How to Funny Compliments

Plus, how to give a funny compliment that makes them smile

Have you ever had the urge to pay someone a compliment that brightened their day and made them laugh? If so, this article is for you. We put together a complete list of funny compliments to help you give the people in your life an ego boost with a side of laughter. We’ll also cover how to deliver your funny compliments so they get the reaction you’re going for every time!

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Funny Compliments for a Girl

1. Charm her with a compliment that tickles her funny bone. Keep the tone playful and sweet instead of sarcastic. Remember, the goal is to make her laugh and feel appreciated, so it’s super important to balance your silliness with sincerity. Here are a few funny compliments for girls to get you started:
   
   • “You’re so inspiring! You make me want to actually put my dirty laundry into the hamper instead of in a pile next to it.”
   • “You’re so smart. I bet you do crossword puzzles in ink.”
   • “Even if you were cloned, you'd still be the better-looking one.”
   • “I’d choose you over pizza any day.”
   • “You’re so beautiful I’d steal your photos and make a fake account to catfish people.”
   • “Your hair smells nice. Not that I’m standing here smelling your hair. That would be weird.”
   • “You're so hot! The primary reason for global warming is either you or cow farts.”
   • “I can't take my eyes off of you. Unless you notice me, then I'll quickly look away and act like it never happened.”
   • “I’d love to spend every minute of every day with you, but they kind of expect me to do stuff at work.”
   • “I trust you so much I’d give you my favorite hoodie and not even ask for it back right away.”

[Edit]Funny Compliments for Him

1. Win his heart with a compliment that makes him chuckle. Lean into a little playful exaggeration or compare him to legendary figures, but in a way that pokes fun at him a little. That way, you build him up a little and impress him with your keen sense of humor. Try one of these compliments:
   
   • “I like you so much. If you called, I’d actually answer my phone instead of just texting you back.”
   • “I bet you make babies smile.”
   • “Tell your parents I said, ‘well done.’”
   • “Except for sleeping and eating, you’re the best part of my day.”
   • “You know what I'm thankful for? You…and Nutella.”
   • “You smell so good; they should make you into a candle.”
   • “You make other guys realize they need to work out more.”
   • “You’re nerdy but in a really cute way – like a comic convention with deodorant.”
   • “You’re so charming you could be the leader of a cult. Wait. Are you the leader of a cult?”
   • “You have the beard of a lumberjack combined with a Greek god.”

[Edit]Funny Compliments for Friends

1. Tell your friends you admire them…while making them laugh. You know all your friends’ quirks and inside jokes, so use that information to give them a side-splitting compliment. Use your memories together or shared experiences to say something nice. Just make sure you reference specific things only a true friend would understand and appreciate.
   
   • “Truth be told, you have really good taste in friends.”
   • “You make me laugh so hard I need to get some of those adult diapers.”
   • “Your hair is so bouncy and shiny it belongs in a shampoo commercial.”
   • “You’re the only person in the world I don’t want to punch in the throat.”
   • “You know…you have a perfectly shaped head.”
   • “Looking like a complete idiot isn’t fun unless we do it together.”
   • “You know, you’re almost as awesome as cake. Almost.”
   • “I will always be there for you…even if you haven’t showered for days.”
   • “I’m always amazed by the things you don’t find embarrassing about me.”
   • “You’re my favorite drunken karaoke duet partner.”
   • “Hanging out with you is like finding an extra fry at the bottom of the bag.”

[Edit]Funny Compliments for Kids

1. Pay little ones a compliment that makes them giggle with delight. Bring out your silly side when you compliment kids. Remember to keep the humor age-appropriate so they understand what you’re saying. Be playful and use your imagination, but make your compliments specific enough that the kid understands that you’re not only saying something silly.
   
   • “Puppies and kittens probably share photos of you with each other on their social media.”
   • “You’re smarter than Google.”
   • “I tell everyone how amazing you are. Especially that one time you coughed and farted simultaneously.”
   • “You’re the one person I can count on to tell me when I have a booger sticking out of my nose.”
   • “If you were a box of crayons, you’d be the big box with the cool built-in sharpener.”
   • “You’re so fun and cute; I bet you poop glitter.”
   • “You’re more fun than bubble wrap.”
   • “I don’t really like kids, but you’re the exception.”
   • “If you were a booger, I’d pick you first.”
   • “If you were a vegetable, you’d be a cute-cumber.”

[Edit]Funny Compliments for Co-Workers

1. Keep your co-workers in stitches with funny flattery. Make compliments at work professional and appropriate. That doesn’t mean you can’t be funny, though. Say something creative and unexpected. Just make sure the humor focuses on what they do and say at work…but with a humorous twist.
   
   • “Your humor is like a dog whistle. It mostly goes undetected. But to those that get it, they really get it.”
   • “When you say, ‘I meant to do that,’ I actually believe you.”
   • “You’re the only reason I didn’t riot when they made working in the office mandatory again.”
   • “Work is better when you’re here. Not great. Just better."
   • “I love your confidence. Can you send some of it my way?”
   • “You’re cool because you don’t judge me when I get excited about something lame.”
   • “When it comes to getting work done, I know I can count on you to not let me finish it.”
   • “I have days when I think, ‘Yeah, I’m not getting anything done today.’ And on those days, I know I can trust you to get nothing done with me.”
   • “Thanks for your help on that big project. I can’t pay you, but I hid all the best snacks in the break room for you.”
   • “When I leave this company, can I get you in the divorce?”

[Edit]Funny Compliments for Strangers

1. Make a stranger snicker with zany praise. Keep things light by focusing on their personal style or what they’re doing at that moment. Be careful, though. Strangers don’t know you – or your sense of humor – like the people you know and love. Try to pay close attention to how they react so your compliment doesn’t make them uncomfortable.
   
   • “In high school, I bet you were voted “most likely to be awesome.”
   • “You have Disney princess/prince hair.”
   • “If you were a superhero, your power would be stealing the spotlight.”
   • “If you were any more amazing, you’d be twins.”
   • “I really like that you understand my sarcasm. It’s in an advanced form, and not everyone gets it.”
   • “You’re so efficient; you could cook Minute rice in 30 seconds.”
   • “You’re so coordinated that you could tie your shoes with your feet.”
   • “You’re so talented, I bet you sneeze with your eyes open.”
   • “I don’t know if sarcasm is a skill, but you’ve certainly mastered it.”
   • “Please stop hogging all the charisma, the rest of us would like a chance.”

[Edit]Romantic Funny Compliments

1. Show your appreciation for your sweetheart with a little humor. Keep your comments sweet and silly to make them feel special…and laugh out loud. Make the compliments personal and heartfelt. Try being a little more adventurous with humorous exaggeration to show them how over-the-top your appreciation for them is.
   
   • “If there’s one thing I like about you, it’s that I like more than just one thing about you.”
   • “From this day forward, all my birthday and Christmas wishes will be about you.”
   • “You’re the ‘nothing’ I’m referring to when people ask me what I’m thinking about.”
   • “You're like when one of my favorite socks disappears in the dryer. I don't know how I lost you, but I really want you back.”
   • “You may not be ridiculously good-looking, but you’re pretty damn close.”
   • “You’re so damn sexy that children below 18 shouldn’t be allowed to look at you without parental supervision.”
   • “I’m so lucky you’re not a drug. If you were, I’d be an addict, and then I’d have to go to rehab.”
   • “You’re astonishingly gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you.”
   • “It sucks that you don’t see what I see in you. Because if you did, you’d just stare and keep smiling.”
   • “I bet cartoon birds help you get ready every morning.”

[Edit]Funny Backhanded Compliments

1. Take on your rival with a funny compliment that’s actually an insult. Be very, very careful paying funny backhanded compliments. They aren’t actually compliments at all and could really hurt someone’s feelings. But when they work, they’re downright hilarious. Try these out with close friends who know you well and share your sense of humor…or your nemesis!
   
   • “Your vibe is so chill people fall asleep around you.”
   • “I don’t believe half the bad things they say about you.”
   • “You’re the first person that comes to mind whenever I need money.”
   • “You'd make a great truck driver.”
   • “You look pretty good for someone who plays table tennis.”
   • “Your new hairstyle makes you look so much younger!”
   • “You could be a part-time model!”
   • “You’re not clumsy. The floor and the walls are just really friendly to you.”
   • “You have a unique set of skills that can somehow turn any situation into an awkward one.”
   • “When you make a mistake, you always fix it...just not right away.”

[Edit]Short Funny Compliments

1. Keep your compliments short, sweet…and hilarious. Master the art of quick wit with a few words. It helps to choose snappy yet memorable compliments that don’t need a lot of setup. Try to focus on wordplay and puns that get to the point – and the laugh – quickly.
   
   • “If you were a fruit, you’d be a FINE-apple.”
   • “Are you a beaver? Because damn!”
   • “In a world full of bagels, you’re a doughnut.”
   • “You’re cooler than a secret handshake.”
   • “No one understands me like you do – not even me.”
   • “I think you’re as awesome as I think I am.”
   • “You’re the only one I let control the music when I drive.”
   • “I love you like waffles love Nutella.”
   • “You make me laugh so hard I pee a little.”
   • “I brag to all my friends about you.”

[Edit]Funny One-Word Compliments

1. Use 1 word to show appreciation and make them laugh. Really take your funny compliment game to the next level by making one word do double duty. Use your expression and tone to make the work more complimentary and funnier. Try using current slang to make the compliment even funnier, especially if you don’t normally say it.
   
   • “DAY-UM!”
   • “Slay”
   • “Ate”
   • “Dope”
   • “Gucci”
   • “DYN-O-MITE!”
   • “Snatched”
   • “Savage”
   • “GOAT!”
   • “Fire”

[Edit]Funny Pop Culture Compliments

1. Add a reference to your compliment for an extra dash of humor. Use current shows, movies, songs, and memes in your compliments to punch up the humor. Stick with current pop culture or the other person’s favorites to make the funny compliment pack the most punch. Just remember, pop culture references get old pretty quickly, so make sure you keep your material fresh.
   
   • “You’re cuter than Baby Yoda with a soup cup.”
   • “You are Kenough.”
   • “This ain’t the moon of Endor, but you Ewok my world.”
   • “Looking at you is like hearing the Beatles for the first time.”
   • “You embody all the best qualities of each Hogwarts house rolled into one.”
   • “You’re the only person I know who could definitely win Survivor.”
   • “If you’re the Incredible Hulk, I’m your pants: No matter what changes you’re going through, we always magically end up together.”
   • “Your extreme mental and physical appeal makes me want to live long and prosper with you.”
   • “You’re cooler than two lone wolves howling at the moon while “Don’t Stop Believin'” plays in the background.”
   • “You’ve got what it takes to survive a zombie apocalypse.”

[Edit]Funniest Compliments

1. Save these compliments for when you want to bring the house down. The most hysterical compliments are more than just funny flattery. Choose your timing wisely so they’re surprising and they reference the current situation. Remember, the funniest compliments come from noticing something about the other person and coming up with something creative and unexpected.
   
   • “Your dance moves are so smooth; butter is taking notes.”
   • “If I were a serial killer, I’d kill you last.”
   • “I don’t care what they say. I’d put your oxygen mask on first.”
   • “I’m so comfortable with you. You’re like human sweatpants.”
   • “You make me laugh so hard I snort like a pig.”
   • “You make my stupid ideas sound smart.”
   • “When I’m upset, you’re the first person I want to talk to…which sucks for you, but you take it like a champ!”
   • “You’re just my kind of weird.”
   • “Thank you for not thinking I’m weird. I mean, we both know I’m weird, but you accept it, and that makes me happy.”
   • “Being friends with you is like peeing my pants: warm, a relief and something the whole world will eventually see.”

[Edit]How to Give Funny Compliments

1. Make the compliment sincere and personal. The key to paying any type of compliment is to mean what you say. It’s also important to compliment the person on something more than just surface things like looks. Though it’s perfectly fine to compliment a person’s looks, try to be more unique by complimenting non-physical attributes, like their personality, values, or actions.^[1]
   
   • Add humor to the compliment, not the other way around. When you pay a funny compliment, the compliment is always the most important part.
   • Make the person feel genuinely appreciated and valued with a sincere compliment. Then, treat the humor as icing on the cake.
2. Try using the “Rule of 3” to be funny and complimentary. In comedy, the “Rule of 3” says to pair 2 ideas that go together to set up the joke. Then, use a third idea to break the pattern in a surprising – and funny – way. This method is easy to remember and works whether you’re writing or telling someone how much you admire them.^[2]
   
   • For example, say something like, “You’re handsome, witty, and tall enough to reach the top shelf at a grocery store.
   • When you use the “Rule of 3,” don’t get too flowery with your compliments. This method works best when you keep things short and snappy.
3. Practice by giving more compliments and injecting them with humor. When it comes to comedy and compliments, practicing is the best way to get better and develop your skills. If you feel like you don’t have a sense of humor, practicing can help you build confidence and develop comedic timing.^[3]
   
   • Start small by challenging yourself to give 5 random compliments every day. Then, inject a little humor with the help of the “Rule of 3.”
   • The best part is that even if your jokes don’t hit, you’ll still be making the other person feel good with a genuine compliment or two.

[Edit]References

1. ↑ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-sincere-compliments-can-help-you-connect-with-others-0222175
2. ↑ https://www.writersdigest.com/write-better-fiction/how-to-mix-humor-into-your-writing
3. ↑ https://ciib.org/blog/how-to-be-funny/

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How to Enjoy Your Early Teen Years

The early teen years mark the start of high school, adolescence, and growing up. Oftentimes, young teenagers may be unsure of how to live their early teens happily and well. These are your last years before you start preparing for college and adulthood. Here are some ways to live out your years from 13-15 well.

[Edit]Steps

[Edit]Staying Healthy

1. Get enough sleep. In your middle school and high school years, your sleep will decrease, usually due to more assignments. It is still crucial to get enough sleep in order to perform well in school. Your body uses sleep as a time to repair itself and for rest. ^[1] Don't stay up too late (after midnight) regularly.
   
   • Teenagers 13-18 years old need 8-10 hours of sleep. ^[2]
   • If you sleep well, you will also avoid being late to school.
2. Eat healthy. If you go to the grocery store with your parents, check out what foods are healthy there. You'll be more independent soon, so you'll need to get your own food. Go to the store and choose healthy fruits and vegetables. If you're buying packaged food, check the nutrition facts on the backside to see if it has a lot of added sugars, sodium, or trans fats.
   
   • Eat a balanced diet consisting of vegetables, fruits, protein, grains, and dairy every day.
   • You can add in an unhealthy snack from time to time, but don't make it a daily treat.
3. Exercise. Exercise every day and maintain a routine. If you have gym class on some days, you won't need to exercise additionally. Find fun ways to exercise if it is boring for you. Dancing, playing a sport, jump roping, and playing outdoor games are great ways to exercise while enjoying the experience. Exercise for the health benefits and the experience.
   
   • Even going on a long walk to the mall with friends counts as exercise. As long as your heart rate increases and you're exerting yourself, you're exercising!
4. Stay mentally healthy. The teen years are a rocky road for many, as you are discovering yourself and moving on from being a kid. Teens deal with all sorts of pressures and stresses in their school life and personal life. So, it is important that you take care of your mental health as well as your physical health.^[3]
   
   • Carve out time in your schedule to relax. Even if it's just 30 minutes before bedtime, you should have enough time to do things you enjoy on the weekdays. Having barely any time left when you get home can be stressful, since you're not engaging with your hobbies or stress-relieving activities.
   • Talk to someone if you are struggling. Whether that's a parent, sibling, friend, or teacher, you should have a source of support when you're struggling.
5. Go to a doctor if you haven't started puberty and you are 15-16. Yes, there are many late bloomers out there who start puberty in high school. Being a late bloomer is normal. Females can start puberty at ages 8-14, and males at 9-15 years old. But, if you haven't started puberty at 15, you should go see a doctor. Not starting puberty at 15-16 years old could indicate a hormonal issue. ^[4]
   
   • Additionally, if you have any issues with your period (irregularities after 1-2 years of regular cycles, extremely painful periods, periods that last for more than a week), see an OB-GYN. ^[5]
6. Seek a mental health expert if you show signs of a mental health issue. During the teenage years, it is common to experience some mental health issues. If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, consider talking to a school counselor or a therapist.^[6]
   
   • Depression: This is indicated by a low mood. The affected person has feelings of sadness, emptiness, or hopelessness. They lose interest in activities they used to like. They may have mood swings and get emotional over small things that didn't bother them before. ^[7] Some teens may harm themselves or consider taking their own life. If you feel this way, please call a mental health hotline or dial 988 in the U.S.
   • Eating disorder: This is indicated by an obsession over their appearance. Teens often obsessively check their weight to see if they gained any. They may refuse to eat much or eat in secret. Some try to lose the calories they gained by vomiting or taking laxatives. Others excessively exercise, wearing themselves out. The affected person may feel ashamed of themselves and have low self-esteem. ^[8]
   • Anxiety disorder: This is indicated by constant anxiety. Teens may feel anxious every day. They may also get worried over little things that didn't concern them before. You can't function normally in certain situations. Some people get panic attacks. They may avoid the event altogether to prevent themselves from feeling anxious. ^[9]
   • Addiction: This is indicated by constant thinking about the subject. The person constantly thinks about the subject. They may skip mandatory or important events to get it. They may go through physical and emotional withdrawal symptoms if they are unable to get it. ^[10]

[Edit]School Life

1. Don't stress out too much about high school if you are in your last year of middle school. Yes, you are growing up and thus, have more responsibilities. But, it's nearly the same; it's just that people are more mature in high school. Additionally, don't believe the high school stereotypes portrayed in pop culture. No, not everyone dates in high school. Fights don't break out all the time, and people don't know what's going on everywhere all the time (especially if it's a large school).
   
   • It's helpful to talk to an older adult, like an older friend, sibling, or parent about their high school experience to feel reassured.
2. Set your study habits. You should already be in the habit of studying. If you haven't yet, set up a study schedule. Set up a table with the days Monday to Friday (or Sunday to Saturday), and write down what subjects you have every day for that week. You can do this with a planner or a calendar too. Then, write down important tests coming up, and how many minutes you'll study for for each subject.
   
   • If you don't set up your study habits now, you may be prone to procrastination and inefficient study habits in your late high school years, which isn't beneficial to boosting your grades. Bad habits get more difficult to break the longer you keep them.
3. Be on time to your classes. You don't want to have multiple tardies in your school attendance record, as these will be shown when you apply to colleges. Colleges aren't likely to accept someone who is late constantly. Plus, you are showing respect to the class you are attending, as well as the teacher.
   
   • It's best to do this early on. If you are late in 9th and 10th grade, your teachers may comment on your tardiness to future teachers that may teach you in your later years, which gives them a bad image of you.
4. Make some friends. If you're in your last year of middle school, you may be sad to leave your friends behind. However, remember that high school is another new beginning; you get to leave frenemies, bullies, and your past behind. Plus, you can contact your best friends from middle school with technology. You don't have to forget about them. In your freshman year, try making friends with other freshmen, as well as maintain some of your old friends.^[11]
   
   • During high school orientation, talk to some people sitting next to you. Some subjects to talk about include which middle schools you went to, hobbies, electives you took, excitement about high school, world events, pop culture events, etc.

[Edit]Personal Life

1. Find what you enjoy. You are constantly changing and evolving, so your interests will change. Your interests at 5 years old will be different from when you are 10, and when you are 15. You don't have to stick with something you don't like anymore, even if you've done it for years. So, if you're tired of taking piano, try quitting piano and taking up something else.
   
   • Your parents may not agree. Try convincing them that the benefits of taking a class that you like is better for your happiness. Additionally, you want to try something new. You may be taking this class to learn something useful for your potential career too.
2. Don't spend all of your free time on the internet. As of 2024, the average person spends around 7 hours on their screens!^[12] Except for computer time during class or for homework, you should limit your time on the internet. Think about it; what memories will you have if you scroll and watch videos for hours every day? You won't have many interesting memories of your teenage years in the future. Doing the same thing for hours is pretty boring. Also, you are wasting a lot of time.
   
   • Instead, use this time for mostly engaging in hobbies, exercising, or relaxing offline.
   • You can also spend time with family and hang out regularly with them in a common living space, such as a living room.
3. Spend time with your family. Because you are a teenager, you may cringe at the thought of having board game night with your family every Friday. However, activities like this promote bonding with your family, and it makes your relationship better. You may learn conflict resolution and what beliefs your parents have, as well as remove assumptions. Of course, if your relationship with your parents is toxic, then you can distance yourself from them.
   
   • Some ways to spend time with your family includes having a weekly game night/movie night, riding bikes, hiking, karaoke night, etc. ^[13]
4. Calm down if you are angry with your parents. Sometimes, your parents may annoy you, which causes you to get furious with them. They may treat you like a kid when you want to grow more independent. ^[14] Realize that yelling, screaming, and arguing is not effective communication, and arguing will drive a wedge into you and your parents' relationship.^[15] You may regret being estranged from your parents when you are an adult. Your parents may not understand what they did to make you unhappy. Additionally, some parents may be clingy because they are apprehensive about you growing up. If you sit down and explain how you are feeling and why you are feeling this way to your parents, you may find a way to solve the problem.
   
   • Use "I" language when explaining your emotions. Find a way to compromise if your parents have strong feelings for something.
   • Sometimes, you may have to give into your parents. Your parents may be doing what is best for you. You may have to wait until you are an adult to get a piercing, and that's ok. It's not the end of the world, and you can wait a few months and check again to see if they will allow you.
5. Set realistic expectations when dating. Many people date in their teen years. If you want to date as a teenager, think about how you view relationships. Understand that having a relationship is a commitment, and you will get into arguments with your significant other at one point. Every day won't be a beautiful fairytale. You will need to be mature enough and learn how to handle conflicts, as well as talk about difficult subjects sometimes.
   
   • Don't date someone solely because of their looks. Most people develop crushes based on physical appearance, but you shouldn't be intentionally dating people because they look good.
   • Know that you have your rights. You can always say no if you are uncomfortable with something.
   • Talk thoroughly about whether or not you are ready to have sex. Both people need to be consenting for this to occur.
   • Stay safe if you are dating on the internet. Don't reveal your personal information to someone you are dating online unless you have seen their face.
6. Don't let social media influence you. Social media is a large space for users to communicate and post what is happening in their daily life. Social media can increase your connections, especially if you and your friends communicate with it. But it can isolate you if you overuse it. Scrolling for hours on social media is unproductive, and you may develop an addiction to it. It may also expose you to unrealistic standards and cyberbullying, which could lead to self-esteem issues, anxiety, or depression. ^{[16] [17]}
   
   • Hang out with your friends in school and outside of school. Go to their house to hang out and have a sleepover if you've gotten to know them better. Invite them to your birthday party, or just chat after class.
   • When you have free time outside of school, try doing other activities offline. Depending on social media for boredom isn't healthy. Having healthy boredom that requires you to do something creative (instead of giving your brain easy dopamine by scrolling) is better. Actually take the time to find something you enjoy.
7. Try finding a job. Teens can't be employed into the formal workforce yet, but they can work part-time shifts. Look around your neighborhood to see if anyone needs help, or think of a business idea. Doing this shows that you are responsible, and you are actually thinking about earning a decent amount of money for yourself. Some jobs that teens can do include: ^[18]
   
   • Babysitting young children
   • Taking care of pets
   • Mowing lawns
   • Tutor
   • Dog walker

[Edit]Discovering Yourself

1. Find a good older influence. Whether that's an older sibling or a junior you met in high school, find a good influence. It could even be someone famous and with truly good qualities you can look up to. ^[19] If you decide to have a famous person as a role model, you should find someone near you that you can actually talk to about any concerns. These mentors can help you if you have any questions about high school. They may be able to help you with homework if they took a class you shared. They can help you throughout your teenage years and possibly help discover yourself.
   
   • Avoid bad influences. The teenage years often determine part of your habits and your personality in your adult years, so be careful. If your friend encourages you to vandalize, smoke, do drugs, bully others, get into fights, then stay away from them.
2. Stop trying to fit in a mold. We all experience surface pressure and peer pressure from time to time. You might be scared that doing something different may make you the target of bullying. Friends you have may have taught you to cringe at someone liking an underrated hobby (e.g. knitting). If you truly like it, you don't have to follow what others say. Break the surface pressure by freely expressing what you believe. You can stand up for what you believe in because you have a voice. You may be part of the minority, but that's not a bad thing. It's great to try something new too; if there's a new course offered in school, you may be one of the first ones to try it out. Maybe it's an interesting class you want to take again, or maybe it's not the right fit for you.
   
   • The teenage years are hotspots for intense peer pressure, since everyone is self-conscious and/or judging each other. ^[20] However, you don't have to be like this. Be yourself; it makes you happier in the long-term, and you may share opinions that help people.
3. Express yourself. High school is the last frontier before you become an adult, so enjoy it while you can. High school is very stressful for many people, because of the pressures of school, applying to college, and becoming an adult. But a way to enjoy it is to express yourself. In adulthood, you may not have the freedom of expressing yourself in the workforce due to high standards and expectations of being professional. Middle school and high school are good times to figure out your fashion sense, what music you like, what friends you look for, etc.
   
   • Even if your school requires uniforms, you can still express yourself.
   • Don't be forced into liking a certain type of style. Discover what you like on your own. Some fashion styles include the preppy, goth, emo, skater, punk, scene, VSCO, and fashionista styles. You also don't have to fit into one category; you can use accessories from multiple styles of fashion.
   • Find out what artists you like listening to. You don't have to listen to pop that's overplayed on the radio. You may find out cooler underrated artists. Or, you may find musicians from earlier decades, like the 2000s, 90s, 80s, and 70s that you enjoy a lot.
4. Avoid peer pressure. Peer pressure can be helpful sometimes. If your peers encourage you to study well in order to attend a good college, that's good pressure. They are encouraging you to change your bad habits to good ones. But bad pressure is something that you shouldn't give into. If someone is forcing you to do things that are dangerous, wrong, or unwanted, don't give in.
   
   • You can make up an excuse, but keep in mind that this won't work all the time. You can honestly say to them, "I'm not interested in (activity)" or "My parents don't allow me to do (activity)".
5. Remember your priorities in high school. Because of peer pressure, you may be tempted to adopt a party and carefree lifestyle, going to parties and hanging out at people's houses until late at night. But you shouldn't do this. High school is an influential time for teenagers, and it shapes who you are going to be in your adulthood. You may adopt bad habits and keep them through adulthood, making you struggle through your working years.
   
   • You don't need to go to every party to have a social life. You can make friends that aren't party animals.
   • You don't need to become popular in high school. Peaking in high school in terms of social life can be detrimental to your future, especially if you used bad ways to become on top of the social ladder. Colleges will see what you did in high school, and they won't accept you if your reputation was bad.
   • In stricter schools, this probably won't happen. But be very cautious when dating. Additionally, wait until you are mature enough to get sexually active. Having sex is a very serious thing, and you should wait until you are emotionally ready and mature enough to do so.
6. Embrace change. The early teen years are often a large transition for people. You graduate middle school, go through puberty, enter high school, and immediately need to start thinking about your future. Even two years, from 13 to 15, may be a large change for you. It is normal for people to change. People change all the time, and everyone is always learning from until they die. No matter how old you are, you will still be different than what you were in the past.
   
   • If you still have hobbies that are traditionally reserved for younger people, you can still follow them! As long as it doesn't harm anyone else or disrupt your own life, you can do it!
   • If you're sad about growing up, reframe your thinking in a positive way. Growing up means you can become financially independent. Plus, you may get a job you really like. You may learn new skills. Getting a job and being happy during these times may be difficult, but you will make it through.

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• Keep a balance. Do things in moderation; usually, too little or too much of a thing is bad.

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1. ↑ https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2021/04/good-sleep-good-health
2. ↑ https://www.cdc.gov/healthyschools/features/students-sleep.htm#:~:text=How%20much%20sleep%20someone%20needs,10%20hours%20per%2024%20hours.
3. ↑ [v161656_b01]. 24 February 2022.
4. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/delayed-puberty.html
5. ↑ https://www.webmd.com/women/features/period-problems-what-they-mean-when-to-see-doctor
6. ↑ [v161656_b01]. 24 February 2022.
7. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/teen-depression/symptoms-causes/syc-20350985
8. ↑ https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/understanding-eating-disorders-teens
9. ↑ https://www.webmd.com/teens/anxiety-and-teens
10. ↑ https://www.verywellhealth.com/teenage-drug-addiction-5213002
11. ↑ [v161656_b01]. 24 February 2022.
12. ↑ https://explodingtopics.com/blog/screen-time-stats
13. ↑ https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-spend-quality-time-with-your-teen-2610997
14. ↑ https://www.verywellfamily.com/13-year-old-developmental-milestones-2609025
15. ↑ [v161656_b01]. 24 February 2022.
16. ↑ https://www.verywellfamily.com/15-year-old-developmental-milestones-2609027
17. ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/tween-and-teen-health/in-depth/teens-and-social-media-use/art-20474437
18. ↑ https://www.verywellfamily.com/14-year-old-developmental-milestones-2609026
19. ↑ https://helpfulprofessor.com/role-model-examples/
20. ↑ https://www.yos.org/newsroom/news/teenage-years-10-struggles-only-teenager-understands

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How to Tell if Someone Is Your Friend

Friends make life more rich and satisfying, that’s for sure. But sometimes it can be hard to tell when you've crossed the line from "acquaintance" to "friend" with another person. Learn to recognize who's a friend in your life by searching for some key elements. Look for qualities such as being loyal and dependable, spending time with you, always wanting to hang out with you and showing that they care about you. Sometimes, people act as if they are your friend, but don't always act like it. It can make you feel left out and not wanted.

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[Edit]Evaluating Their Loyalty and Dependability

1. Reflect on how you treat one another. Friends are typically loyal to one another, meaning that you shouldn’t reflect back to countless occasions when they have betrayed you, and vice versa. It’s hard for two people to be friends and not ever let one another down. But, betrayals shouldn’t be standard in the relationship.^[1]
   
   • If this person never talks about you behind your back, spreads rumors about you, or disappoints you repeatedly in other ways, they probably are your friend.^[2]
   • A good friend should value you as a person, not view your friendship as a series of transactions.^[3]
2. Determine if they keep your secrets. Friends are infamous for taking secrets to the grave. If you shared information that you did not want known by the general public, your friend keeps their lips sealed.^[4]
   
3. See if they have your back during hard times. One of the positives about going through a breakup, losing a loved one, or having a setback in life is that you can count on your friends to be there. This person shouldn’t only be around during the good times, if they are truly your friend.^[5]
   
   • Think about a time when you were having a really hard time in your life. Was this person there for you?
   • A true friend should be with you through the good, bad, and ugly. They should offer to help you however they can, and bring you back from the darkness into the light again. A true friend would never think of leaving you during a difficult time in your life.
   • A fake friend, or someone who you are not close to, will probably only stick around when things are going well. They might even think or say that your problems are a burden to them. That's the mark of a fake friend.
4. See if they are happy when you achieve your goals. A true friend will not be jealous when you share any achievement or success in your life. They will celebrate your accomplishments instead trying to tear you down. To decide if this is an authentic friendship or not, pay attention to see if your friend sticks around while you reach new goals and high points in your life.
   
5. Notice if they prioritize your friendship. If you know that you can count on this person at the drop of a dime, they probably are your friend. Good friends prioritize their pals over other relationships and situations, especially when they know you need them.^[6]
   
   • For example, even if your friend is away on vacation, they’ll still make time to call back and check in on you when you’re sick.

[Edit]Reflecting on Your Time Together

1. Ask if they make time for you, even when they are busy. While people can remain friends without seeing one another for a long time, friendships are sustained with quality time together. Even if your friend is busy with school, work, or other responsibilities, they should still make time to call, text, or hang out.^[7]
   
   • This goes both ways. If you call someone your “friend” but never seem to have time for them, you may need to reassess how important they are to you.
2. Check if they get jealous of other friendships. A true friend won't be jealous or possessive - they should feel confident enough in your friendship that they don't have to resort to any sort of manipulative control. They realize that you do not have to be in their company 24/7 in order to validate the friendship. If your friend is trying to prevent you from being friends with other people, they might not be a true friend.
   
3. Make sure you enjoy being together. This probably goes without saying, but friends have fun together. No matter if you are bored at home watching TV or painting the town red, it’s all the more tolerable when you’re together.^[8]
   
   • As a result of enjoying spending time together, you and your friend probably have a host of memories you’ve made together.
4. Decide if they help make you a better person. Some people may pretend to be your friend, but they’d much rather see you fail or get into trouble. Incidents happen, of course. But, for the most part, this person should be a good influence on you. They motivate you to become a better person.^[9]
   
   • For example, your friend might push you to finish school, suggest that you mend fences with your estranged relatives, and inspire you to give back to others.
5. Reflect on how you feel when they're around. A true friend should make you feel happier and more alive when you're around them, instead of drained or stressed out. A day spent with your friend should leave you feeling rejuvenated, vibrant, and excited about life. They should be lifting you up, not tearing you down.
   
   • Try to really think about what you're hoping to get from your relationship. Does this friendship look and feel the way you'd like to?^[10]
6. Notice that you have deeper conversations with this person. If a friend asks “How’s it going?” you’re not pressured to respond with “fine.” Instead, you’ll likely go right into how your mom is stressing you out or how your girlfriend is acting differently.^[11]
   
   • This element of communication between close contacts is often referred to as self-disclosure. You are more likely to disclose intimate details about yourself with a friend than you are with a total stranger or casual acquaintance.
7. Question if they really know you and still accept you. Friends allow you to be who you are with no restrictions. If someone is your friend, you have the luxury of showing them your true self—a self that many others may not fully know—but you can still count on this person to love and accept you anyway.^[12]
   
   • Friends don’t have to pretend with one another like many people do in casual relationships.
   • A true friend shouldn't want to change who you are. They will accept and embrace everything about you, even your awkward and silly parts. This does not mean they have to agree with everything you do or say, but they should not bash you or try to change you.

[Edit]Noticing How They Show Concern

1. Determine if they listen. Friends won’t make it all about them in communication. In addition to knowing when to share, they also know when and how to listen. Good listening skills in a friend are important because you need to feel heard and understood by the people you care about.^[13]
   
   • Pay attention in your next conversation. Does your friend take the time to hear your message before responding?
   • Even if your friend isn't the best listener, it should be clear that they are trying to hear you out and not just talking about themselves.
2. Question if they respect your boundaries. Healthy relationships of any kind require boundaries—friendships are no exception. A good friend should be willing to acknowledge and respect those boundaries. At the same time, they shouldn’t feel threatened by them.
   
   • For example, if you tell a friend that you don’t feel comfortable with them reading your diary or journal, they should respect your wish.
3. Figure out if they support you. A friend is someone who shows their affection for you in many ways, one of which is in their support for you and your ideas, interests, and goals. This person should be willing to clap for you when you are succeeding and help nurse your wounds when you are hurt.^[14]
   
4. Notice if they are forgiving. Everyone makes mistakes, and your friend should be willing to accept that you’re no different. When you mess up and hurt their feelings, you might apologize and beg for their forgiveness. A good friend will gratefully accept your apology and offer you forgiveness. They won’t hold your misdeed over your head or use it to manipulate you.^[15]
   
   • For example, if you forgot to call a friend back, they shouldn't avoid you for several days. They should recognize that it was a simple mistake and not give you a hard time about it.
5. Listen for honest feedback. The thing that separates a friend from the general population is their investment in you as a person. They care about you, which means they are honest with you, even if what they have to say hurts.^[16]
   
   • A friend should offer constructive feedback if you’re not doing what you need to be doing. For example, they may say, “You need to get up and study for your math test. Your grade is already low…Come on. I’ll help you.”
   • A true friend won't let you feel left out and always include you, and not replace you for someone else, e.g. running of with someone else and leaving you all alone.

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[Edit]Quick Summary

1. ↑ https://www.liveabout.com/how-do-you-know-when-to-call-someone-a-friend-1385633
2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201503/the-13-essential-traits-good-friends
3. ↑ [v161768_b01]. 9 April 2021.
4. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40140/signs-someone-isnt-really-your-friend/
5. ↑ https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/08/16/when-friends-disappear-during-a-health-crisis/
6. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/04/qualities-of-real-friends_n_5709821.html
7. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/adrienne-partridge-/10-characteristics-of-friendships-that-keep_b_6337526.html
8. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/lifetime-connections/201503/the-13-essential-traits-good-friends
9. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/04/qualities-of-real-friends_n_5709821.html
10. ↑ [v161768_b01]. 9 April 2021.
11. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/give-and-take/201407/do-you-know-who-your-real-friends-are
12. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40140/signs-someone-isnt-really-your-friend/
13. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40140/signs-someone-isnt-really-your-friend/
14. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/adrienne-partridge-/10-characteristics-of-friendships-that-keep_b_6337526.html
15. ↑ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/04/qualities-of-real-friends_n_5709821.html
16. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/give-and-take/201407/do-you-know-who-your-real-friends-are

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