]. 23 April 2021.
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How to Stop Obsessing over Something That Happened

You’re lying in bed, trying to fall asleep—and suddenly, that thing that happened is replaying in your mind. Again. Next thing you know, it’s the wee hours of the morning and you’re still dwelling on the past. If you’re struggling to stop obsessing over something that happened, whether it was yesterday or 30 years ago, don’t worry: you’re not alone. Ruminating to the point of obsession is something that many people struggle with at some point, and we have lots of helpful tips to help you kick the habit. Check them out below!

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Give yourself permission to obsess.

1. Almost everyone struggles with dwelling on past events. One of the best first steps you can take to stop obsessing over the past is, paradoxically, to release any shame you feel about obsessing.^[1]
   
   • Not only will practicing self-compassion help you feel more at peace, it will prevent your anxiety from snowballing further.^[2]
   • Self-compassion is particularly important if the event you are dwelling on is a mistake you made. Feeling guilt over your actions is distressing on its own: you don’t need to punish yourself further with the added anxiety of self-criticism over reliving the experience.
   • If the event you are dwelling on is a recent difficulty, such as a breakup or the death of a loved one, acknowledge that a little bit of obsession is very normal, and that your obsessive thoughts will likely fade soon on their own.
   • It’s often easier to judge a situation when we have distance. As an exercise, pretend you are speaking to a friend who is dwelling on the same event. What would you say to them?^[3]

[Edit]Ground yourself in reality.

1. Focus on the sensory details of the here and now. When you ground yourself in the present, you will redirect your negative thoughts about the past.^[4]
   
   • The 5-4-3-2-1 method is a useful technique for grounding yourself: identify 5 things from your immediate environment that you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste.^[5]
   • Try to internalize the distinction between thoughts and facts. Question the obsessive scripts running through your mind by asking yourself if they’re objectively and definitely true.^[6]

[Edit]Distract yourself.

1. Engaging in other activities will help you take your mind off things. By throwing yourself into an activity you can get totally lost in, you will be too busy to spend time dwelling on what happened in the past. Make sure the activity is one that absorbs all of your attention and engages you in a “flow”; distractions that don’t require you to be an active participant, like watching television, likely won’t be effective.^[7]
   
   • Great activities to take your mind off your obsession include volunteering, joining a club, or learning a new skill. Not only will these activities distract you, they will increase your self-esteem.
   • Finding a healthy distraction, like listening to a podcast or FaceTiming a friend, may help alleviate your obsessive thoughts since it forces your mind to think of other things as well.^[8]
   • Keep in mind that distraction is a temporary solution: if the event you are obsessing over is serious, avoiding the situation can make things worse over time.

[Edit]Schedule time to obsess.

1. Designated rumination time will keep your obsession contained. Set a timer for 10 or 20 minutes and journal about your obsession or anxiety. Once the timer runs out, set aside your obsessive thoughts until the same time the next day. Intentionally limiting your rumination time will prevent your obsessive thoughts from overtaking your entire day.
   
   • Plan your rumination period after you are finished working for the day, but not so close to bedtime that your obsessive thoughts end up keeping you awake.^[9]
   • When your obsession or a worry related to your obsession creeps up outside of your rumination time, simply write the thought down in your journal to be addressed during your rumination time.^[10]

[Edit]Identify what you can and cannot control.

1. If you can improve your situation, take action. You may not be able to change what happened, but there may be steps you can take to improve the situation. Can you fix what happened? If not, try to accept the uncertainty.^[11]
   
   • Maybe what happened was a mistake you made. Can you apologize to the offended party and forgive yourself?
   • Maybe what happened was a mistake someone else made. Can you seek closure from the offender and work toward forgiving them?
   • There is a difference between “ruminating” and “problem-solving.”^[12] If you can’t improve your situation, acknowledge that your obsessive thoughts are not helpful.

[Edit]Put the event in perspective.

1. What happened might feel like the end of the world, but it isn’t. When you put the situation in perspective, you will realize that although you are suffering pain or anxiety in the moment, life will go on.^[13]
   
   • To stop obsessing over a mistake you made, practice “self-indifference”: acknowledge the shame or embarrassment you are feeling, and then shrug it off. Everyone messes up sometimes.^[14]
   • As an exercise, humor your anxieties: what is the worst thing that could happen as a result of the event that occurred? Understanding how you would react to the worst-case scenario will help you stop obsessing.^[15]

[Edit]Learn from the event.

1. “Everything happens for a reason” is a cliche…for a reason. Asking yourself what you can learn from what happened may not diminish your pain, but it may help you to move on from the memory.^[16]
   
   • Practice reframing your negative thinking to make it positive: try to see the bad thing that happened as a chance to implement your values to make the situation better, or practice gratitude for the resources you have to help you through the situation.^[17]

[Edit]Meditate.

1. Daily meditation can help keep you tethered to the present. Devote 5 or 10 minutes every day to sitting in a quiet, peaceful spot and focusing on your breath.^[18] By meditating regularly, you can achieve the mental discipline to shut down your obsessive remembering.^[19]
   
   • Make sure to meditate in an environment free of distractions (like your phone or television), and wear comfortable clothes.
   • Try repeating positive affirmations while you meditate such as “I am calm,” “I am focused,” and “I am at peace.”^[20]
   • When your obsessive thoughts intrude on your meditation time, acknowledge them, and let them go.^[21] Identifying your obsessions, rather than denying them, will help to reduce their power.

[Edit]Exercise.

1. Moving your body is a great way to overcome obsessive thinking. When you exercise, you release endorphins, which will help you destress, and it also serves as a helpful distraction from your thoughts.
   
   • Try combining meditation and exercise by taking up a yoga or tai chi class. Yoga and tai chi’s focus on your breath and your body’s movements make these activities effective grounding techniques.^[22]

[Edit]Create a stress management plan.

1. Identify your triggers. Certain situations may set off your obsessive thinking. Be proactive: if you know you are prone to obsessive thinking, or if there is one event you can’t shake, take advantage of a time when you are not dwelling and identify situations that might lead you to obsess over the event. This will help you overcome your obsessive thinking before it becomes a problem.^[23]
   
   • For example, if you are struggling with a breakup, a certain song might remind you of your ex. To avoid obsessing over the breakup, try avoiding the song for a while.
   • Be specific: make a list (mental or physical) of things that might trigger your obsessive thinking in the future.
   • Also keep track of things that may bring you relief when you are obsessing. Maybe a certain tea is particularly calming, or jogging helps to distract you.

[Edit]Talk to a therapist.

1. It can be hard to overcome an obsession on your own—and that’s OK. Speaking with a therapist about your anxieties may help you to overcome them.^[24]
   
   • A therapist will not only help you let go of your obsession; they will dig deep into your obsessive thoughts to get to the root of your anxieties.^[25]
   • If you are unable to access therapy in-person or if you prefer doing therapy from home, virtual sessions from BetterHelp may be a valuable option.

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/280951508_Stigma_and_Shame_as_Barriers_to_Treatment_in_Obsessive-Compulsive_and_Related_Disorders
2. ↑ https://www.aafp.org/pubs/fpm/issues/2021/0100/p23.html
3. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/how-to-stop-worrying.htm
4. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858
5. ↑ https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/behavioral-health-partners/bhp-blog/april-2018/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique-for-anxiety.aspx
6. ↑ [v161900_b01]. 18 August 2021.
7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201404/your-brain-is-nagging-you-here-are-5-ways-make-it-stop
8. ↑ [v161900_b01]. 18 August 2021.
9. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/how-to-stop-worrying.htm
10. ↑ https://www.amherst.edu/campuslife/health-safety-wellness/counseling/wellness/the-daily-well/node/770522
11. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/taking-control
12. ↑ https://hbr.org/2019/02/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-your-mistakes?ab=at_art_art_1x4_s03
13. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201702/putting-things-in-perspective
14. ↑ https://www.thecut.com/article/how-to-stop-reliving-embarrassing-memories.html
15. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201702/putting-things-in-perspective
16. ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/rejection/8-tips-for-dealing-with-embarrassment/
17. ↑ https://www.aafp.org/pubs/fpm/issues/2021/0100/p23.html
18. ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/podcasts/health-essentials/train-your-brain-to-cope-with-anxiety-with-dr-scott-bea
19. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/how-to-stop-worrying.htm
20. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858
21. ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/podcasts/health-essentials/train-your-brain-to-cope-with-anxiety-with-dr-scott-bea
22. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/how-to-stop-worrying.htm
23. ↑ https://hbr.org/2019/02/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-your-mistakes?ab=at_art_art_1x4_s03
24. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/managing-intrusive-thoughts
25. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/managing-intrusive-thoughts

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